My how things have changed in a couple of days! Chemo now first for me - maybe even starting next week. Things are moving at a pace now. Feeling like I've got a team really looking out for me and I just want to get on with it - they are working round my little boys birthday plans too so that I can join in 🙂 I'm sure my emotions will be up and down, but so far, I'm ok 🙂
And yes - I've always fancied new boobs too - albeit smaller ones (I'm a G cup!!!) Do you think they will arrange that too??!!
Thank you - consultant appointment tomorrow so will hopefully sort out surgery dates and then the plan can begin. Yes positivity is THE key I think although appreciate there will be down days - but need to move forward - I'm sure once surgery is done, we can rest a bit (if that makes sense?) Need to tell my family tomorrow too - my OH knows & a very close friend who has been amazing, but I know that I have the hardest people to tell tomorrow as we lost our Mum because of bc and yes they do want to do some genetic screening too....still talking about when exactly to tell my 5 year old....trying to keep things normal for now but need to prepare him for Mummy's adventure in hospital!
Argh....mind whirring but feeling calm and focussed - but boy what a range of emotions this last week has brought out! Onwards and upwards 🙂
I'm new here too - confirmed diagnosis yesterday of grade 3 invasive ductal and DCIS. Mastectomy, chemo and radiotherapy route for me. I'm older than you at 45 but still classifed as a younger woman!
I had biopsies last week and was told the news then and must admit I went into a very dark place as all I could think about was my 5 year old. However, the results yesterday have somehow made me much more calm and I am in the "lets get on and deal with it" phase. Much more positive and determined to move forward eventhough it will be a long road ahead - but as you say one step at a time. Seeing the consultant tomorrrow to discuss sugery dates - likely to be mid May I think. Keep in touch
Bless you Claire. I think it hits everyone didfferently, at times i was a nervous wreck, other times perfectly rational. I was told at first chemo, rads the lot but after lumpdectomy and all my nodes not just the first suspect one were removed and were clear and all tissue around the lump was clear my new surgeon said border line for chemo but the oncologist said was pointless for me cause it would make such a little diffrence to my chances of it reoccurring and as im very petite and slightly built he felt would do me more harm than good, So its tamoxifen and rads, Started the tamoxifen sems ok waiting for rads. Im a lot older than you in my 60s but was very fit and healthy before,still am in other ways, I think that was it, ive never once felt ill so it was hard to think i had cancer.and at times seemed like happening to someone else. Not me. still does sometimes.
You probably know whats what now Claire. keep us posted, Such a pity re your hols, and know you dont want to disappoint your kids.june
Warm wishes for your consultation tonight and do let us all know how you get on.
We all cope in different ways and what is right for each individual is exactly what it is. I try not to compare myself to others as my own journey is unique and made up of all my prior life experiences and current situation. However, I have found lots of really valuable information being shared on this forum and have certainly put myself firmly in the 'lucky' category as there is always someone much worse off than I am at any given time.
Warmest wishes and hugs
Reading all your stories, i wish i could be as brave as you all. Ive been a crumpled mess and am normally the strong one.
Ive been feeling sorry for myself since i got my diagnosis and will probably be again tomorrow after my consultant appointment for MRI results.
I thought id had my fair share of medical problems and hospital trips after having twins 2 years ago.
hope i can stay as strong as yuou guys xx
Hi Claire, I got my results last Thursday after surgery. I have grade 3 invasive ductal cancer with one lymph node positive for cancer. My tumour was 4cm. I'm 18 weeks pregnant and have a 3 year old daughter and start chemotherapy the week after next. I'm not quite as young as you (36) but feel for you and definitely identify with being a mum to young children. I also haven't been a crumpled mess, but I've had a couple of moments (although could be pregnancy hormones!) Let us know how your results go. Xx
I am had my results last Wednesday. The can relate to what you say about other people's reaction to you, I have the same. I'm not sure what people want me to do, but crying all the time just does not help. My advise to you is to expect the unexpected with regards to your results. I went for my results thinking I was just going to find out if they had taken enough away, I was shocked all over again when I was upgraded and told I would now need chemo. I've got my head around it now and I'm happy to do any treatment that is needed. Good luck
Welcome to the BCC discussion forums, you've come to the right place for some good, honest support from the many informed users of this site, who I am sure will be along soon to help.
I have put for you below the link to the area of this website dedicated to younger women and hope you find it helpful.