Newly diagnosed

[Nicky999]

Hi, This is my first post! I'm in a similar situation with the children (2 and 6), and I'm just being as open with them as I can be..not making too much of a drama but keeping them informed. I chatted to the school teachers too, so that they can help support with extra reading etc...the things you will struggle with as you have so much else to worry about! I found a lump in my Rt breast in April and have chosen to have a mastectomy as it was Triple Negative (TNBC) and Grade 3. I had the o two weeks ago and feel great post surgery but petrified of the Chemo and it's impact on the kids. i just want to do everything I can to fight this.
Day to day...some days I go a few hours forgetting this is happening and then it's like waking up in the morning and feeling the reality but stay away from google and stick to forums like this. Take each step at a time and put thought into treatment options. My gp gave me some sleeping tablets to get me through the initial bit as I was lying awake feeling anxious and they did help.
Keep in touch, Nicky xx

[Eian01]

Hi Kelly, one thing to remember is stress will not take you anywhere but only add misery. Its difficult initially with the chemo and childern but stay strong. Hope things will be better in the days to come

[Laww3]

Hi kellybird .. I'm the same boat I am 37 years old with with a 1,3 and 4 year old. Grade 2 hopefully having a op on the 3rd may not sure which one yet, I have appointment on wednesday to talk about the plan they have decided for me. Its so hard with the children trying to act as if nothing is wrong and carry on as normal. I am just trying to stay as calm as possible around them. I figure its going to be even harder when I have had the op and started treatment. I wish I had the answers for you, but we are all here for each other and that helps me a lot I hope it does you to xx

[Melia]

Skye im also terrified of the chemo that would be my very worst outcome. I've been praying loads to at least let me not need that.. and I'm not even religious, but have suddenly turned that way! X

[Melia]

Hi Kelly I feel exactly the same way, I feel like I'm in a permanent daze every day down days I cry loads others not at all. Im avoiding going out much as dread bumping into friends who dont know and having to tell them. I feel liie i sit in silence most of the time as dont want to talk about it, yet have nothing else on my mind but that. I have 2 kids 18months and 5 and i think im pretty much looking at a mastectomy either the 18th or 2rd of April. I'm so worried about the kids and how much it's going to kill me not being able to do anything for them. Especially my 1 year old as she won't understand why I can't pick her up etc.. I wish I could give u some advise but looking for some myself too. But at least your not the only one feeling like this which can sometimes make u feel a bit better xx

[Skye1974]

Hi Kelly, I'm a bit older than you at 43, but have four children aged 7,12,20 and 24 so I know where you're coming from! Last Monday I had a triple assessment and they told me I had breast cancer before I've even got the biopsy results, I've got an appointment on Thursday to get full results and I'm terrified! The first few days were the worst, I've been tearful and emotional, I'm terrified of needing chemo and losing my long hair!! I've lost my appetite and keep waking up at 4 am, the waiting for results has to be the worst bit. The girls on this forum are great, they've given me some good advice and I've calmed down a bit, ready to take on whatever is coming. I'm due to have a lumpectomy too but not sure of the treatment afterwards yet. Keep us all posted, hope you're feeling better x

[ann-m]

Hi Kelly,

So sorry to see you find yourself here. The early days of diagnosis are so stressful as it's such a shock, so what you're feeling is quite normal. 

Things do settle down when you get your treatment plan & start treatment to get the b*****r dealt with. 

Do use this site for information & support & there is specific info on supporting children through this. 

Also, go along to the 'newly diagnosed' thread if you haven't already, as it is busier & there are others there going through what you are, as well as those of us further down the road. 

We've all gone through this stage, when it feels so all consuming, it can help to take it all a stage at a time & try not to think beyond the next appointment. 

Sending hugs

ann x

[Kellybird]

I have recently been diagnosed grade 2 breast cancer very small lump! Age just 33 Small amount in lymph nodes! All other tests clear! Have my lumpectomy on the 21st where they will also take the nodes! Then possibly just radiation!
I am completely petrified! I have 4 children 8ys 3yrs and twins of 7! How does everyone deal with day to day things as I'm finding it so hard! The past 4 weeks of my life have been like a living hell!! Can't sleep, eat or function at all nornally! Advise please x