I have had two lots of FECT chemo and am going for third next week. I was absolutely terrified but to be fair it is not as bad as you imagine. I feel tired and days when I feel a bit sick but once you have had the first one if you make a log of how you feel then you can compare on the second. I dare say I will be very anxious when it changes on the 4th but you must both remain positive. It is a means to an end. I completely understand your anxieties and hope that your wife will have as few side effects as possible. Incidentally I did start to lose my hair - made a decision to have it shaved off and now wear a wig which my friends say looks really realistic.
I wish you wife and you well for the coming weeks. I wish my husband was still here to help me - but I could not manage without friends and family.
Thinking of you both. Shirley
I'm still finding my way round this site. But helpful to know others are going through similar things.
On Monday speak or ring your breast cancer nurse, or mention it when you go for chemo, and say you need a prescription for a wig asap. My hair didn't fall out for the first couple of weeks and then I shaved it off as the wig fitted better without it. I got an appointment at the wig shop within two days and could have taken it away with me except I wanted a different colour which only took two days, so you have enough time to organise this for if or when, your hair does fall out. Accept all help from your daughters as it will make them feel involved and not so worried about you. Good luck.
Welcome to the BCC Forum. I'm sure other members will soon be along to offer you some support. In the meantime I've attached a link to a thread called "Top tips to help you get through chemotherapy"
You might also find it helpful to have a look at the section "Going through treatment/ chemotherapy monthly threads". I've attached a link for you. These threads are usually started by members beginning their chemotherapy in the same month. You would be very welcome to join in.
I hope this helps.
Very best wishes
I have just been diagnosed with Breast cancer and also some lymph nodes. I am 63 and a widow and feel so alone and isolated. I have two daughters who live in the same town who are always there but I am so scared at the moment and miss having someone with me on a permanent basis. My husband passed away 4 years ago.
I start chemo on Monday 10 August and have accepted a cancellation but I now feel that I don't know what I am meant to do next as it has all happened so quickly and haven't really spoken to any nurses as such about wigs, shower gel etc etc. I am in panic mode at the moment. I am a positive person usually but this has knocked me for six.
Any ideas about what I should be doing between now and Monday?