Rock bottom

[feistyflora]

Dear Runner

My apologies - I clumsily hit the 'post' button without finishing the message. I meant to add that I agree with the forum user who suggested that you might both benefit by having counselling. Talking to someone 'neutral' would enable you to see each other's point of view and may help you to decide what is best, whether to stay together or part.

[feistyflora]

Dear Runner

You have been through so much throughout the past few years so no wonder you are reeling.  It is interesting that you state that your partner has been "a great support through difficult times" because that suggests that he really does care for you. Some men who have been married for years cannot cope and leave their partners but he has stuck by you. What exactly does he mean by "not enough affection". Forgive me but is he referring to or just cuddling up on the sofa.  Some people are very tactile and like to hug and kiss whereas others cannot bear to be touched, even by their partners. I am afraid that a union between the former and the latter type of person is almost certain to be disaster.

[rosie14]

Dear runner you have had to suffer so much and it's bad enough battling cancer but the loss of your dear son must be heartbreaking!
Maybe your partner would agree to counselling for you both. If he is still in the same mind set I would question whether or not he is the one for you! Hopefully you have family and friends that can help you deal with the next 12 months. Don't be afraid to seek support there sadly must be others out there that have had a similar experience. Stay strong and take each day at a time! Do keep in touch with us!💐

[Lizzy_BCC]

Hi runnerkb, 

I am really sorry to hear you are going through this difficult time.

As Mary32 said the forum users are very supportive and always here if you want to talk.

Also, if you would like to, you can always call our support line at 0808 800 6000 who can talk to you about what you are going through and offer a friendly ear.

Best wishes, 

Lizzy 

Digital Community Assistant 

[mary32]

Hi Runner

I cannot begin to understand how you feel, you have been through so much, yet it seems that you are still standing as you have reached out to people here. I don't know whether you have been on the site here before but everyone is so supportive and you can say anything you like, no one will be offended or upset.

Are you and your partner still talking? Did you live together? How old was your son when he died? It is early days for you yet, his death is so recent it is not surprising that you feel the way you do.

Please talk to us more if you feel able.

Mary

[runnerkb]

I feel so low and unable to cope. I had breaat cancer in 2014 surgery, chemo, radiotherapy and now tamoxifen. At the same time my son had Hogkin lymphoma and after three years of treatment we lost him on 12 Dec. I met my partner a few months before I was diagnosed and too his credit he has been a great support through difficult times. We are seperating now as he says I dont show him enough affection. Im trying to cope with the loss of my son, dealing with the fear of breast cancer returnin, he doesnt seem to understand. How do I cope, I dont know what to do.