May I ask how old you are?
My daughter is 35; the young lady we met on Monday is 35 now and was 31 years old when she found her lump. She has been cancer free for the past 3 1/2 years but of course, has to attend for regular check up appointments with her Oncologist. She looks so healthy and feels so well.
My daughter, after three treatments, has lost her hair and lost about 12lbs. But now her appetite has returned and she is maintaining a healthy weight. Other than feeling nauseaus, tired and weak; those are her major complaints for now. Particularly after the "white blood cell injection she has to give herself the day after chemo. Her treatments are every other Thursday, things are rough Friday & Saturday following; but by Sunday she starts to feel betterl. As the week progresses; other than tiring easily; she feels better.
The treatment she currently receives changes for the remaining 4 cycles starting June 30th; her Oncologist told her she wont feel so nauseaus, but will experience significant joint/muscle pain. Jen has a remarkable outlook and has two beautiful little boys (ages 2 and 7 months) that bring her joy and a reason to never give up.
Do you have children? What is your treatment plan?
Hi there, thank you for responding ...
You and Taryn have "made my day". Please see my response to her above and would love for you to please keep me updated and share your journey with me.
I know exactly how your Mom is feeling; life as our family once knew it, has changed. Our kids, no matter what the age, are not supposed to get sick ... "not this sick". I worry every day ... thats what Moms do. LOL
Please, please let me know how you're doing.
BIG HUGS ...
Taran, thank you for your reply ....
A close friend of ours set up a lovely dinner and introduction last night with a neighbour who's 31 year old daughter was diagnosed 4 years ago at age 31. She is now 35 and is cancer free.
It was such a positive evening with Jennifer coming away with new perceptives, expectations (the good, the bad and the ugly), and wonderful advice provided by this lovely young woman who is now "cancer free".
Having a chance to share my feelings and fears with her mom, in front of my daughter ... was amazingly therapeutic for me, because I knew that as I was speaking, with "Joanne (the mom"), she was nodding acknowledging what I was sharing, knowing EXACTLY how I felt.
This morning, I spoke with my daughter and she sounded so uplifted and in her exact words "feels great today". This last round of chemo (3rd) has taken a toll on her this past weekend.
Please continue to share with me ... would love to hear from you!
fyi ... we live in Brampton, Ontario, Canada ... just outside of Toronto.
Big hugs ...
Hi, I'm 32 years old (well, on Sunday!) and was diagnosed stage 3 grade 3 tnbc on may 10th. I also have a 12 week old daughter, and 3 sons age 5 and under. I'm sure your daughter feels the same as me, that it is the worry for her children that is the worst part of all this. I feel like I can deal with whatever they throw at me treatment wise, but the effect it will have on my children is the bit that makes me angry and scared. My mum has been a massive support throughout it all so far (I've had surgery and now waiting to start chemo) and I know she will continue to be. All you can do for your daughter is to be there. Listen when she wants to talk, don't push it when she doesn't, offer childcare when she has appointments to take that stress away. I have to be honest though, sometimes I just want someone to get angry and sad with me about it all. Because it's not fair and it is scary, and sometimes being surrounded by so much positivity is wonderful, but sometimes what helps is to cry and shout about it! It's like a complete rollercoaster of emotions. Some days I feel really strong, other days I cry at every little thing! So yes, be strong for your daughter but please don't feel like that means you can't show her how upset you are for her. Just being there will mean more than the world to her right now xx
i was just diagnosed 3 weeks so havent even started treatment yet this is the worst part all the waiting. My mum has been a tower of strengh for me although i have caught her crying a few times she has arranged for meet some of her friends one of them has beaten it at 35 years old and again at 55 years old gave me so much hope. my mastectomy is booked 20 june then they will know what type of chemo i will need and radiotherapy medical science these days is amazing. My sisters friend got it at 33 and it was invasive in her chest wall too she is now in remission. There is always hope and you will both be strong for each other I could not do this without my mum at my side xx
I am a 57 year old Mom of three beautiful daughters ages 35, 34 and 32. All of whom have blessed us with four grandsons all under the age of 2.
In November of 2015, my eldest, Jennifer ... prematurely gave birth to her second son five weeks early. He developed some issues but has come through them with flying colours.
In January this year, Jen discovered a small grape-sized lump in her breast which she self-diagnosed as a clogged milk duct. (She was breast-feeding at the time). Jen has two little boys, ages 2 and 7 months now.
The lump grew in size in February. She attended at our doctors who also diagnosed her having a clogged milk duct. By April, and I am not exagerrating, this lump was the size of a fist! She attended at our family doctor who immediately sent her for a rush Mammogram and ultrasound. We received the results that afternoon and they diagnosed her as having a Phylloid tumour. Our Dr got her immediately accepted into the Rapid Diagnostic clinic that week at Sunnybrook Hospital in Toronto.
To make a long story short, after an enormous amount of tests, scans, mammo's, biopsy's, genetic study, etc etc; on April 25th our life, as we knew it has changed. The worst news ever .. her diagnosis is Stage 3, Level C, Invasive Ductal Carcinoma, Triple Negative. Cancer is in her lymph nodes and chest wall. Genetic testing proved negative. What we prayed to hear ... was the word "treatment".
On May 5th, her first of 8 treatments over 16 weeks commenced, with what I have seen nicknamed The Red Devil. She has come through the first five weeks remarkably; only major complaints are fatigue and weakmess, hair loss ... and some nauseasness.
Her large lump which measured 11x12cm's on her first day of chemo; shrunk to 8x10 on May 19th, and last Thursday, June 2nd, measured 6x6cm's. Clearly she is responding ...
The treatment plan is for her to have a double masectomy and she is opting to have a possible hysterectomy in the fall, followed by 25 sessions of radiation over 25 days (five weeks); then reconstruction perhaps in the New Year.
I am trying to stay as strong as she is appearing, but it's so hard .. as a mom, her mom. I know how scared I am, I can not imagine how/what she may be feeling. I find myself crying without any warning; when I am not around her.
Is there any mom, (or young daughter who has/is going through this) out there that can share a similar story and coach me on how to be strong; what to expect (good or bad) .. be honest. We have a phenonmal family/friend support ... and so blessed.