Now that I have time and the funeral is over and the paperwork done I woud just like to thank everyine for your messages to me. It is of comfort to me now that I can go back to these posts and actually take them in properly.
I think Mum had a good life but she had been in a nursing home for many years and she was unhappyy with her quality of life. She could no longer enjoy the things she loved to do. She could no longer read or follow a TV programme, not bake a cake or potter in the garden or spend time with her family. Dad has not been great since she died as every day he visited her at the Home unless she had other visitors to give him the afternoon off. He has great gaps in his day now that are not filled with visiting.
But we have completed al the paperwork we can now and there is not more to be done for the moment. His affairs have been dealt with and now his Solicitor is dealing with a few loose ends. But it has made Dad think too about puting his own affairs into order and allowing me to become a power of autorney should he be unable to cope with things in the future. It was difficut speaking to the solicitor because I had to point out that it was possibe that I could go before my dad without dad actually taking this in, perhaps the fact that he is partly deaf is a bonus here.
The letters of support and the kindness of you all has brought a tear or two but I just want to say just how much it means to me to know you all care. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Val
