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Hello everyone,

i'm almost back to normal after the op now (WLE & SNB), woke up a couple of nights ago with a sharp burning pain in my arm....think i'd somehow pulled it without realising. scars are healing really well.

had good news with the histology results. they were happy to confirm they'd successfully removed the cancer with clear margins and couldn't find evidence of it in my blood cells. also the 4 lymph nodes that were removed came back clear which was such a relief!! the only 'bad' thing was that mine can't be controlled by hormones.

i met with my oncologist on 15th Dec. she confirmed i will be having TAC chemo without the C in 6 installments, every 3 weeks for 18w then once that is out of the way i will have 3 weeks of Rads.

hope you are all doing well 🙂

Lynzi xx

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hi zax

good your next treatment is being put into progress.

when will you know about chemo, do you know what decides whether you need or not??

how are you other ladies doing? shadders not heard from you for a few days - hows progress with the chemo?

big hugs to you all

TTM xxx

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Hi Zax
Very pleased to hear that things are progressing well and that the results were positive, glad you had a glass of fizz as every small win is a big bonus 🙂
When do you start rads ? Assume they will wait for the results from that before deciding on chemo ? More waiting but, as you say, whatever it takes..
Have my SNB on thursday (2 days before daughter's 16th birthday) and going to some great friends for xmas so will be very well looked after. No follow up dates yet which is a bit frustrating - I know it is xmas but would hope to have a date for the follow-up meeting and a proposed date for mx - will contact my BCN today to see if she knows anything. Think the waiting id definitely the worst..

Big hugs to all
L xx

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Hi everyone

Chrissie, glad to hear the first chemo went well, those imagination demons are a bugger!

Finally results day arrived and went to a consultation where we actually discussed good news for once.....what a novelty that was! Results overall were positive, IDC Grade 2 confirmed in right and calcium deposits confirmed as pre-cancerous in left (bummer) but clear margins and nodes (whoop whoop) Had glass of fizz to celebtate the small win. Defo rads and tam but also may still need chemo (not so whoop whoop) but what ever it takes....

Had my first experience of 'well you must be cured' in response to my results which although I suspected would happen makes it no easier to hear. Should be going into work next week so no doubt that will bring some interesting comments and situations.

Hope everyone is doing OK, Lynzi how did the op go? Lelly, when is your SNB op this week?

Love Zax

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Hi Lynzi and Zax, good luck with you results today. Not knowing is such an awful time, but once you get the results things move quickly, and knowing what's coming although scary is a bit of a relief as at least you will be further down the line to beating this crap disease.
Four weeks ago I was having my op, now I've already had my first chemo, which wasn't as scary as I'd imagined; it was all over quickly and painlessly.
Once again good luck for today.
Love Chrissie x

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Zax - so true about not being able to take own advice but learning fast...

Fingers crossed for your results tomorrow

Hugs to all xx

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Hi Lynzi, sorry to see you join but hope we can help each other through, I'm also recovering from WLE and SNB. Not got there myself yet but once you have your treatment plan the blur slows.

Chrissie, so glad to hear the imagination was worse than reality. bring on the blonde. Didn't know pink wee was a side effect, I had green sick and blue wee post op which I found hilarious for some reason. But then I have to say humour has been a great way to deal with this s***y situation. During my first biopsy the nurse told me the biopsy needle would sound like a staple......but what I actually heard was 'sound like a steak knife'!!!!!

I should get my results from SNB and WLE op tomorrow so will hopefully get no more bad news and a treatment plan.

BTW Lelly...re being in denial. Try thinking what advice you would give someone in your position....and then take it yourself. We all rubbish at taking our own advice but often give really good support to others. Also I think the flood gates did open today...just a little:-)

Hope all the other Nov Ladies are doing ok

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Hi all,
Had first chemo today, not as bad as I'd imagined but I do have vivid imagination and the waiting was the worst bit.
Pink wee was a bit of a shock, it was so pink.
I've booked the short haircut for christmas Eve so I'll have have a new look for Christmas and next year I'm going blonde,(I've got the wig).
I've got a three week break now, but I'll be thinking of you all and I hope your imaginings are worse than reality too.
Hope we all have a nice break for Christmas and be ready to continue the fight against this hideous disease, and win.
Love Chrissie x

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Hi all

i was diagnosed on 25th Nov to the suprise of my GP and Breast Consultant. Had WLE & SNB on 30th Nov now at home recovering very well. meeting with my Oncologist tomorrow with regards to discussing chemo and radio due to start after xmas some time.

talk about one big blur!!!!

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Good evening Lelly and Zak

I am feeling the same as the two of you in regards to the diagnosis and am glad that I am not the odd one out in this. This community here is just amazing and I am ever so glad I got involved with it as I find it awful hard to talk to anybody at present and thank my lucky stars for my lazy cat to keep me company and sane.

Hope all of you ladies have a pleasant evening and chin up - we will all beat this in our own little ways.

Hugs from Alanaa

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Zax - I can really empathise with you and seem in a similar place. I have not shed a tear or got angry since my dx end Nov. When I talk about it, I don't think I am talking about myself, it is not real for me. My GP is concerned that I am in denial and that it will really hit me soon, probably when I have my SNB next week.
I am always the strong one for family and friends but probably need to let myself go now.
As you say, we all have different coping mechanisms, perhaps this is how we will get through this ?
Big hugs to all
L x

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Thx Sarah, Lollypop et al, it's good to hear positive outcomes and NED is the aim! No Evidence of Disease if I'm getting my forum lingo right.

Woke up early this morning in a bit of a quandary. Any of you November Ladies still struggling to accept it's happening? I mean I know my DX, I cry and get scared,  I've discussed treatment options,  I've told people, I educate myself about the disease, I've had surgery and lets not forget the endless waiting.....all those things I do but I feel like I am walking beside myself....not like an out of body experience or anything but like it's not really happening to me.  Even when someone is sticking yet another needle in your boob!

I can't work out if I am being very self-aware, utterly naive or its a coping strategy and the flood gates will open one day.  I think I'm more scared of falling apart and not being able to cope than operations and treatments.  

Sorry for waffling and hope everyone is doing OK this morning......hugs....Zax

BTW TTMouse I totally got my dates mixed up, my Dx was actually confirmed on 22nd Nov....not that it really matters.  I think 17th was when they started ringing the alarm bells.

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Hi ladies,

just wanted to send love & hugs to you all as this was me this time last year.

I had my Op Xmas Eve, grade 3 invasive ductal, WLE/SNB I then started chemo in Feb & finished in June, Rads through July & am now 12 months on & am considered NED 🙂

It has probably been 1 of the toughest years of my life but it truly was doable, 6 months ago i had no hair & today i am off for my 3rd post chemo cut & colour, life truly does start to get back to normal.

Love to you all

Sarah.xxxx

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hi ladies sorry to hear that you have join us but this site is very supporive and there are lots of lovely ladies on here, i myself was dx with ibc last sept 2010, had chemo first followed by mx then 15 rad plus herceptin for a year, i had a few complications alot of anxiety, but now i am cancer free, and living life to the full, it is a long journey but you will get through this good luck ladies with your treatment plans. x x

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hi zax welcome to the november ladies thread. you were dx same day as me 17th nov - a day we wont forget in a hurry.

i had my lumpectomy in left breast on 30th nov and also the SNB.

seen consultant surgeon last week but havent met onc yet. that might be next week. radiotherapy will be after xmas. i am still be bruised/sore but its not too bad.

please do keep in touch with your progress and hopefully you will find the support and advice on here a great help.

take care

TTM xxx

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Shadders, thx for starting the Nov DX thread and there was me thinking I was special and unique;-) but sadly it seems to be quite a few of us...Debbie, TTMouse, Alanaa, Lelly, Chrissie, Lindyloo, Christine, Mary, Melinda,...hugs to you all and hope you don't mind me joining your thread.

Mary, just read your post and i think I'm just ahead of you. DX 17th Nov with 8mm DCIS in right, calcification in left so had lumpectomy last Thursday with 3 nodes and various other lumps removed from both. Post op recovery all going ok and defo not as bad as I thought it would be. Results and treatment plan this Friday and a bit freaked about the SNB results but am doing OK. Don't think they can much beyond what you already know until they test post op so like Lelly suggests best to try and enjoy Christmas. Best wishes Zax

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Welcome to the thread Mary though obviously sorry you are in the same situation. Try and relax and make the most of xmas and new year and very best wishes for the op.
Lesley

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Joining in here ..was diagnosed initially ultra sound 24 Nov, confirmed by biopsy - done on 2 Dec - results 9 Dec - a very long week.
Have my pre-op appointment 6 Jan where i think im going to be told that they will just remove the lump as it is only 8mm in size and then radiotherapy - but wont know exactly what they want to do til then. I'm in France so things are done differently here but I am being treated at one of the top clinics in the country (allegedly) so feeling confidently anxious or anxiously confident!
best wishes to everyone on this thread....
Mary

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Many thanks. This site has helped me through some dark times, I'm sure you know its good to know we are not alone xx

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Debbie
Pleased you are feeling more positive now you have a plan and are ready to start treatment.
Keep in touch and fingers crossed for you
L x

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Morning ladies, the wobble I had over having my hair cut seems to have passed. I've got my pre assessment appt this afternoon, one step closer to starting treatment. I will have my fist dose of chemo on monday 19th. Hope you are doing ok xx

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Hi Ladies
Sounds like we are all making progress one way or another as we edge closer to xmas.
Melinda & Alaana, you seem to be in a similar place to me so would be great to hear how you get on. I had another ultrasound last week on my lymph nodes which seemed clear but am still naturally anxious about the SNB on the 22nd. Just want to get it over with, get the results and then get date and treatment finalised for mx & recon.
Appointments do take up a lot of time and help distract you to a point but very difficult to concentrate on work - thank heavens for a great boss..
I am thinking and praying for you all. At least we can share our inner thoughts and get that vital support from each other and help each other through this challenging time.
Big hugs to all x

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hi chrissie welcome to our november thread.

i know what you mean about everything the speed of things happening - i have been exactly the same. appointments coming thru all time for stuff. its good that things are moving fast and treatment underway. but it is tiring both mentally and physically and theres no let with up with stuff - but like i said its good to get things asap.

keep in touch and us updated with your chemo treatment.

TTM
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Good morning, just been reading Shadders story, it could be mine word for word. I'm due to start chemo this week which I'm really scared about but I'm a tough cookie and my best friend's coming with me - so lucky to have her as she's been with me all the way.
If it's any help to anyone I was more than terrified of the op, I've never been ill in my life, but it was nowhere near as bad as I'd imagined and now I'm back at work and driving about, ready for the next scary moment.
The speed at which everything has happened has amazed and impressed me, I've not had much time to get used to each thing until I'm on to the next, still it's better to be getting on with things - waiting and worrying are some of the worst things.
Good luck to us all this week, we're stronger than we think.
Chrissie x

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Hi Melinda

I am posting a couple of links to the BCC publications 'Breast reconstruction' and 'Clinical trials' which you may find useful to read prior to seeing your BCN:

http://www2.breastcancercare.org.uk/publications/treatment-side-effects/breast-reconstruction-bcc7

http://www2.breastcancercare.org.uk/publications/treatment-side-effects/clinical-trials-bcc24

Our helpliners are on hand for you if you wish to talk any aspect through, you can call on 0808 800 6000, Mon-Fri 9-5 and Sat 9-2

Take care
Lucy

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Hi Ladies,
I have previously written under 'new diagnosis', I was diagnosed 24th November with ductal cancer insitu and invasive cancer and am triple negative.Waiting for date for sentinel biopsy, should be before Christmas and then mastectomy and reconstruction after Christmas. Hoping lymph nodes are clear, they couldnt see any on ultrasound but I have read that is only 70% accurate. I have found the whole thing very stressful, had problems sleeping etc despite having very supportive family.You just never think you will get cancer.
My breast nurse is fantastic and has helped me so much. I am waiting to see her to discuss what type of reconstruction but really don't know and also to talk about clinical trials I could be involved with.It was good for me to see you are all going through the same. I have been worried it was taking so long but lelly61 and alanaa, you seem to be at the same stage as me.
Big hugs to you all. x

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hey everyone hope you feeling ok.

jacqui - thats a bit tough if your chemo starts just before xmas. you will have see what they say on wednesday what they think is best, maybe starting just a few days later might be ok with them. i know what mean i hope i get a break for a few days over xmas and new year without any appointments before my rads start. i know the rads will start in new year but will have to have appointment with onc and i heard you have to planning sessions or sumat first with rads. so not sure timing of things. i will be on horomone therapy as well, but not sure if this starts before or after rads or during or what. not sure what else until meeting with onc.

trying to take a day at time not think about weeks ahead as it just stresses me i find, it is difficult though.

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Tommy TM
Your post about Marley and Me made me laugh as last April my daughter and her friends sat crying all the way through as she chose it as a dvd to watch for her birthday sleepover!

I still don't know when my chemo will be but have the pre assessment apt on Weds. They did suggest starting on 20th but I balked at that as could be ill over xmas and I want to be able to enjoy being with family. They said we can discuss on Weds.

Hope all of you are feeling well. How are you Debbie?

Jacqui

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Hello Ladies

I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago and had my core biopsies Wednesday. I was told that I would have surgery early January to remove the growth (2.5cm). It is amazing to see so many of your thoughts and fears are put into words by other ladies and I found it made me feel much better within myself. I do feel a lot calmer as I did a few days ago thanks to this amazing site. Hope you will all manage to have a nice Christmas.

Alanaa

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I hope you don't mind me butting in.

I was dx over three and a half years ago - in some ways it seems like yesterday and in other ways.... it's a lifetime ago.

When you're first DX it's so hard to get your head round it. It feels as though someone has pressed the pause button on your life ..... it's on hold........and it is until you're over your treatment and getting on with your life. When first DX I planned my funeral. Really didn't think I'd see another year. Here I am with egg on my face. I'm still here over 3 years later!

I looked at my favorite bush in the garden, which only bloomed in May, and thought I wouldn't see it the following year.

These thoughts are normal, I'm sure.We all feel like that. We're all scared at the prospect of chemo and want to just run away. But it's honestly not that scary.

It's not pleasant, and some of us have more SE than others, but it is manageable. I felt rough and had a lot of SE but still managed to work (on reduced hours - not sure that was a good idea). Make sure you have something to look forward to on your good week, otherwise just batten down the hatches, mark the dates off on the calendar and you'll soon be thro' it. Listen to your body. It'll tell you when to rest, or when a particular food doesn't suit you. Just listen.

Chemo is a bit like labour in that you soon forget.

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hey debbieB

how are you today, you were having a low day yesterday and thought i would check in on you.
hope you have had a bit better day today. sending you a big hug.

hows you other november diagnosis girls doing - hugs to you all.

xx

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hey shadders thanks for that great post - and you didn't go on and on at all. it certainly helps me to hear everyones thoughts and feelings on this - reminds me that i am normal and not going mad.

you sound positive with your treatments ahead of you so that is good. a lot people say on here that when things are in motion and start happening that it gets better. i do hope so.

the user name is after my cat i used to have called thomas - he walked round like lord and master and i used to refer to him as Sir thomas ticklemouse - very silly i know!!

btw think i may have shed a tear (just the one) at monsters inc! i refuse to watch marley and me point blank!!!

when does your chemo start do you know yet. and will you be having tamoxifen with the ER+ then - if so when do you start taking that.

speak soon - take care xx

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Wow, thank you everyone for all your responses it's so good to know that others are out there going through the same emotions. Well not good for you but you know what I mean.

TommyTM
I love your user name! I have told everyone because I couldn't stand the speculation that comes when you work in a very small school like ours. We are like a big family so I didn't feel awkward telling people and I told everyone almost at the same time cos I didn't want some to know before others particularly when I work closely with them. Have you got a close colleague you could tell or friend you could ask to tell others. That's what I did. My best friend told most of my circle of friends so that I didn't feel like I had to repeat myself over and over. I had to face a good few phone calls over the next few days but people have been so supportive. I am not a very emotional person and I think that has helped me here though my sis says I have a heart of stone [she cries at Monsters Inc.!]. She is worried that I haven't faced up to it yet and maybe I haven't but I don't seem to want to cry. I did when I was first told and was tearful and angry next day but since then seemed to have put on a coat of armour and am trying to get the most out of life. Most of the time I forget about the bc but then someone asks me how I'm feeling and I feel a pang of irritation as I feel reaaly weel in myself. I have to remind myself that they are being kind. You don't want to think about it 24/7 though do you? Anyway rambling as usual so please feel free to pm me. Chemo was offerd to me as will give me an xtra 3% [takes me up to 90%] chance of being cancer free within next 5 years. Also ER+ and apparently that makes a difference.

Debbie, sounds like your hair is a major part of who you are and now you feel as though there is less of you as your hair has gone. I think it's natural to feel upset. Some peple feel as though they have to say positive things when really you need people to accept that you might feel sad and that's ok. Don't know how I'll feel yet when I have my hair cut but it's in a kind of shaggy bob anyway so won't be too different. At the mo am more worried about the tiredness and sickness as have 2 children.

Christine what were your se's? I also found it easier to tell people the more I told. It also gives you strength when people tell you of someone they know who has had it say 20 years ago and is still cancer free. Well it does me anyway.

Lindyloo how did it go today? Sorry have only just read these posts. I also work in a school and have found everyone very supportive. What are you telling parents? I ummed and ahhed over this one but decided it's best they are told the whole truth as a] it usually gets out anyway and b] parents will make up all sorts if they don't know. I also thought that if I do go back in to read a story or whatever parents might freak out a bit if I am bald though will wear a scarf.

Starlight and Mazzalou thank you for popping in It's so good to hear from others who have come through it. And I second your sentiment re next year!!!!!!!

Well I seem to have gone on ...and on... sorry!

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I'm having a bit of a low day today but no-one around me understands. Its hard to keep the smile on my face and pretend I'm ok when I'm screaming inside.On the advice of my breast cancer nurse, I had my gorgeous long hair cut short today in preperation for starting chemo next week. Everyone says "oh its only hair, its not forever, it will grow back" but having it cut off has made me feel really sad. Sounds silly getting upset over "just my hair" but its MY hair, and I loved it.

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Hi all. I was diagnosed 29th Nov with DCIS and now waiting for sentinel node biopsy 22nd Dec. As things stand, know I will have an mx and reconstruction early next year but waiting for biopsy results before I know what else I might need.
Feel so much better seeing your comments as I can relate to them all. I have been told I am being so brave but am inwardly very scared. I want to make it easier for my family and friends with the brave face. Have not cried once or got angry but am sure that will come.
Hugs to all on this journey and look forward to hearing how we all progress. The support from this forum should be a great help to us all x

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thanks starlight67 for that. i think breaking it up and doing it a bit a time may be the way to go. its probably because it seems so overwhelming the thought of all the people to tell, i just think to myself i can't cope with it all so it seems easier not to say anything to anyone.

i have been upset and emotional since finding out, but today i went on facebook just to look at what people had been upto just for sumat to do. And all of a sudden i felt angry. angry at them all for going along with their lifes i suppose, going onabout buying xmas presents and xmas meals or just normal boring things. but i felt angry because i thought they have no idea about this c***. and actually they don't know because i haven't told them!!

i know other people on here have said about feeling angry as well as upset. and today i too have felt this and it made me cry. now i am worried about telling people and maybe feeling angry with them. then i think well i am allowed to feel what ever i want, but whether other people who haven't had this will understand that i don't know.

hopefully the true friends will come through for me. i do hope so. i am lucky in that my husband is the best. my mum and dad have been keeping me going as well.

sorry to bleet on.

xx

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I know that I am not supposed to be here, but I just wanted to offer my support to all you 'November diagnosed' out there.

This Thursday I will have the last of my 15 rads which have followed my mx mid-April, then my chemo of 3 FEC and 3 docetaxels and also my on-going herceptin, so other than the herceptin I'm nearly there!

Keep smiling and remember that all of your treatment is 'do-able' and you'll all get there in the end so good luck to each and every one of you.

Merry Christmas and let's hope for a better year next year.

Mazzalou x

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Hi all,
I was diagnosed in March and have done chemo, just finishing off my radiotherapy now and wanted to add a comment for Tommyticklemouse about whether to tell people or not: I made a list of the friends/family I thought would be upset if they heard about my BC from someone else and rang them three people per night for four nights until all the calls were done. After that I let the grapevine do its thing. It was exhausting but it got it over with.
When I don't feel I can face people's reactions I just stay in. I think if you don't feel like doing something when you have BC you are entitled to not do it.
Interestingly, you find out who your true friends are. Most people are brilliant. The people who can't deal with it have avoided me, but this has been more than compensated for by the people I didn't think I knew that well, who have helped me in so many ways.
The hardest thing for me is when people are too sympathetic. I have to try and move the conversation onto something less emotive.
This site has been a real support too.
Best wishes with your treatments all of you.
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Hi I was diagnosed on the 4th of Nov. fell apart for most of that weekend and then became calm.

i had my Op on the 29th of Nov ( a WLE and reduction on the other side)
I too(like christine)have told everyone about my condition, well family , friends , work colleagues etc. I work in a school so gossip travels fast!! They have all been fab and supportive and after I'd told one person it became much easier to talk to others.

I have been told how positive i am and how wonderfully im coping, but inside sometimes i'm not. Im scared too.
Tomorrow I go for results and what is going to happen next, chemo , rads etc. I feel the Op has been the easy part, the hard part is next.
Wish me luck Gill xx

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Hiya girls

I was diagnosed on 17th Nov (the worst day of my life so far when he told me it's cancer). I had my first FEC last friday and just try to recover from the side effects from that. I get 3 X FEC and 3 X Tax then mastectomy and then radiotherapy. I'm very different, I tell everyone about my dx who walks across my path, well not that bad, but nearly. I'm normally not an extrovert at all, but partly I have to as I'm self employed and have to cancel customers just now and I tell them why I can't honour their appointment. People have been great, genuinely sorry and some offering help like only friends do and not customers. At first I found it difficult speaking about it though, but now I can speak quite freely about it.

Christine xxx

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Shadders - we all need the support - its the most devastating news to hear those words "Im sorry, it is cancer" - words none of us ever thought we'd hear - but, here we are going through it. I was firmly in the "it wont happen to me" club, clearly I lost my membership 😞

Im currently having Chemo, ive had 2 of 8, then I will have an Mx then finally Rads.

Long road.....will travel.

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hi there everyone, would be good to join in this thread to give and receive support . diagnosed 17th nov.

like you too shadders i too think i need the support. i am struggling still to be able to speak to anyone other than bcn and husband and mum and dad about this. only boss at work knows and i have said at moment i dont want colleages/friends in office to know - i just can't cope with their reactions. i don't know why. i still haven't spoke with friends outside of work. and at some point i am i know that i am going to have to. but just dont know where/how to start.

i think its because i am just focussed on the treatments/steps i am having to get through and i can't deal with anything else or anyone else.

has anyone else felt like this. any advice??

shadders what was chemo decision - was just given straight option or what ?? must have been really difficult.

xx

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I was diagnosed on 15th November...its been a bumpy emotional rollercoaster so far. I'm due to start chemo next week.

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Hi there,
I was diagnosed 1 sept and thought I'd be with the October treatment group but this disease is so different for each of us, our treatment centres and even doctors are so different. So I got through all the tests despite being a total wimp, and I finally had my surgery 12 days ago.

People say ive been brave, but I haven't at all. I've had some very dark moments alone, but now and again you have to share pain with someone and let it all out.

This forum gives you an insight into BC that you can't get anywhere else, i knew nothing to start with. It's a great help in seeing people come through the most challenging times.

Hope all starts to be sorted out for you soon, don't be afraid to admit your worries or to ask for help and advice.

Hugs,

Lynette

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Thank you Libralady, I do need the support. Everyone is saying how strong I am but it is an act. I really feel scared sh*tless. Have decided to go with the chemotherapy that was offered to me as I do not want this thing back again, but knowing that no-one can guarentee it not coming back. I don't know if I'm going to put my body through months of poisoning it for nothing. Sorry just feeling down at the mo as have told the hosp today that I want to go ahead and feels like I've just got onto a huge rollercoaster. Have had any chemo or RT?

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Hey Jacqui

Sorry to learn of your Dx.

I was Dx'ed in September but I just wanted to offer you a sisterly (((HUG))). I started Chemo in Nov.

Best place to be is here, so much support and advice.

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November diagnosis

Hi, thought I might start a thread for all those who have been recently diagnosed. Looking forward to meeting some new online friends to help us through the darker moments and also share the lighter and potentially funny ones (hope there are some!)
Love to you all going through this horrible time, Jacqui x