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Re: Recently diagnosed - feeling calm ATTN MINIG

Hi

I am never sure of my way around this site!

Did you get your results? xx

Emma76
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Thanks Christine I'm liking the sound of it shrinking! Did you work at all during chemo? I work part time and am really hoping I will be able to continue
ChristineP
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Hi Emma and Pie,
I had chemo first, before a mastectomy. Seeing and feeling my breast shrink throughout chemo was really good - it made me feel so much more confident about the whole treatment. I hope this works for you too.
Good luck and warm wishes,
Christine
(Ps nearly two years post treatment and feeling good :-). )

Emma76
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Hi Pie, I am seeing the onclogist next Monday, so will maybe find out then.
I'm like you keen to get started now thanks for those words about the chemo its made me feel a lot better about it, especially the shrinking, my tumour is quite big too.
Pie314
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Hi Emma. I am having chemo first too. I have at least 1 lymph node involved too. I have no idea when. Should find out in 10 days or so. When the consultant recommended chemo first I told him that psychologically I just wanted him to cut the damn thing out, but obviously can see why this approach is better as my tumour and lymph nodes are large. I have been reading a lot by folk who had chemo first and it seems there are loads of positives. I am keen to get started. Apparently some women have practically watched their tumours shrink and that must be a huge boost psychologically.
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Hi Emma and welcome to the BCC forums
In addition to the support you will soon have here please feel fre to call our helpliners for further practical and emotional support on 0808 800 6000, lines are open weekdays 9-5 and Sat 10-2

BCC provide specialist support and information for younger women and you can read about the services you may find helpful here:

http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/younger-women

Take care
Lucy BCC

Emma76
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I have just been diagnosed 2 days ago, primary breast cancer no lymph nodes involved.
They are going to start me on chemo after xmas to try and shrink the tumour and then operate next summer, seems like ages away! I'm her2 receptive and will be having hercepton too.
I' m 37 feels quite young to have cancer but I know there are lots younger than me too, I would like to talk to other women that have had chemo first is this a fairly common thing?
Magical_Moon
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Hi Karen,

Pleased to hear everything went well. I said you would be pleasantly surprised after your surgery.

Enjoy your DVD's and card making. It will take your mind off the waiting for your pathology results.

Peace and Positivity,
M xxx
ashbymeadow
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I too am a grandma...so know your feelings.We will beat this challenge and live long and happy lives....please no negatives,,,hugs Jacqui
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Hi Karen .Good to hear you are now on the treatment route .Enjoy the card making and just relax....leave the stress things for later.Jacqui
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Had my surgery yesterday and it went very well with no complications.

 

Feel very well today apart from some soreness where the incision was made and the painkillers are taking care of that. I'm absolutely amazed and very happy at how well I feel.

 

The staff at the hospital were all so nice and I was kept well informed and was very well looked after at all times. The only point at which I felt anxious was when they took me into surgery but they gave me something to relax me very quickly and then anaesthetised me. The next thing I knew I was coming round and feeling like I was waking up from a really good night's sleep.

 

Now I'm just waiting for the appointment to come through for my results. In the meantime, the plan is to take it easy, avoid daytime TV and catch up on some DVDs and get back into my card making.

minig
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Hi Hoppie, Good luck for your post op appointment on the 12th. I've got mine on the 10th & like you it looks like it will be chemo & radio. Hope the calmness lasts for us both! xx
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Hi all, just read all your posts, I am from the August Maisie's and we are now all nearing the end of our chemo (yeah!) All I wanted to say to you, the operations are really not that bad and whether you need radiotherapy or chemo, although it is tough, you learn to cope with it and the help and support you get on here is a real godsend, because it is great to share and ask advice on any problems you may have, All stay positive and if you are worried about anything just ask, we are all here to help! Take care x.
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Alfiemolly, I agree it is very strange being told you have cancer when you actually feel very well. I'm still feeling very positive and hopeful. I suspect the time that I will start to feel most anxious will be when I'm close to my post-op appointment. My plan for now though is to rest up after my op and do my exercises and just concentrate on my recovery. I know that will be easier said than done but all I can do is try my best.

 

Mandy, I'm truly sorry you are feeling so bad. All I can suggest is that you make best use of all the help and support that is available to you and I hope you soon start to feel better.

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Hi.  I too felt and still very calm?!  Like MINIG i really am the biggest worrier yet this i have taken on board and need to deal with it!

I get my results from WLE and SNB in 12 dec  although have already been told i will be having chemo and then radio!

Hugs to you all x

Jaine
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Sorry you are feeling so bad, but I think it is an experience a lot of us have had.  Two days before I went for my after op appointment I was feeling really low, but the comments from people on this site really helped.  All I can say is the feelings get better, (and can get worse again!), but we are coping, somehow and with the help of each other.  Sending virtual hugs

Lucy_BCC
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Hi Mandy1958 and alfiemolly, welcome to the BCC forums

 

I am sure your fellow users will be along soon and you will also find practical and emotional support from our helpline team, they are on hand 9-5 weekdays and 10-2 Saturdays on 0808 800 6000 so please feel free to call

 

Here's a link to the BCC 'Just diagnosed' information and further support which you may find useful too:

 

https://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/diagnosis

 

Take care

Lucy BCC

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Hi, i have recently been diagnosed and like you i felt calm until last few days, i go for and appointment today so they can tell me what treatment they have decided i nee. I now feel like crap i have the vomits and diariah and cannot stop thinking the worst, i am a new granny and keep thinking what if i don't see her grow up. Maybe i will feel better once i ahve been to my appointment but at the moment i am not so sure

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   Just found out yesterday that I too have breast cancer very much like yourself 2 small lumps. I feel much calmer today but still very scared. Its the waiting more than anything I just want it taken out then I think I will feel better about it all. Its weird being told you have cancer when I dont feel ill. Good luck with your treatment.

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Hi Smiley

 

Thank you. I'm still feeling very positive and calm but a bit impatient. I just want to get the whole thing over and done with now so that I can get on with living the rest of my life. I guess that's normal though and something that everyone feels.

My family and friends continue to be absolutely amazing and very supportive. It makes me feel good to know that I have people like them in my life and, corny as it sounds, I really do feel blessed.

I'll keep you posted on how it goes. xx

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Thanks Minig. It really is good to read such positive comments. It gives me hope and makes me feel fairly confident about the surgery and how I will feel afterwards.

 

I don't have long to wait now before I have my surgery. I'll have to get up at about 5.30 on the day so that I have plenty of time for coffee and a large glass of water before the 6.30 cut-off time they've given me for drinks. Not looking forward to that as it's a bit on the early side for me but I can have a lie in on Friday to make up for it.

 

I'll post an update on how it's all gone a day or two after my surgery. xx

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Hi Karen

sounds like you are coping reasonably well. Its true at times like this it is amazing how friends and family rally round to make sure you are ok and have everything you need. The waiting is awful i agree. I found it the most frustrating thing but theres nothing we can do. 

As the other ladies have said you will be surprised how well you will feel after the surgery.

Good luck. Please let us know how you get on.

Will be thinking of you

Smiley1Smiley Happy

minig
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Good luck with your op Karen. My WLE & SNB was so much easier than I expected. I went home 3 hours after surgery & ate a big bowl of pasta for dinner. Slept fine, no pain at all & felt pretty much back to normal within 24 hours. I'm not taking any painkillers now & I've been out for lunch & decorated the Christmas tree today 2 days after my op. You'll be fine! Best of luck xxx
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My diagnosis was just over a week ago now and I am still feeling very calm about the whole thing. I live alone and so have been making sure my house is clean and tidy, my laundry is up to date and I have plenty of meals in the freezer. It feels like I've spent the whole weekend cooking.

I am finding that I'm starting to feel a bit impatient now. I'm going in on Thursday for my lumpectomy but I'm at the stage where I just want to get it over and done with.

A few people have told me that they've felt little or no pain afterwards which is good to know. I have pretty much no pain threshold.

In a strange way, I actually feel very lucky. If I hadn't been for a mammogram, the cancer would not have been diagnosed so early. Because it has, it should be reasonably quick and easy to eliminate.

I hope that your recovery continues to go well and that you get good news when you go back for your post-op check up.

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Hi Karen, I was diagnosed a month ago & also felt very calm. I went into practical mode, making plans for managing treatment around my 2 small boys & my business. I expected the meltdown might come later but so far it hasn't. I felt calm going for my lumpectomy on Fri & feel fine now, no pain at all & went out for Sunday lunch today. I'm sure there will be bad days to come & I'm feeling nervous about whether I will need chemo. But I can honestly say that this has been a positive experience for me so far. I've been overwhelmed by the support of friends & the medical staff have all been so lovely, I feel very lucky to be getting such good care & that it was found when it was. I'm 42 so below the screening age. I'm sure there will be days when we don't feel so calm & a good cry will probably be the best medicine. The ironic thing is that in my 'pre-cancer' life I was the worlds biggest worrier! Everyone responds differently to these things. There's no right or wrong! Good luck with your treatment. xxx
Magical_Moon
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K,

Even though your family are not local, it sounds like you have got an excellent support system ready and waiting should you need any help. This is great and will lessen your worries.

I had a lumpectomy and SNB and was 'gobsmacked' how well I felt after surgery in respect of minimal pain and ability to do the arm and shoulder exercises the following morning after the op. I needn't have worried about looking after myself. Although I was very sleepy the next day from the anaesthetic, I was able to function well.

I think you will be pleasantly surprised after your surgery. You will be fine.

Wishing you all the very best.

M (sending you a cyber huggie)
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Hi M

 

I also live alone and none of my family are local.

 

One of my big worries was how I would look after myself while going through treatment. As soon as I started telling people about my diagnosis, so many came forward to offer help and support. My brother is driving 60 miles to pick me up from the hospital and staying overnight on the day of the surgery to make sure I'm ok. Once he goes home, I have several friends who live reasonably close by that I can call on if I need anything. They are all within ten minutes away by car and some are within walking distance.

I feel blessed to know that I have so many people looking out for me. The few weeks following my surgery and through my radiotherapy are going to be tough, I know that. But I also know that with a positive attitude, the care and attention from the hospital staff and the support from my family and friends I will get through this and come out smiling at the other end,

 

Karen

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Hi Smiley

I have had a couple of low moments since I was diagosed but thankfully nothing too serious. I just keep reminding myself that I am incredibly lucky in that it was diagnosed at a very early stage and is easily treatable.

 

Like you, when I got my diagnosis, I started thinking about the practicalities and came up with a plan. At the moment, the plan is working and everything is going smoothly. My surgery is scheduled for Thursday next week so I'm working up to and including Wednesday. I suspect it will really hit me on Wednesday evening when I start packing my bag ready for the following day. Until then, I'm going to keep myself busy, stick to the plan and keep reminding myself that things could be a lot worse.

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Hello Karen,

I had a mammogram in March this year and everything was OK. Then, in September I felt a lump. My GP put me on fast track to the hospital for tests. Six months on from a clear mammogram, I was told I had cancer.

I was shocked but relatively calm. If anything, the thing that frightened me the most was whether I would be able to look after myself whilst I had treatment. (I live alone and have no family or close friends).

To be honest, when I eventually cried, it wasn't because I had been diagnosed with breast cancer, it was because I was overwhelmed by the care and attention I was suddenly getting from my breast cancer care team at the hospital.

It was the first time in years that someone had asked me how I was feeling and told me that they were going to help me along the way. Without sounding like a drama queen, I felt I had suddenly become 'visible' and there were lots of kind people wanting to make me better.

I wish I had never been diagnosed with cancer. However, from one of the worst health diagnosis you can get, I have to say that my 'cancer' experience has been positive in a number of ways. I know that will sound ridiculous to many.

Next week, I start my radiotherapy. I will continue to purposely find positivity as I travel along my cancer journey. Finding positivity has helped me get through this.

Peace and Positivity,
M xxx
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Hi Karen

I was incredibly calm when I recieved my diagnosis! It was a shock but I just wanted to be strong and remain in control. I got my family together and we developed "a plan". This was to cover how I could work for a couple more weeks before the scheduled surgery. I sorted out pre planned holidays and made sure everyone who needed to know was informed. I think I just went into practicalities mode. Then 2 days later the BCN informed me the surgery had been brought forward to the following week. Thats when it hit me! I broke down and had a good old cry! My plan no longer applied! I had to let go and let the professionals take over my life. I didnt go back to work after that!

I am halfway through my chemotherapy now and feel happy with my progress...mentally and physically. I have had tears and felt low. But afterwards i think of all the good things in my life and feel "normal" again.

I think if you are positive and try to carry on as normally as you can it helps. Not only you but your family and friends will pick up on your positivity.

So yes its ok to feel calm but also do expect that it will hit you soon.

Good luck Karen

Be positive and keep smilingSmiley Happy

Smiley1Smiley Happy

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Hi Helvellyn

 

I was called for a mammogram for the first time a few weeks ago, two months after my 52nd birthday. If I'm honest, I very nearly didn't go. I'd heard that it was a very uncomfortable and often painful experience. A colleague of mine persuaded me to go and I'm so glad she did.

 

I'm also glad I found this forum. While I feel calm at the moment, I'm expecting the next few months to be an emotional rollercoaster. In the meantime, I'm just carrying on as normal and keeping myself busy.

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Hi Karen

I am in a very similar situtation.  Was called for breast screening and was shocked to be invited back for second stage.  They had found an area of calcification, and I had to have a biopsy.  i tried not to let it bother me, keeping calm, expecting it to be nothing.  My first results were unclear so I had to have another biopsy.  Again, i felt quite calm, even though it was all I could think about, day and night.  Results told me I had DCIS and a bit of invasive cancer - this bit did shock me.  Last week I had a lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy and feel fine at the moment.  I am in no pain.  I will get the results of this next week.  I am hoping it will be clear and I will just need radiotherapy for 3 weeks. In the main I have kept calm, just wanting to get on with the treatment. There have been a few tears, but no major meltdowns. I was called for mammogram just before my 48th birthday.  I realise I am very lucky because it was caught so early.  Had I not been called until I was 50 ... It still feels strange to say "I have breast cancer".  I have been reading lots of stories on this forum, to help me with my queries.  And will continue to do so.  So many ladies are going through different treatments and coping in different ways. I don't wish cancer on anyone, but I am so grateful for this forum.

Good luck in your treatment.

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I was diagnosed last week.

 

When I received the letter inviting me in for second stage screening, I was so worried. I'd just had my first mammogram and hadn't been having any problems or felt anything unusual so it came as a shock. I went for the screening where they confirmed that there is a small lump and took a sample for biopsy. After that, my mind went into overdrive and I started imagining the worst.

 

When I was given the result a week later and was told that the lump was cancerous, I actually felt very calm. The staff were so nice and explained my options to me. Thankfully the lump is only very small and so the chances are that I'll only need to have a lumpectomy followed by radiotherapy.

 

By the time I left the hospital, I had a diagnosis, a date for my surgery and a rough timescale for the radiotherapy and my recovery.

 

If I had never gone for my mammogram, the lump probably wouldn't have been discovered until it was a lot bigger and more difficult to treat. And I think that's why I feel so calm now. I know that it could have been much, much worse.

 

Has anyone else experienced similar reactions and feelings when they've been diagnosed?