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Need help getting my head around surgery results

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Re: Need help getting my head around surgery results

Glad you're feeling a little bit better, I'm 58 and yep those damn grey hairs will come though but try and look further on and you'll come through just fine.
I know what you mean about on another axis, sometimes feel like I'm not the same person since being diagnosed. Mel66 seems to be in control and I agree that we need to get the wigs sorted, worth a try to see how different styles will look. I'm definitely staying with long hair and gonna go lighter, but Mell66 I'm not going blonde my skin is more olive tone.
Have a great positive weekend
Lynne x
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Re: Need help getting my head around surgery results

Thanks for you comments Lynne and Mel and Nscooby . Feel a bit brighter today but still like my world is now spinning on another axis .at least it will be cooler when's chemo starts so I can wear hats and going to see about eyebrow and eyeliner semi perm tattoos . Have a good weekend Deb xx
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Re: Need help getting my head around surgery results

Hi Debtex,
I was in the same position as you, after first surgery went back to be told no nodes involved (phew) but he didn't get clear margins... At the time it felt like I had been told all over again I had cancer. The second op was totally fine, I was a day case, it's not such a big op and you won't feel the same.
As it happens i had to go on for a third as he still didn't get the margins. Only now is my swelling going down and I'm pretty upset at the sight of my boob...BUT for me the alternate of a masectomy would have been much worse. I plan to have it fixed once I am allowed!
I've declined chemo so the hair thing is fortunately not going to be an issue.
Wish you all th best, take care x
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Re: Need help getting my head around surgery results

Hi Debtex & Lynne

My hair was really long but I had about 6 inches chopped off last friday in readiness for chemo starting 19th August.

 

Like you, my hair has always been part of my identity and something that I have found hard to come to terms with after I was told 10 days ago that I needed chemo. (my tumour went up a grade after MX too). Since I got proactive, chopped a good deal off the length, went for a wig fitting and arranged with my friends to have a wine and head shaving party the day it starts falling out, I feel I am more able to cope with the idea. I think taking some kind of control over the event really helps.

 

I toyed with the idea of the cold cap but since my hair is naturally very dark and I've dyed it a bright copper colour for a number of years, I couldn't cope with having 6 months worth of dark roots which I wouldn't be able to dye. If I dyed it back to my natural colour, it would still be rather washed out looking at the ends without topping up the dye. In both cases the roots would have a pretty fair smattering of grey running through them too. In short, it would look hideous whatever I tried to do with it. I have also heard that the cold cap only works in about 50% of cases and even when it does work, quite a lot can fall out and the hair can get pretty thin. I think I would be more devastated, having gone to those lengths to try and save it, if I still lost it. So I'm resigned... the hair is going and I've chosen a fabulous, long, platinum blonde wig. I've never been blonde before... about the only colour I never dared to try. I took a bunch of friends to the wig fitting session and we were all amazed how great it looked! This could be the start of a whole new 'me'!! I should be able to rock the dumb blonde look perfectly once 'chemo fog' sets in! Smiley Very Happy

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Re: Need help getting my head around surgery results

Hi Lynne thanks for replying . I feel like my long hair is a part of my identity don't you ? It's not just vanity it is just me ! I'm 51 but look younger as I dye my hair so when it grows back I will be grey as well ! I will save a fortune on hair dye tho ! V best wishes for your surgery and a speedy recovery from that stage xx
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Re: Need help getting my head around surgery results

Hi

Sorry to hear about you second op but you are in good hands, I'm having a mastectomy on the 20.08.14 and later having recon.
My worst fear is losing my hair if I need chemo, it is down to my bottom but I'm asking for a cold cap to see if it works. If it doesn't then I'm going to have a couple of wigs and have some fun.
Seems weird worrying about our hair instead of looking after the cancer, your emotions are normal but give CBC a call and have a good old chat.
Best wishes for your next part of this awful process
Lynne x

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Need help getting my head around surgery results

Need some perspective plse . After my snb and wle 2 wks ago which I sailed thru , went back for results today feeling v v nervous . Consultant advised good news as not in lymph nodes / sigh of relief then he went on to say one margin too small therefore need further op to shave off tiny bit more . I don't mind that but I have got small bust so worried how it will look 2nd time around . Finally it was grade 3 not grade 2 so strong chance of chemo now . I know I shud feel happy it's not spread but now it feels like it's going to drag on til at least April next year til treatment complete and I am dreading dreading dreading losing my long mane of hair and having chemo . I guess I am 'lucky ' I just don't feel it just feel like I want to run or drive somewhere very fast and escape ( in my head at least ) !!