Mess with your brain is an understatement.
You couldn;t feel mine, it was an incidental find, I'm 42. Nothing fraudlike about it xxx
You definitely will I promise, it does feel a bit like everything just seems to be running ahead of you.
One thing to do is if you feel like you want to, contact your bcn and have a chat with her, I found mine so useful in the early days especially, she made sense of things, explained the information I had been given and answered every question I had no matter how small and silly I thought it was.
AND never forget you have us lot, but are you prepared for that 🙂 🙂
Mess with your brain? It sure as flip does lol I'm not laughing and making light of it at all, just ruefully confirming that that very hardest part about the bc diagnosis is the emotional and psychological rollercoaster you join. At each stage, testing, diagnosis, treatments, after treatment ends...and so on...brings with it some tough hurdles. You'll get there, but keep talking to us here as everyone is currently at different stages and you'll be able to definitely find you aren't alone in how you feel.
Hello Helena, Thankyou for replying I am sure that once things settle down I will feel better i just didn' t realise that things would move along so quickly. x Lenni
Hello Lily, Thankyou for your reply, fingers and everything else crossed that once the shock has worn off I shall be a little bit more optimistic. X Lenni
Welcome to the gang, trouble is it is one place none of us would actually choose to be but you will have the support of a load of lovely lovely ladies on here who will get you through.
I am a little younger than you, 58, but i in the same way had no idea that I had breast cancer, I went to a routine mammogram and it all unfolded after that, I never felt a lump did not feel unwell,so it was a complete shock after two different biospies that it was confirmed as breast cancer.
It does mess with your brain because it is the last thing any of us want to hear but with our support and your wonderful breast care team you will be fine. You are trying to take in a lot of information at the moment but give yourself some breathing space.
Come on here whenever you feel you need to laugh (oh yes we do an awful lot of that ) cry, rant, rave or even just to have a chat, there will always be someone on here to talk to, some of our ladies are on holiday on the other side of the world so they tend to be on in the wee small hours when the rest of us are tucked up.
Sending you a big hug
Sorry to hear that you have had this news, but this is the best place to come for support and comfort. You should not feel like a 'fraud'. The diagnosis is a shock to everyone who receives it and nothing can prepare you for it. The fact that you could not feel any lump is not uncommon - I couldn't feel anything either and mine was detected on a routine mammogram. I felt fine as well, which is also not unusual, so it just goes to illustrate that we can be ill without feeling it. You will find that the waiting in the initial stages is the worst part of all this, but when you have a treatment plan, you will start to feel better about things. Please come here to chat or express your worries and there will always be someone who will advise you and support you through everything. Best of luck xxx Lily
After reading some of the posts in this Forum I feel a bit of a fraud. On Jan 10th I went for my mammogram then was called in to have it repeated they also did a biopsy the same day, I saw a consultant on Feb 3rd who told me I had cancer then had a MRI scan last week and saw the consultant surgeon last Friday. Result being I have pre-op assessment next week and surgery on the 28th. I feel a bit of a fraud because there is no lump to feel and nothing to see externally and apart from the normal aches and pains that most people get in their seventies I feel fine. What I didn't realise was that hearing the diagnosis could mess with my brain so much has anyone else felt like that?