Dear Esther
While you are waiting for some replies from other forum members I thought you may find our publication on "Breast Cancer in Families" helpful. Here is the link:
http://www2.breastcancercare.org.uk/sites/default/files/dbc_breast_cancer_in_families.pdf
It might also help to talk things over with someone on our helpline. The opening times are 9-5 on weekdays and 10-2 on Saturdays. The number is 0808 800 6000. Calls are free and confidential.
Very best wishes
Janet
BCC Moderator