Hi scousemouse I was thrilled with my prothesis when I first had it as previously had those comfy spongy things that rode up all the time and didn't feel or look like a breast. I had a fitting with a specialist via NHS and she tried a few dozen on me before she found one that she thought did it for me - as I had little experience of them at the time i took her advice and it was ok - it was quite heavy though (as I am big breasted) but moved and waddled with me which was great and it did the job - much better for me than a flat chest or a piece of sponge.
However I do think the limitations of a prothesis is that if you are big breasted and bend forward you are concious of a 'gap' and I was quite restricted on what I wore, covering with scarves etc. It was this that may me decide to go for a reconstruction as for me a prothesis was not a long term solution.
I ended up with a Trulife Harmony Silk Xtend (have a look at the Nicola Jane website) as provided by the hospital. That was the only brand they stocked. It comes around under my arm where I'm fuller and it matches the other side (i.e. have rolls of fat!). I hope I'm not too deluded to think that actually you can't tell even in a tee shirt. But honestly it took weeks if not months to want to wear the darn thing. Could not tolerate any form of bra rubbing on the scar. Then of course it falls foward a bit, so one of the bcn's gave the same advice which is to wear it in the cup, not the pocket. Worth a go.
I think it's a combo of the right bra and the right shape insert, so I suspect that until you find/can cope with the right bra, the situation will be the lovely lop-sided look. I appreciated being able to see a fitter from Nicola Jane in London. I don't live there, it was a special visit. But she thought the fit of prosthesis/bra done locally was fine, and just recommended the same. TBH, it comes off the minute I'm home from work. Summer is a different problem - need something cooler! K x
I'm 62 and was 44d bra size, so quite large boobs. My prosthetics nurse decided that a size 10 would be right for me. Haven't worn it often as I'm still healing, but find the prosthesis quite comfortable (it's the bra I can't cope with at moment). Have you tried just slipping it into bra cup and not into pocket? I too am going commando at moment, but with such a big dangly one on one side, and nothing on the other, I look a bit odd so will have to sort something out after chemo and rads. Sorry if this doesn't help. Maybe you could give prosthetics nurse or bcn a call and ask for another appointment to try a different type.
All the best
Went to my local breast clinic for new prothesis and my god it was so hard to find one that fitted correectly, am so disheartened now,
The nurse said it was because I am older (Iam 57) and your breast because of shape changes is fuller
Has anyone any suggestions I have ended up with a size 11 which when I lean forward my real breast looks a lot larger then false boob and it does not fitt my pocketed bra correctly at all
Think I will go commando and not wear one at all