That's great news, when I read your posts I can see me saying the same things, I think we must be similar lol !!!! Take care and keep me updated, I have my results next Wednesday so may be starting chemo around the same time if needed.xxxx
She is getting stronger everyday and the Surgeon was very pleased, seeing her again in six weeks for another checkup,she has been signed off for 4 weeks but she won't stay off that long (the Madam)
I am back at work on Monday looking forward to it I am knackered after running round after her lol take care of yourself and try not to worry to much it,(easier said than done) was great news today and this dreadful time of your life will soon just be a horrible memory
Great news,I am so pleased for you
"Caroline you do not have secondary cancer!" Doctors do not make statements like this to make you feel better,we saw our surgeon today after marg's reconstruction and it always strikes me how professional and somewhat detached they are, they give you facts .I remember reading somewhere if a radiologist picked at random a person off the street a MRI would show up things like cysts etc
It's all about trying to help people sweetheart,sad part is that whatever anyone says to you,you will still have that horrible knot in your stomach when you walk through the door for your results,but as I said that is the hard part, it really is please make sure you don't do it alone,if it is good news you can go and celebrate with a quick bevy,if its not as good as you want a good cuddle really helps,make sure you ask the questions you want answering, don't leave the room till you are happy, knowledge is power.If i was your neighbour honestly i would say 'Your children need you,you need your children remember that and you will be fine,let us know how you get on and I promise the ladies on here will rally round, whether it be great news or maybe not as good as you wanted.Marg and me will have everything crossed for you chick.
Caroline as all the Ladies on here will tell you (I can only talk about my wife from her perspective)that the waiting room is the hardest part of your journey,I promise you that when you have the results of your tests and a treatment plan in place you WILL start to feel better.
Marg had three tumors 2 of 2 centimeters and 1 of 1 centimeter,no nodes involved,and no vascular.
We had no idea what that meant, but we had a treatment plan in place,mastectomy,chemo, radiotherapy,and we worked our way through it,well she did I could only support her.Two years on she has just had her reconstruction,which she was never going to have till the tissue expander was ruptured during rads,Tissue expander another word we had never heard of.You will here lots of words that you have never heard of.
Sweetheart you will get through this,you really will, a mothers love for her children is a massive weapon in your arsenal,get through the next day or so however you can,get your plan in place,our consultant told Marg give me six months of your life and I will give you your life back,hold on to that thought,and the very best of luck for your results..
She is getting better everyday thank you very much for asking,Poems you are a very special lady, to take the time to reply to ladies on here with such kindness,when you could so easily just forget about everybody else and focus on yourself.Special times bring out special people.
loulou, it was the praise that embarrassed me I'm not used to it.
I love to come on here and be of some help (if I can) to others. Apart from anything else, it helps me get my head around the last year and all the things I've experienced.
caz, I'm sure you will soon be posting helpful and supportive comment on here too.
Kevin, I hope Marg is still gaining strength after her surgery, and getting back into some kind of normality.
Sending you all hugs.
Yes I have had surgery, I had a lumpectomy last Thursday, still sore under arm but not too bad. My diagnosis from my initial biopsy is grade 2, however my BC nurse has advised this could change on my pathology report. The size is estimated at 2.2cm but again I've been told this could also change. I have decided if I do not get clear margins I will request a mastectomy. I do know I am oestragen pos, no results on her2 as yet. I will not get my results until next Wednesday and I'm finding the wait hard but am dealing with each day at a time. TBH I am not crying all the time but mornings are worse and I do get tearful then but seem to pick up through the day. I've always been a bit of a hypochondriac so as you can imagine every pain I have goes back to the cancer....awful !!!
It is helpful to speak with people on here in a similar situation. I'm 37 years mum to two boys 11 & 8 and never dreamed this would happen, not ever in my family...big shock !!
Poemsgalore please do not feel embarrassed, to share your journey on this site and continue to offer support and reassurance is remarkable and inspiring.... sorry not meaning to embarrass you but yourself and ladies like you need to know this xxx
Take care ladies and will update tomorrow when I've seen my new boob !!! xxxxxx
Caz, no offence taken. I was just concerned that you had been given the wrong impression. I didn't want you thinking that older women were just left to their own devices when nothing could be further from the truth. It is true though that younger women may still be offered chemo for a lower graded tumour when older women might not be due, as you say, to the fact that the older we get the more difficult it is for us to cope with extreme treatment. If my cancer had only been a grade 1 or 2 with no nodes affected, I would happily have just gone on to have the hormone tablet and no chemo. But it was offered, so I grabbed it with both hands
Good luck for your CT scan on Thursday.
loulou I am embarrassed by your lovely comment, thank you
Im really sorry you are so low at the moment, it is really devastating and difficult to cope at times. I was diagnosed just after you on the 8th January and can't remember that much about it apart from despair and utter devastation which also included and still does a feeling of guilt for my children. When I look in on my situation from the outside I realise I shouldn't feel like this, but I do..... We can't help this, but we can accept its an emotion a lot of ladies must feel.
I have found comfort being on this forum and believe reading and also receiving support when I have posted has helped me greatly. At the moment I am waiting for my pathology report and believe me every pain in my body, even my thumb as a niggling worry that the cancer has spread all over my body... Again this is probably normal and a hell if a lot if ladies will feel like this.
You have three positives oestrogen pos, her 2 neg and no lymph involvement.
I hope you find some support on here and check out some of the ladies further down the journey, including poems galore, I know a post from this lady is going to be helpful and positive
Hope you start to feel better soon, take care, love Louise xxxxx
I hope this makes you feel better
Although each case is different, the outlook for mucinous breast cancer is generally better than most other types of invasive breast cancer.
So sorry to hear you are going through this scary time right now. With regard to having chemo because of your age, whilst it is true that younger women are usually offered chemo, so are we older women if we have a grade 3 tumour. I am a February Valentine 2013 (monthly chemo group) and quite a few of us were over 60. I was 61 when diagnosed with ductal invasive grade 3 tumour and also had lymph nodes involved. It was also oestrogen/progestogen positive. That is a good thing because after chemo and rads (if you have them) you will have a tablet as you've said, for 5 years. Possibly Tamoxifen. You are lucky in that you have no lymph nodes affected, and that is how the cancer spreads to other parts of your body. I had 3 removed, one affected. I think your doctor was very wrong in saying that you wouldn't be getting chemo if you were 70. Even if that is how he sees it, he shouldn't have passed his feelings on to you. I have heard of a woman of 90 having chemo.
You are NOT pathetic, you have very real fears and are stepping into the unknown. Let me tell you that it is unlikely you will die in the immediate future. I am one year one from my treatment and have just passed my first annual breast check and mammogram with flying colours. No evidence of disease. We all feel different lumps and anomalies straight after diagnosis. Stress, worry and fear can make us feel all kinds of things. You are going through the worst time at the moment as you are in the waiting room and don't know what will happen. Please keep coming on here for a moan or a rant, we will support you. When you have a start date for chemo, go the the monthly chemo thread section and post in the latest group (February 2014) where others are beginning chemo and you will have their support and will be able to share your experiences. Share your fears and worries. I can't promise that it will be easy, but it won't be as difficult as you imagine.
Sending very big hugs and wishing you well for the rest of your treatment.
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