Welcome to the BCC discussion forums where I am sure you will get lots of good, honest support from the many informed users of this site.
BCC run each Tuesday evening a special 'Live Chat' service which is just for those people with a secondary diagnosis, the regular users here are a great support to each other and I am sure you will find this service helpful. I have put you the link below for you to have a look at.
I was diagnosed in February 2013 with Secondary Breast Cancer in my right lung with pleural effusion. My primary breast cancer was diagnosed in July 2008. This was a complete shock to me last February as I was looking forward to July 2013 as my five year clear date. I would love to be able to chat with someone who understands what it's like for me to be going through this. I have friends and relatives but I feel that nobody truly understands me. I am having a hard time at the moment and finding things very difficult especially with the pleural effusion as I am having my lung drained quite frequently it was every 5-6 weeks but now it's more like 2-3 weeks now and I am frightened that this means the cancer is getting worse. If you like to chat please contact me. I live between Preston and Southport Area in Lancashire. Gillian x