So sorry to hear that you have joined the brainy band! I have mets in my spine ribs and liver and brain. I was initially diagnosed with the breast in March and the rest followed in the next couple of months. I had 5 sessions of radio on my brain first followed by chemo. Long story but I landed up with an infection in my scar then couldn't eat at all! After not eating for nearly 6 weeks and not drinking alot either I had to be taken off the chemo as I lost 3 stone in 2 months. Not the right way to go about losing weight but much needed and still more to go! I am now on Letrozole and bone strengthening injections and calcium & vitamin D tablets. Before I was diagnosed I broke a rib leaning over the armchair to stroke the dog but apart from that I have no symptoms from the bones and liver. My legs are still a little wobbly but how much is due to the brain and how much from the severe weekness I had from lack of food and now the Letrazole I don't know! I have lost about 80% of the vision in my right eye because the tumour is pressing on my optic nerve. Since coming off the chemo I feel really really good. I still get tired but can manage to do basic house work and cooking and go out for a short walk every day when it's not raining. We have two options we can sit in a corner feeling sorry for ourselves ( which naturally we are intitled to do every now and then) or we can get on with life and try to enjoy every minute. I am ever optamistic that there is some treatment that will hold things at bay but talk to your family and friends about what you want. AND laugh alot. I know that it sounds odd saying laugh about something like cancer but I find it really helps. Great for excuses for things. Don't fancy doing the house work because you in the middle of a good book, oh dear bit tired today!! I can think of a list of excuses I have used!!! I am really lucky that I have a wonderful family friends and neighbours round me and hope you to have good support. I also have a Macmillan nurse who I can talk to at any time so it might help you if your health team can recommend you for one. Anyway stay positive laugh alot and enjoy your family!! Cancer is a very individual thing what seems to work for one might not work on someone else but there is a magnitude of treatment out there. Read the posts there are some really inspiring stories and alot of support if you want it Vicky.
I used this last time my hair fell out and have just bought some more http://www.yinyangskincare.co.uk/organic_skincare_shop/organic.asp?skincare=Scalp%20Cream. They always seem to suggest E45 cream but I'd rather use something a bit more natural. My forehead looks like I have chronic sunburn! I made myself a load of nice soups and smoothies up for beginning treatment but to be honest all I fancied eating was toast and marmite (probably the steroids). Have put on about half a stone in the past few weeks - always nice before Christmas!
I am so sorry you are in this position, it's just dreadful. I was diagnosed with primary and secondary in lungs in May and honestly wondered how I could function as I was absolutely devastated. I am 44 with a 6 year old and a 2 year old. 6 months on and I feel so much more positive, finished chemo recently and it has been really successful. As a family we are doing lots of lovely things and planning hols etc for next year. I couldn't imagine feeling like this back in May and I am sure it is because you have to put a brave face on and get on with things for your kids. I seem to take more joy from family life than I did before. There are loads of treatments out there and I am sure you will see lots of your little ones birthdays.