Thankyou all for your replies, Tracey you definately need a mallet for the teacher ! I try not to judge a whole profession with a blanket viewpoint, but when I do come across the occasional eeejit I try to remember that they have probably never left school in their life, they went to school, college, uni, and back to school, it's not a wide scope of choice to gain experience and life skills from. Baring this in mind has saved many a teacher a growl from me lol. (Teachers out there please note the disclaimer above, I do not judge you all by profession, I just use that profession to excuse the few who lack insight and experience into the world beyond those gates )
Thanks for the thread link I will take a look, I'm sure 'The stupid things people say' is destined to find it's way into my blog My sister has already began many chats with 'don't put this in your blog but' hahaha
Misery begets misery. You are right, they are thoughtless, it is a cruel realisation that may or may not dawn on them one day if they ever face a similar situation.
I have discovered the most amazing selective hearing, and wish i could have the Wit shown by Maggie Smiths character in The Best Marigold Hotel films. However my thought processing is as dull as their brains when passing such comments.
I am around the 1 year mark, and am due for "matching" surgery on the first. Am really hoping the surgeon keeps his head an doesnt go for the April Fools comedy angle!
Bigs gentle hugs.
Lovely to talk to you, sorry about the reason!
There is a thread which will tickle you, so many stupid things said, sometimes with the best intentions. I'll try and post the linky thingy, but not sure I know how
If this doesdn't work, pop "what not to say" into the search box and it'll take you there.
Good luck for Tuesday, I hope it all goes well
love, Rose xx
Hi, I was diagnosed 5 weeks or so ago (sorry I can't remember the date! ) and have since been getting on with my life, planning for time out during surgery (scheduled this coming Tuesday) and working out how to maintain my work (self employed) whilst undergoing chemo and radiotherapy etc. I'm 41 and the consultant is fairly clear that he plans to be reasonably aggressive with adjuvant therapy. I have a fairly large family, lots of friends for support, and an awesome husband and 12 year old daughter. Although the past few weeks have certainly been a ride and I can't deny I haven't had moments of feeling the eeebiegeebies my outlook is mostly positive. I've even began building and writing a blog on my journey kicking the ass of breast cancer as a means of reaching out to others. Amidst all of this I am finding I would probably benefit from a fairly large mallet, as I think there is possibly no other way to get through to people that it would be nice if they could think before they speak! A friend called me today to tell me her other friend had her mastectomy last week and I will probably find that I am in agony and cant move, my cousin reminded me that my aunt had breast cancer 2 years ago, but it was her mets which spread to her stomach which eventually got her (we have the same diagnosis), somebody else informed me that it wouldnt be the surgery that bothers them, it would be the assymetry afterwards... the list goes on.
To be fair I have a fairly wild sense of humour, and can handle these scenarios as they arise with a hint of humour but still my mind boggles when such things are passed on to me.
On the other hand, my 12 year old who heard my friends warning that come wednesday my life will be a misery came back to me later with a little thought of her own ; "Mum you are the toughest person I know, you wont be in agony at all" - and I am grateful to have her clapping me from the sidelines.
So, in the absence of a mallet, I send all of you virtual hugs and encouragement in your march forward, and may you manage the thoughtlessness of others with a quiet acknowledgement that the problem with stupid people is that they will never know that they are stupid 😉
Rant over x