Wow, Sharon! Can you accompany me at all times cos I never think of things like that till it's too late!
Love Rose xx
Ok Rose, so now I'm being wicked, but I think you should say to them that the hormone treatment you're going to have will make you put on weight temporarily and you don't want to waste money on new temporary clothes so perhaps you could borrow some of theirs, like the outfits they both had on when you went to dinner just before your second surgery as they looked a bit too small for them? 😄 Oh yes, I am evil!
I do feel much better for saying all that and am now plotting revenge. How do I subtly tell my sister how fat she looks in her wedding outfit? and tell my cousin that the platinum blonde, over-tanned, mini-skirt look is soooo ageing? If offered a lift there's always a chance I may have to stop the car and throw up...before they get chance to open the door?
Of course I may just maintain a dignified silence, and then stage some kind of minor collapse?
Got a whole week of limited activity to plan.
I love this forum, and everyone on it!
You're a much nicer person than me Rose, I'd have said 'that must be terrible, do you fancy swapping your illness for mine' in as sweet a tone as I could manage and then sat back and watched her look embarassed! Some people simply have no idea do they?!
Hi rose, booooo.... bad form. Im thinking about you, xxxx people are odd. My mother spent hours on the phone telling me how upset she was and how she hoped I never had to be in her situation with my girls. because obviously just having cancer isnt upsetting enough...
Family. ?.cant beat em eh!
Wish I was closer, I'd come drive you...slowly as corners are still tricky... 😉 we may need to leave early..
Hope you ate something loudly and with much appreciation, and offered bits to everyone!
Just popped by for a moan.
Went out last night for a meal with my sister, cousin, and various other members of my extended family, all aware of my situation. Not one asked how I am, got mocked as said I'd be unable to drive to a family wedding next weekend and would need a lift ("Why? I was able to drive home after a general anaesthetic".... for a b****y tooth extraction!!!!) and my sister was complaining non-stop because most of the menu was off limits to her because she had mouth ulcers. I wasn't looking for lots of sentimental sympathy, we aren't that type of family but it would have been nice to have got a "how are you doing?"/ "hope it' goes well tomorrow" or at least some kind of acknowledgement that what I have is a bit worse than flippin' mouth ulcers, painful though I'm sure they were. Now I know some people feel awkward talking about cancer, but these were not casual acquaintances, rather people I've known and supported all my life.
Rant over. Onwards and upwards!
Thanks for the congrats - just wish it will be the same for you all soon.
TEA - is that where I went wrong???????????? Just don't think I'll be giving it up any time soon!!
Rachel what a kind and considerate daughter you have. 8 ins is a lot of hair to have cut off - Thanks her very much on all our behalf
hi Rachel you must be so proud of your daughter just been spoilt by hubby out for a meal tonight nice to forget about treatment looming Love to everyone Judi xxxx
Beryl that's fantastic, so so so chuffed for you 😄 Hope your post op healing goes well and you get to bin those button popping cardigans now and to forget that you ever needed them in the first place!
I was put on Anastrozole as soon as diagnosed and found to be hormone sensitive
a check will be kept on bone density as side effect can be osteoprosis, this first test is to give a controll they can base other readings on
No drink though until op recovery is compplete and I'm off pain-killers
Bit overwhelmed - I'M CLEAR-
Lymph Nodes clear
Vascular system clear
Chest Wall clear
Ok Boob has gone
OK am on Anastrozole and it's side effects for 5 years but hey.............
Next is bone density in 2 weeks; post op check in 3 months; 12 month check ups and mammograms
And wounds feel better now last of stitches have been removed (thumbs up)
Hi ladies thank goodness everything went ok today cannula stayed put and i had a successful muga scan results in Tuesday when i go for Pre Assesmemt(chemo) going to Harrogate tomorrow for the night belated wedding Anniversary might milk it a bit and then ill be spoilt!!!!! Love to you all Judi xxxx
Yes my students always sing that too me too! At least its a good song. Thanks for your support. Off to hospital now to meet my breast care nurse forthe first time. xxx
Thanks - I am off to see my breast care nurse for the first time now so things might be clearer. Operation booked for 4th Feb but not sure after that. Depends if they find anything in my lymph nodes I guess . Very glad I found this forum. xxx
Hi Eileen, so sorry you have had to join our 'gang' but as Sarah (JETS) always says, the members of this particular gang are awesome 🙂 I haven't had a single question that these wonderful ladies couldn't answer yet and it is definitely a safe place to come when you want to have a moan or whinge about something as we all understand how scary it is.
Do you know when your treatment will start yet or are you still waiting for formal pathology results before they confirm it for you?
Thanks Rachel - helps to read all the comments from others and know I am not alone and never having posted anything on a forum it is lovely to get a reply.Of to see my Breast Care Nurse for the first time today. Really appreciate your response - no doubt there will be lots of moans from me in the future but I get the feeling that all the lovely people on this web site are going to help me through it. And then hopefully I can be of help to others too! Love Eileen x
Seems some are feeling low today.
Good news if you have the date for stage 2 of treatment. Sooner begun, sooner over and recovery.
Still hanging on for Friday for final results
Eileen we have all had to join this club and use each other to get through the rough days. Also we can say things on here that don't upset nearest and dearest. We are all good listeners and very helpful - usually with a dash of humour
Keep smiling Ladies
Hi Eileen Rachels right this forum is a godsend and if you dont want to chat to family and friends chat to us instead we are always here for you, my hubby is very supportive but not been through it so nice to talk to people who have although your poor hubby will need extra hugs as he has been through it before but you will get there the waiting is the worst but when you have a plan it seems to get a bit better glad you have joined us Love Judi xxxx
I've just been diagnosed and am surprised by how much it has hit me. I am so used to being fit, healthy and looking after everyone else! My husband is terrific but his first wife died after breast cancer so obviously it brings back a lot of very difficult things for him too. I seem to be OK one minute and tearful and scared the next. Try to hang on to what the radiologist said when he first looked at lump with ultra-sound - 3 or maybe 6 horrible months and then get on with the rest of your life. I do hope so!