snail gel sounds icky but if it works, I think I will have to get some
The v&a exhibition sounds fascinating, glad you had a good day out.
I might be mad but my son is trying to persuade me to go to the cat rescue centre tomorrow and re home a cat he spotted there.
Any of you ladies here have any thoughts?
Hi lovely ladies,
Well I can hardly believe this myself, but the Snail Gel cream I got two days ago is already making a difference and the redness around my scar is fading. Either that or it's a coincidence of timing but I think it is actually the cream making a difference. Hurrah! So now I just need a lotion or potion that will make me 5 inches taller, 10lbs lighter and remove all wrinkles, anyone got any recommendations?
Been to the Shoes: Pleasure and Pain exhibition at the V&A today and it was fantastic, really enjoyed it. Looking at the teeny tiny shoes for Japanese bound feet made me gag & retch though, such a barbaric tradition and I can't understand why anyone would think that having feet the size of a toddlers would be sexy. Ewww.
Hope you're all having a good day. Rose, how was your pamper day and first day back as a full timer?
Right Rose will check it out and attempt it if dog arrives. thanks for that
I saw Gracie and thought maybe - then again keep seeing other names as well - doesn't have to be a real name
Saying night- hope you all sleep well
Quite like Cassie, don't think she's a Honey
If I could i'd post a picture
Will make a list of suggested names and try and make some sense of them when we really have her so keep the names coming.
Daughter text me to say she's found her wedding shoes - very pretty - no dress, but will have shoes!
Wedding next July (2016)
Because of all my scar problems I haven't begun putting any cream/bio oil on yet
Thanks for advice about the still red scar ladies, sounds as if it's normal then although I think I probably need to cream it a bit more often. I've bought some Snail Gel stuff from Holland & Barratt this afternoon as someone here, KittKat I think, recommended.
Francine I'm so sorry your nearest and dearest aren't really getting how life is for you at the moment. Someone on here said, and I agree, that it is the bits where you are being sliced & diced/chemo'ed that people sympathise over and they think that you are OK the rest of the time whereas we all know that it is the hanging around waiting and worrying inbetween that takes such a heavy toll on the emotions. You've plenty of friends here though, whether you like it (us ) or not!
Rose I hope your day out with your daughter is fun, can't be bad if some retail therapy is involved and you deserve a treat after all the work nonsense you've had to put up with.
Hi Sharon- I still need to cream up twice a day or my scar gets sore. Also still cant lie on the operated side, but it's easing.
Tomorrow my daughter will be taking me out for the day for some spoiling and retail therapy, then next week I'm going to try fulltime hours. Agh, not sure that will work!
Still waiting for inspiration on the doggy name, Beryl
I'd quite like non-human name but whatever I come up with gets the frown treatment from OH and son. Like finding the dog, we all agreed on her straight away, I hope the name will come but am stumped at present.
Have read that if a dog had a 2 syllable name then new name needs to be same
All ideas will be considered but must have feminine leanings
My boob is sore mostly, and the scar where it didn't heal is horrendous and very red. It is also raised up, again scar tissue I tthink, and rubs on my bra if I do garden etc.
Am unsure when the GP takes over and the BCN isn't there!
Francine PLEASE don't disappear on us, we all need to hear each others fears and moans just to know we are not alone with our own worries and we all get them. I'll be the inaugural whinger today - the scar on my boob is still sensitive and red whereas the one from the axillary node removal has all but disappeared. Is this normal? I'm four months post-surgery now and I have been massaging the scar with cream reasonably regularly so I don't understand why it is still red. Aaarrgh! Anyone else got this or am I just a manky mess?
Beryl I'm a fan of non-human names for animals (my fluffy boys are/were Smidgin and Dollop) so I'd probably vote for Cinder (as in the toffee) or Jasper.
Having a slightly low day today as I'm not sleeping very well. Think it is the background worry of having to find a job and wondering if I'll be able to cope. Everyone keeps telling me that I'll need to take it easy for a while whatever job I find but it's hard to see how I'll be able to do that as the sort of jobs I'm normally considered for are pretty full on and I just don't think I'm up to it any more. But then the problem is how to find a job that is a bit less full on as most places assume I won't be prepared to stick at something at a lower level (and I'm not convinced that more junior jobs are any easier anyway, they just bring a different kind of pressure I think). Sigh. I suppose the fundamental problem is that I'm a bit frightened of attempting something and failing. Wish I could win the lottery and not have to work again.
Sorry for the moaning, just one of those days
Love to all
Francine- please don't drop out of sight, thinking you have to keep your troubles to yourself. We're all here for you whatever, and just cos, for most of us, active treatment is over does not mean we are insensitive to whatever is happening with you. Please don't feel we need to be protected, and left to wallow in our happy little bubbles. We're in this together, and if you need to rant or moan, then go ahead.
Love, Rose xx
I came on to launch the virtual naming competition for new dog
She comes with the name Susie but I would like her to have one of her own.
Name has to have 2 syllables and not sound rude when shouted.
She is white with gold patches and gold pricked up ears, fluffy white tail, about size of a small cocker spaniel but is classed as collie-type.
We have a couple of cats as well, (one inherited from my Mum, one was daughters - she left home and left cat!) so New dog has to have a cat check to ensure they will be OK together.
All suggestions welcome
Francine - this forum and these friends are all about supporting each other no matter what, negative or positive - I feel you would need our support more if things are not going too well.
Where else can you upload about the most personal stuff and know there will always be a kind and caring 'ear' to listen.
I went off this forum for a while, but found I needed to chat about my journey so came back.
Remember we are here and willl listen - maybe make you laugh as well
Another big first for me today - I DROVE THE CAR
Because of seat belts and the boob healing problems haven't been able to since November. Oh boy it felt good even if I did have OH sitting beside me saying 'Careful; every time I went round a bend (country lanes)
Suddenly feeling I've finally turned the corner (not round the bend!)
My quiet day reading in the garden morphed into a day spent painting the garden fences so I'm an achy mess now and praying that it doesn't rain - if it does and washes away all my hard work I'll do a Violet Elizabeth and scweam and scweam
How are you doing today Francine, still hanging in there I hope?
Now there's a coincidencence Francine, the book I've just started is called The Bees by Laline Paull and it's wonderful, it won the Baileys Women's fiction prize this year. Probably make you pleased to have bees in the roof
Ooh, lovely to see you all here, more the merrier so very glad you've joined us too Sheena
Aww Beryl, nothing like a little furry friend to lift your spirits is there; I'm excited for you! I have a cat (had two but one died this time last year) and I find it is pretty much impossible to be low when a little bundle of fur hurls itself at you in adoration day after day. Well, I say that, but actually my kitkat, who is called Dollop, is the size and weight of a pit pony and extremely grumpy now that he is old and arthritic so he spends most of his time howling at me in outrage because I haven't cuddled him enough or given him his favourite biscuits or something equally evil. Still love him more than life though
So, ruined doorframe repainted today and kitchen reassembled so that's pretty much all of the decorating done which gives me a good excuse to have a day off tomorrow and sit in the sun with a good book. Bliss Hope your days are good too
Now for my good news
The week I had THE diagnosis my lovely dog died. Today we have been to the Dog's Trust and subject to some checks, have chosen another dog (not a puppy) Another step to 'normal' and to staving off BC - a walkmate
Been a bit down last week or so, am hoping will dog will help be get on an up again, mind you I won't have her for 2 weeks. No name yet.
Hope all are not having too many aches and pains - hugs
I've still to start radiotherapy hopefully in the next 6weeks or earlier if im lucky
can I join you guys?
So, this is a new thread for the 2015 MARCHING Together posse and anyone else who wants to join in to swap notes and advice as we all try to find our 'new normal' with work, relationships, finances and just life generally.