Yeah, WTF, there's no answer to that one
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Ha ha Angela, looks like a case of 'jam tomorrow' (sorry, couldnt stop myself)
A friend called this morning, and glancing at my top, said 'oh, you've still got your cleavage'.
She doesnt know WLE was at '4 o'clock', or that I'm waiting on BRCA result, but she is a good friend so I'll forgive her
Another pal, youngish male, very nervously told me how sorry he was to hear my news. He'd obviously been working up to what to say, so I thanked him and told him how much it meant him saying that
BCC, we need some more emotion thingies please
A friend I havnt seen for ages said 'OMG, I just found out (about my dx), Oh I'm so depressed, I'm still in shock', etc etc, so I said, 'Oh I'm fine, I've known since March, I've got used to it now' (Sarasm is one of my stronger points).
Later, my OH told me she said she would come and visit me, and he told her, 'I wouldnt do that, she's just tell you to f*** off'
Actually, I think you're right Topsymo, and most people have gernuine concern,albeit in a cack handed manner, so if they are totally off the mark I just change the conversation, and if I think it will change anything, I put them right, but ususlly if asked how things are I just say 'up and down with spells of total crap'
Wow Wendy.. i can't believe your 'friend' said that to you!
As Poems said, why don't you do a swap - she how she likes having BC? Definitely one 'friendship' you can well do without!
Sorry to hear about your clot..That is just rubbish isn't it...really hoping the medics can sort you out?
So sorry you now have blood clots thanks to Tamoxifen. How many gifts can this awful disease give us??? And what a 'friend' I think I'd have said: "Ok, next time I'll have flu and you can have breast cancer" just to see what the response would be. Does she know why you've dropped her?
So glad I found this thread today, been feeling sorry for myself as I've just developed blood clots from taking tamoxifen (even though I told the Hosp I shouldn't have it, as I'd already had a clot following chemo), but this has put a smile on my face.
I think one of my faves was a "friend" who I hadn't seen in a while. After I told her I'd had BC DX, her response was.....well that's nothing, I've had the flu! I mean WTF!! Needless to say I let that friendship drop!
My friend's dad said to me: You look great - when are you going to stop sponging off the rest of us and get back to work?
I HOPE he was joking. Im not sure he was.
I had not long finished radiotherapy and was living on painkillers due to pain caused by chemotherapy, radiotherapy. tamoxifen and menopause (thank you chemo). Looking after my 7 year old was exhausting me. I had no energy and just muttered about having fatigue and needing some preventative surgery.
Well said Topseymo. I personally have been so touched by acquaintances and their kindness when they have found out by chance. The not so nice comments from my 'nearest and dearest' have actually given me an inner strength to get back to my old self - so they've actually been beneficial too.
I've just had a dozey friend responding to my little saga about the fight I had to get reduction on irradiated breast (to even up Droopy and Parky) by saying 'Well MY boobs have always been lop-sided'. The reply that shuts 'em up is 'Yes that's how you were born, I'm like this cos I had to permit someone to mutilate my body to keep me alive'. Works every time.....
We are all different in how we react to our changed bodies, and what we want to do about it AND THAT IS ABSOLUTELY FINE.
Just reminds me why I decided to keep the whole BC scenario private except for one or two close friends.
Hey Lulu, its such a huge issue this being phoned at home thing - by unwanted callers - I am writing to MP about it cos its so hard to deal with when you are waiting for other news or dealing with other news. All the ebst for your continuing tests, treatments etc,
Don't let the ******** get you down. While I was awaiting results and deciding whether to do the lumpectomy or mastectomy close friend recommend that I just cut off both breasts. She said the were just lumps of fat and since I wasn't married what difference did it make!
I have just been reading the comments on this thread, and thought I would add mine.
When I was going through chemo eighteen months ago, my daughter had a friend call around.
She reported after her friend had left, that the friend was shocked at how 'normal' I looked. When my daughter questioned what she meant, her friend replied that she had expected me to be skeletal, and in a wheelchair!!Charming!
Words fail me!!! It makes me so angry to read some of the comments some of you have had to put up with. Normally, I wouldn't wish breast cancer on my worst enemy - but there are some people.........grrrr
Wonderful! Talking of MIL mine was absolutely furious when we told her i had bc. Apparently i had 'got it on purpose so the family would ask me how i was instead of asking about her'. Every time i saw her for months afterwards all i got spat at me was 'you look well, it's obviously not a serious cancer'. Now 7 years later she suggested she should come and live with us as she is frail and needs looking after. She was moved into a care home 2 weeks ago!!