Recently diagnosed

[JETS]

Hi rose xxx rant welcome! And giggled like mad at the responses - Sharon v witty!!! I do think that there is a bit of a " you'll get over it" culture re cancer now ... And that's what we are all here trying to do but honestly ? The energy required to cope with all this is massive - so yes - a ' hi rose- so glad you are up to coming out tonight : what a **bleep** you have to go in again, gentle hugs and toasts to you ' would NOT have been unwelcome xxx I salute you, you mad crazy joyful wonderful spirited angel xxx
Sarah
Ps - and you WILL obvs look better than the bride on the day x 😉

[Rosemaryanne]

Wow, Sharon! Can you accompany me at all times cos I never think of things like that till it's too late!

Brilliant!

Love Rose xx

[dennymac]

Hahaha Rose that made me chuckle 😉 xx

[13gerbera]

Ok Rose, so now I'm being wicked, but I think you should say to them that the hormone treatment you're going to have will make you put on weight temporarily and you don't want to waste money on new temporary clothes so perhaps you could borrow some of theirs, like the outfits they both had on when you went to dinner just before your second surgery as they looked a bit too small for them? 😄 Oh yes, I am evil! 

[Wendyy]

Laughed out loud, literally at your post Rose. Good to know cancer doesn't rob us of our sense of humour. xxx

[Rosemaryanne]

Thanks!

I do feel much better for saying all that and am now plotting revenge. How do I subtly tell my sister how fat she looks in her wedding outfit? and tell my cousin that the platinum blonde, over-tanned, mini-skirt look is soooo ageing? If offered a lift there's always a chance I may have to stop the car and throw up...before they get chance to open the door?

Of course I may just maintain a dignified silence, and then stage some kind of minor collapse?

Got a whole week of limited activity to plan.

I love this forum, and everyone on it!

Rose xx

[13gerbera]

You're a much nicer person than me Rose, I'd have said 'that must be terrible, do you fancy swapping your illness for mine' in as sweet a tone as I could manage and then sat back and watched her look embarassed! Some people simply have no idea do they?!

x

[Wendyy]

Hi Rose. Hope you feel better after your rant. This is one lonely illness so thank goodness for this wonderful forum. You'd think family would understand a little more BUT if your sister was suffering with mouth ulcers!!!! Oh my!!! How brave of her to even step out if the house!!! Sorry for my sarcasm but........ I'm the other side of surgery and rads, fighting the side effects of Tamoxifen so now I'm definately off the radar for sympathy. I should be fine now 😳. If only!!!

Best of luck for tomorrow. Keep us updated on your progress when you're up to it, we care 😘😘 hugs Wemblo xx

[keepmumsane]

Hi rose, booooo.... bad form.  Im thinking about you,  xxxx people are odd. My mother spent hours on the phone telling me how upset she was and how she hoped I never had to be in her situation with my girls. because obviously just having cancer isnt upsetting enough...

Family. ?.cant beat em eh! 

Wish I was closer,  I'd come drive you...slowly as corners are still tricky... 😉 we may need to leave early..

Hugs lovely!  

Hope you ate something loudly and with much appreciation, and offered bits to everyone! 

♡ Sandie

[Rosemaryanne]

Hi

Just popped by for a moan.

Went out last night for a meal with my sister, cousin, and various other members of my extended family, all aware of my situation. Not one asked how I am, got mocked as said I'd be unable to drive to a family wedding next weekend and would need a lift ("Why? I was able to drive home after a general anaesthetic".... for a b****y tooth extraction!!!!) and my sister was complaining non-stop because most of the menu was off limits to her because she had mouth ulcers. I wasn't looking for lots of sentimental sympathy, we aren't that type of family but it would have been nice to have got a "how are you doing?"/ "hope it' goes well tomorrow" or at least some kind of acknowledgement that what I have is a bit worse than flippin' mouth ulcers, painful though I'm sure they were.  Now I know some people feel awkward talking about cancer, but these were not casual acquaintances, rather people I've known and supported all my life.

Rant over. Onwards and upwards!

Rose xx

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

Thankyou ladies..am very proud of her..X

Hope your all having a nice weekend?

hugs RachelX

[Chez666]

Just on my second cup but had a lie in today so a little behind schedule!!!!
Rachel your daughter is a star, made me well up. x x

[Wendyy]

Rachel what a lovely thing she's done. You must be so proud.

Chez I'm giving up tea and replacing it with red wine 🍷 I'm sure that will be better for me 😄

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

Thankyou ladies😊💜X
Think it was about 10 inches in the end and she looks beautiful with her new haircut!It will be my turn for the big cut next week..!X
Judi enjoy your meal😊love Rach xxxx

[Matty2]

Hi everyone

Thanks for the congrats - just wish it will be the same for you all soon.

TEA - is that where I went wrong???????????? Just don't think I'll be giving it up any time soon!!

Rachel what a kind and considerate daughter you have. 8 ins is a lot of hair to have cut off - Thanks her very much on all our behalf

[ollisj6]

hi Rachel you must be so proud of your daughter just been spoilt by hubby out  for a meal tonight nice to forget about treatment looming Love to everyone Judi xxxx

[gazzlyn]

Congratulations Matty that is fantastic news really pleased for you xxx

Spoiler

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

Thankyou Sarah😊I'll pass that message on...she is a star X
I know I'm shocked about the tea...I love tea and coffee!!Xxx

[JETS]

Rachel - what a wonderful daughter xxxxxx thank her from all of us!!!!
I've had to sit down over chez's shock news about the tea.... You Definately need s second opinion xx lots love Sarah

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

Hey Judi😊..I hope you had a lovely meal?You enjoy every minute,you deserve it.Good luck for Tuesday😊X
I'm seeing my Chemo nurses next week for my pre-assessment,met my Oncologist last night and what a lovely man 😊...makes things so much easier when you have such good doctors.
Am off to hairdressers with my daughter this afternoon,she is getting 8 inches cut off her hair to send away to make wigs for cancer patients,bless her😊X
Take care lovely ladies..Rachel X

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

Hi ladies😊
Oh Beryl I'm so happy to hear your news,how wonderful,I bet you are so relieved..Big hugsXxxx

[Chez666]

I am not sure I like this auto correct option, please read bald for hope and hearing for heating and any other boobs...excuse the pun....I have made on this..hanging head in shame and mortification and off to have more tea. I recently did a health assessment to see where I have gone wrong, I was very honest as no point not being and it said drink less tea.....how can that be right!!!!!!

[Chez666]

Hi Eileen, hope you doing okay, there will,be good days and not so good, but the ladies on this forum are a god send with lots if advice, suggestions and humour x x x

[Chez666]

Hi Judii, bald it went well and have a fab anniversary meal x

[Chez666]

Beryl. What brilliant news so pleased, you will be back in the garden before you know it x x 😄😄😄

[keepmumsane]

Yahhhhhhhhh! Xx celebrating for you!
Hugs
Sandie

[Rosemaryanne]

Hi Beryl

So thrilled for you! It's lovely to see such good news on here, you must be so relieved

Love, Rose xx

[13gerbera]

Beryl that's fantastic, so so so chuffed for you 😄  Hope your post op healing goes well and you get to bin those button popping cardigans now and to forget that you ever needed them in the first place!  

xx

Sharon

[Matty2]

I was put on Anastrozole as soon as diagnosed and found to be hormone sensitive

a check will be kept on bone density as side effect can be osteoprosis, this first test is to give a controll they can base other readings on

No drink though until op recovery is compplete and I'm off pain-killers

[Wendyy]

Oh wow!!! Congratulations. You must be so relieved. So,pleased for you. Little drink tonight to celebrate??

Quick question, is the bone density scan to see if you're ok for anastrazole?

[Matty2]

OOOOH BOY

Bit overwhelmed - I'M CLEAR-

Lymph Nodes clear

Vascular system clear

Chest Wall clear

Ok Boob has gone

OK am on Anastrozole and it's side effects for 5 years but hey.............

Next is bone density in 2 weeks; post op check in 3 months; 12 month check ups and mammograms

UNBELIEVABLE 

And wounds feel better now last of stitches have been removed (thumbs up)

[Wendyy]

Judi, enjoy your anniversary celebration and yes, milk it as much as you can..pleased the scan went off ok this time and good luck for the results on Tuesday.

[ollisj6]

Hi ladies thank goodness everything went ok today cannula stayed put and i had a successful muga scan results in Tuesday when i go for Pre Assesmemt(chemo) going to Harrogate tomorrow for the night belated wedding Anniversary might milk it a bit and then ill be spoilt!!!!! Love to you all Judi xxxx

[eileen728]

Yes my students always sing that too me too! At least its a good song. Thanks for your support. Off to hospital now to meet my breast care nurse forthe first time. xxx

[eileen728]

Thanks - I am off to see my breast care nurse for the first time now so things might be clearer. Operation booked for 4th Feb but not sure after that. Depends if they find anything in my lymph nodes I guess . Very glad I found this forum. xxx

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

That's what I was singing in my head too!😊X

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

Lol Cheryl!That made me smile!😃X
Hope you get the heating sorted,that's not fun at all in this weather...I don't think my house never gets warm enough in winter and my daughter and I have a big supply of blankets around the house!Roll on summer😊X
Hey Beryl,goodluck for your results Frid,Rachel X

[Wendyy]

Oh Cheryl. I know how you feel. Those minor things that we just used to deal with without hardly noticing suddenly become issues. And why is it us who have to try and smooth things over and raise a smile. Although you're doing a great job! Your running on the spot comment really made me giggle. xxx

[Wendyy]

Welcome Eileen xx can't see your name without singing Come on Eileen (Dexys Midnight Runners) sorry you must have heard that thousands of times. I usually take a look on here most days, it's fab. Hope you find it helpful too xxx

[Chez666]

Dear all, sending big hugs, loads of love and a up yours stupid cancer(pinched from jets/Sarah), hearing just packed up at home and OH has had complete melt down, things we used to rake in our stride, huh. I did remind him we were lucky to have heating but that didn't help, but telling him I could not run on the spot with boobs that are a d cup following surgery seemed to raise a smile! Promise i won't tske a photo as it won't be s pleasant sight and I can't get my arms in this position yet🙆 x x x x

[13gerbera]

Hi Eileen, so sorry you have had to join our 'gang' but as Sarah (JETS) always says, the members of this particular gang are awesome 🙂  I haven't had a single question that these wonderful ladies couldn't answer yet and it is definitely a safe place to come when you want to have a moan or whinge about something as we all understand how scary it is.

Do you know when your treatment will start yet or are you still waiting for formal pathology results before they confirm it for you?

Take care

x

Sharon

[eileen728]

Thanks Beryl. Good to know I can off-load and share xx 

[eileen728]

Thanks Judi - feeling lots of virtual support today which is lovely! Think this forum is going to be helpful xxx

[eileen728]

Thanks Rachel - helps to read all the comments from others and know I am not alone and never having posted anything on a forum it is lovely to get a reply.Of to see my Breast Care Nurse for the first time today. Really appreciate your response - no doubt there will be lots of moans from me in the future but I get the feeling that all the lovely people on this web site are going to help me through it. And then hopefully I can be of help to others too! Love Eileen x

[Matty2]

Hey

Seems some are feeling low today.

Good news if you have the date for stage 2 of treatment. Sooner begun, sooner over and recovery.

Still hanging on for Friday for final results

Eileen we have all   had to join this club and use each other to get through the rough days. Also we can say things on here that don't upset nearest and dearest. We are all good listeners and very helpful - usually with a  dash of humour

Keep smiling Ladies 

berylx

[ollisj6]

Hi Eileen Rachels right this forum is a godsend and if you dont want to chat to family and friends chat to us instead we are always here for you, my hubby is very supportive but not been through it so nice to talk to people who have although your poor hubby will need extra hugs as he has been through it before but you will get there the waiting is the worst but when you have a plan it seems to get a bit better glad you have joined us Love Judi xxxx

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

Hi Eileen...welcome to the group...the ladies on here are lovely and we all in the same rubbish club so can be here for you whenever you just need a good old moan or virtual hugsX
It must have a big shock to you and hard for your husband too,especially after losing his first wife.But lovely you will be fine,be strong and get through all your treatment and when it's all sorted,you can get back to normal...it's great you've got a loving,supportive husband 😊XxRachel

[rachel.collins99@talktalk.net]

Hey Judi hope you've had a nice time meeting your friend and has cheered you up😊..I popped into work today,just to see work mates and get some 'normality '...as have felt like you lately,a bit down.A bit of sunshine would be nice!😊X Take care lovely hugs,Rach Xxxx

[eileen728]

I've just been diagnosed and am surprised by how much it has hit me. I am so used to being fit, healthy and looking after everyone else! My husband is terrific but his first wife died after breast cancer so obviously it brings back a lot of very difficult things for him too. I seem to be OK one minute and tearful and scared the next. Try to hang on to what the radiologist said when he first looked at lump with ultra-sound - 3 or maybe 6 horrible months and then get on with the rest of your life. I do hope so!

[Wendyy]

Chez, sorry I've no experience of the test you mentioned. Is it worth starting a new thread. Someone out there surely will have xx