I got a lot of these comments when I went for my new nipple recon., why are you bothering etc. I agree it is really hurtful as they haven't a clue what it is like, just because you look fine in clothes doesn't mean you are happy with how you see yourself when you look in the mirror. I am going to cancel my tattooing appt that I have next week as the scars haven't healed enough around it (I was allegic to various dressings), and no amount of tattoo will ever cover them up. I may get it done at a later date, if things improve. My bcn gave me some silcone cream to help, but I honestly don't think it has made any difference. At least you know you are not alone with thinking this and it is great that there are others hear to have good moan with and who really understand what you are going through.
K M x
Thank you everyone, your comments have made me feel so much better now. Here's hoping my surgery tomorrow goes well and I will at long last be "finished" (apart from a little tattooing that is)
I have a hunch they really don't know what to say and are actually trying to protect themselves from something they find very difficult and wish would go away......... not much use to you or me tho........
Hi there, just wanted to ask if anyone else has received negative comments about having a reconstruction. I am just coming to the end of a very long & complicated igap+implant+lipofilling reconstrsuction involving about 6 different operations and having what hopefully will be the last surgery tomorrow. While people were supportive at the start I'm now getting comments along the lines of "why are you having more surgery, you'll never get it perfect", "why does it matter anyway, no one sees it", "why should you expect both breasts to be the same, most women have one bigger than the other" and "you should just be grateful you're alive & healthy instead of putting your body through unnecessary surgery". These comments are beginning to really upset me now & making me wish I'd never started on this journey. It has taken 5 years to get to this point, if I had known it was going to take so long I don't think I would have done it. Just so fed up with it all now