So sorry to hear that life is throwing so many challenges at you - all at the same time.
I am a Grade 3, too - and like you, only found out when I got my pathology results, as previously thought to be Grade 2 and much smaller than it actually was. But then, it was an invasive, hence nearly 4 x as large as initially thought. Like you - nodes clear - cancer gone after mastectomy and reconstruction. HER2- and ER+
I do hope you get the OncoDX Test. It is actually done in the States, hence the delay in reporting back of results. When I looked it up, in case I might want it done privately - it can cost around £2,500. The NHS is certainly pulling out the stops for us, whenever they can.
You might have already found this info, but in case you haven't - here is some more info on it - https://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/information-support/facing-breast-cancer/diagnosed-breast-cancer...
I am having adjuvant chemotherapy and radiotheray - as that combination increases non reoccurance by 8%. For that - bring it on! Chemo 1 done - 5 more to go.
It wasn't exactly the most solid of relationships, we had split up twice and got back together before. You're right though, I'm better off without his negativity dragging me down. So you're Grade 3 as well Sonya.
I HOPE I fit the eligibily criteria for Oncotype DX, there seemed to be a bit of discrepency between my surgeon and BN at meeting. I didn't think I did meet the cirteria as I thought you had to hormone receptive and I'm not, are you?, neither did my BN but my surgeon said that as I'm classed as "intermediate" I would be. Fingers crossed as I feel I really need it to help me make my decision. Maybe the Oncologist will have the final say in the Onco test? My BN is meant to be phoning me tomorrow with an appt for the Oncologist to discuss it.
Are you HER2 positive or negative? They told me first I was negative then positive. I've been thinking and if I was HER2 negative, I'm also ER and PR negative, then would that have meant I was Triple Negative?? My brain is fried with all these statistics!!
IF, I get the onco test and if I have chemo, I may be slightly behind you as the Onco tests take a few weeks to come back. Are you having nodes removed before of after Chemo.
Good luck on the 8th if we don't speak before then. Let us know how you get on.
Vintage, Charys, Ruth and Pat, thank you all for your support.
You're all absolutely right, I DON'T need the "emotional drain of an unsupportive partner", Ruth's words in my life during this scary journey. Like I said, he probably wasn't going to be much support anyway so he's one less thing to worry about and I will just concentrate on myself and try to be strong for whatever the future holds.
I'm too busy trying to get my head around my results so I've barely given him a thought.
Vintage, I'll PM you.
Jeeeez Hazel...that's a partner you can do without!!!! You are definitely better off without him. He will remember this one day & realise what a selfish B****** he was!!!!
Yes mixed results but thank goodness clear nodes. I had my surgery Friday and still don't know what stage it was but the chap who fitted the wire said 'early stage'. Anyway I see consultant week today so will know more then.
Hang on in there. If at all possible celebrate the fact that you have got rid of someone who could be nothing more than a negative factor in your life!!! You will get through this and meet someone lovely who you deserve and who will appreciate the strong, beautiful woman that you are.
All the best, Pat xx
Don't get mad get even.
hello you lovely lady, the best revenge on the whole thing is to get thru it and live as happy and fulfilled life as you can. No one is saying it's going to be easy but it will be easier without the emotional drain of an unsupportive partner. Much love and best wishes to you and yours during your treatment and beyond. Ruth xx
Lots of hugs to you. I know how hard it is with all the waiting and then the changes to prognosis is difficult enough without that extra stress put on you at this time.
You have been strong so far and you will soon have all this behind you.
I am from Scotland also, Glasgow area. I was told today I may have to go to Aberdeen for a guided biopsy MRI scan as I have very dense breast tissue, mammogram and ultrasound shows nothing for me.
I also got some bad news yesterday , looks like full mx with chemo which was not anything like what they said the week before. Still in shock but dealing with it slightly better today.
Thinking of you
So, got my results back earlier today. They are as follows:
INVASIVE DUCTAL CARCINOMA
CLEAR MARGINS (NO FURTHER SUGERY NEEDED)
0/3 LYMPH NODES INVOLVED (NO LYMPH NODE INVOLVEMENT)
So, mixed results here. I was originally told that I was HER2 Negative but thankfully I asked for a copy of my pathology report and my BN had made a mistake and it turns out that I am actually HER2 POSITIVE so that was a bit of a blow. Also GRADE 3 is not the best news either. I already knew that I wasn't hormone receptive, that's good. Clear margins so no further surgery needed which is also good AND NO node involvement which is also good.
Unlike others, I had no info re stage, grade or anything like that until today. I was actually quite happy and fairly relieved with my results apart from the Grade 3 until my BN told me about the HER2 Positive result as well which dampened my spirits somewhat.
According to my surgeon I qualify for the Oncotype DX Test which is I'm pleased about as I didn't think I would fit the criteria at my hospital in Scotland (NHS Scotland being different to England & Wales).
My surgeon says that as far as she is aware I am currently "cancer free" and chemotherapy was being recommended as a prevention of reoccurrence. Obviously when she said this she thought I was HER2 negative but as I am HER2 POSITIVE, this might put a different perspective on things.
I will discuss the need for chemotherapy and the results of the Oncotype DX test with an Oncologist hopefully next week or the week after and take things from there. I suffer from long term mental health problems and have been under the care of a Psychiatrist for many years so the benefits of chemo may outweigh the risks for me but at the moment it is something I am willing to consider and discuss with Oncologist. Radiotherapy, as was originally planned is still a part of my treatment plan.
Dressing was removed and wound is healing nicely, bit bruised but surgeon was happy. Got a scar just over 2 inches above nipple on breast, no scar on underarm. Was advised to wait another week until driving which will be two weeks after op.
Oh, and my partner of over 5 years left me by telephone last night as he "cannot cope with the cancer". He has been hinting at it since the weekend. Basically if my prognosis was good and I didn't need chemo he would stay but if things weren't all "sunshine and lollipops" he was off. I don't need a partner like that in my life and will be better off without him if that is how he feels. I will get through this without him. He was never going to be much support anyway, to be fair, he also suffers from mental health problems but I have stood by him through some really tough times over the course of our relationship so am a bit hurt and angry.
Sorry for the long post, the last 24 hours have been very emotional and I needed to get some things off my chest.
Thanks for reading.