After reading your post I just want to say I am thinking of you. I have bone mets too. The worst one led to a break in the kneck of my femur. The pain with that wasn't constant but came and went over months. I had pain on and off from December 2012 until the fracture in May 2013. I also have 3 other micromets in my coccyx, thoracic spine and the big bone in pelvis. I wonder with your symptoms if they could perform a more detailed scan to check the exactly what is going on. It would hopefully help to put your mind at rest.
Wishing you all the best.
I'm afraid I can't give you any useful advice on how spinal mets feel as I am one of the fortunate ones that at the moment has no pain from them, but the warning signs of spinal cord compression are what the onc reg mentioned:
numbness, pins and needles in your legs or loss of control of bowels or bladder plus numbness in your
hands or around your bottom or genitals.
The onc sounds like a right charmer! If they thought there was the slightest risk of spinal cord compression after looking at your scan I would have hoped that the doctor would have checked more thouroughly as to what these lesions were. Did the onc say that they were going to scan you again to find out what these 'somethings' are?
Sorry I couldn't be more help; hopefully someone with more experience of bone mets pain will be along soon to reassure you.
I know how awful the anxiety can be.