77.2K members
1.2M posts
cancel
Showing results for 
Search instead for 
Did you mean: 

Surgery & living alone

Re: Surgery & living alone

oK I will put TV on my list, got to figure out what program,

I quite fancy deal or no deal !! x

Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Just mistakenly posted on the nipple thread for you Dawn!I said have you ever appeared on t.v, you could put that on your list and let us know which programme to watch !!

Re: Surgery & living alone

Thanks Jill, I have asked for some advice on there people are so helpfull..

Well fellow tits, its my 50th Birthday in September and whilst I am spending most of my time thinking about Nipples!!!

I thought I would do a 50th list all the things I would like to do and probally never going to get round to it!! lol

I fancied getting married

Unfortunately being single thats a big problem...

So if you have any ideas what I should do to take my mind off NIPPLES!!XXXX

Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Dawn there is a thread called "nipples!" In the surgery section of going though treatment where I'm sure you will get some info re what options you have.
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

They have some rather unusual traditional instruments in Mongolia may be I could learn one.....Bored of mouth organ .....

Re: Surgery & living alone

Actually sounds like a good plan Jill xx
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

If you like walking dogs without the commitment of owning one it's a good arrangement .Yes ,I'm thinking rehearse in Mustique and test the water in Outer Mongolia .....

Re: Surgery & living alone

I agree Jill Mongolia seams perfect for us...And the dog walking charity is brilliant I may even sign myself up for that..
Good Morning xxx
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Glad you enjoyed the Polo Dee.Im not sure Britain is ready for our music yet,may need to test it out in more remote part if the world like Outer Mongolia first....
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Shame about the dog June,could you do dog walking as a bit of a sideline?Or work for an organisation like the Cinnamon Trust who link people who are struggling to walk their dogs due to health problems with people who are fit and active?

Re: Surgery & living alone

Charlie would always help us tits out. Broached the subject of us going on Britains Got Talent with my friend and she thought it was a great idea! Said we would get huge support!!! Xxxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Richard Branson I sure he will say yes..You should have asked Charlie to put a good word in for us tits xxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Hi Dee
Glad you enjoyed the Polo, sitting near Charlie too ☺
I do Love the Royal family, I guess they are like marmite!! X

Re: Surgery & living alone

Evening everyone one...
I was just wondering if anyone has got any knowledge on nipples?
Bizzare question I know, I just don't know whether to have a fake one thats done in surgery on a stick on one!!
My memory is shocking and I am confused about everything...xxxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Hi Girls,
Polo was fab and England won! I was sitting quite near to Prince Charles. It was a really good game and i'll definetely be going back next year! It was such fun 😃

Welcome Cashie x

My tit has stayed the same size after rads. I was worried about it getting smaller as they are quite small anyway! 34b/c. Showed my boob to my best friend from uni days and she couldn't tell any difference such was the skills of my surgeon who is fab! My lymph node scar has disappeared and its all healed up well. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Sheena yes you can opt to get the other boob lifted on the nhs if you choose. My surgeon told me she would do it herself but i don't need it as shes done such a good job in the first lplace they are both same size and even 👍xxxx
Looking like we will have to persuade Richard Branson to charter us a whole plane to Mustique! Xxxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Glad you're happy with yours June x I'm not happy with mine, everyone is different!

Re: Surgery & living alone

HiSheena,

 

Not necessarily shriveled my dear, mine actually looks bigger, lol in fact my boobs look great,lol, i was wearing a jump suit slightly low cut when my friend got home from work when sitting doggie, she said "god you are showing your cleavage." i said if youve got it flaunt it, i nearly didnt have it did ilol. Im feeling a need 32 d cups, but ive a load of matching sets, icant really afford to replace my undies wardrobe.! Junex

Re: Surgery & living alone

Hi Cashie,

 

Welcome to the site. I was actually like you grade 2 but then 3 as aggressive my first node was suspect so they took them all when i had my lumpdectomy.  My hospital seems to do this, many dont, but i didnt mind, one less place for any rougue cells to lurk i felt.And they came back all were clear, and clear margins so was just rads and tamoxifen,  so 3 doesent always mean chemo if all other nodes clear,They always seem to gibe worst case senario,    June 

Re: Surgery & living alone

Hi Jill,

 

Not really possible for me to have a dog,i live in a flat, ok its my own flat, not rented but dogs not allowed in our lease, cats ok, some have indoor ones, i dont agree with  indoor cats , not dogs though but in a flat i wouldnt want a pet, not big enough and no private garden.  I adore my friends dog, and she knows i do  but  she has a bit of a mental block about me walking him. Ok its in the city surburbs where she lives, but there is a little park round the corner from her house, but no im not allowed to walk him.  hes a working cocker and he does pull a bit, but im sure id be ok but i cant persuade her.

 

Yes Norfolk and Norwich is a decent hospital, we have a dedicated Cancer centre,where they do everything.and apart from the first surgeon i saw who scared me rigid talking about chemo, losing my hair, and what would all be like, and wanted to change my op date to week later, the breast cancer care nurse, phoned me later after id seen him, luckily my friend, the one i dog sit for was with me, and she took over phone as i went to pieces,she got quite shirty with them and said i lived alone and she felt i wouldnt cope witth the delay,  I then got a new surgeon and earlier date and from then on ive no complaints at all,. great treatment, pleasant staff  and no inappropriate remarks like you and Dawn. Both very uncalled for  And of course i didnt need chemo so first surgeon was wrong.

 

Junex.

 

 

Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

June, have you thought of getting a dog of your own ?Mine gets me out and about to a places I would never go and walk alone and you meet so many people.Dog walkers are so much more chatty as your dogs break the ice and you pass the time of day while they sniff each other,I have met loads of new people since I got my dog 2 years ago.

Re: Surgery & living alone

Hi Dee,

 

O is tomorrow the polo, hope weather good sounds a bit iffy in S east but did get out today didnt it.

 

Are you going alone if so brave girl,  Hope you meet a rich handsome man,lol

 

Hows the taxmoxifen going. Apart from the sweats im ok.  Have felt bit tearful today, but often feel down at weekends as coupled up friends all have other committments so normally spend it alone, definitely need more single compatible friends here but god knows where to find them as ive said Norwich is a very couply place And mon have to go to the dentist Grrrr. still ive pretty good teeth for a 60 plus, all intact and in pretty good shape.  Tues my old schoolfriend coming over, we are have a look round shops then having a meal out Carluccios probably our favourite shes doing well after her ovarian.and wed back to sitting my friends dog, he is a sweetie, love him to bits.

 

Keep us posted on the polo.

 

Junexx

Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Thanks June, yes pub helped!Seems to be a big difference how people are treated dependent on where you are.Go Norfolk ,sounds a lot nicer than the place I visited yesterday ,very bleak, enough to push you over the edge if you were teetering on the brink.

Re: Surgery & living alone

HI Jill,

 

O that wasnt nice , Like Dee my hospital the Norfolk and Norwich has a separate cancer centre,everyhtng there and quite pleasant place. Goodness i thought all hospitals would have had everything together,Its not usual Norfolk is ahead of rest of UK but it is a teaching university hospital s maybe thats why. I had my hysterectomy in one 20 miles away on the coast where i used to iive not such a large one and have to say Norfolk and Norwich superior

 

Going to the pub good ;plan, sure helped make you feel better.  June

Re: Surgery & living alone

Mael and all other tits...
It has come to my attention from stuff on this site, my own experience, that sometimes medical experts say completely the appropriate thing, us being polite Never pull them up polite...
So what does anyone feel about next time it happens.
We poliety tell the person how inappropriate what they said was.....For the sake of the rest of the women that have to go through this..Lets train everyone..
I know my cancer is clear, i still have other procedures to go through,
Wed the nurse in my surgery said my bloob was lovely and she would draw me a nipple.
I just looked at her in disbelief.
What I should have said was, Please if anyone else comes in needing thier banadages changed with the same condition, please show some respect because I really am trying Not to Cry and scream at you..xxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Mael, I may demand corrective plastic surgery in the future if it really does go"tits up", I believe that bc ladies are entitled to have this done, sure I read it somewhere.
Not sunny here, rainy and cool
oh I have listened to what folks have said about sticking to the same tamoxifen brand and after having a chat with Lloyds pharmacist they are happy to mark my records as such and always have the Mylan brand in for me, so far side effects are "manageable" so will stick with it for a while
enjoy weekend B9 ! Xxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Sheena, re: the wizened misshapen boob -- I always had a boob much bigger than the other, altho with my cast iron bras it wasn't visible. The offended one is, sadly, the lil' one -- which is now even smaller. 

It was the only moment when the oncologist showed a deliciously humble side: "the boob can shrink or swell with the rads... I really hope yours swells..." (it felt also strangely dissonant, as he had delivered five minutes before a tragic-ish speech to persuade me to have chemo -- I mean, you tell me that I might die, and then you worry about my symmetry? Oh well... :D).

 

Listen, at the worse we'll stuff it in a sock. Or wrap it in a gel shoe sole, like Dee suggested weeks ago 😄 xx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Happy Saturday morning ladies! 

 

Cashie, welcome to the bonkers thread. We are a bit wild jesters here but by no means shallow; feel free to express your emotions even when they are negative: there's no parade to rain on. It would be wonderful if we could all meet in person and support each other face to face, but we are all scattered across the UK, so we have to make do with doing it over the web. Cancer is sheer madness: I hope that our sometimes black humour and heartfelt moral support can be an additional anchor to sanity for you.

 

Dee, no news from the Marsden: at this point I believe it's not going to happen. My treatment plan is now laid ahead, and it's pretty standard stuff, so, even if I am a bit meh with not being moved there, I have to admit it probably doesn't make a massive amount of difference as far as my health is concerned. My rads are at Hammersmith Hospital, which is great news as I won't have to see every day the place rife with horrid memories, and it's also a lil' more convenient for travelling from my dwellings (not so much from my office, but still a net gain).

 

Sheena, Magical Moon, June, Dawn, I hope this morning is sunny for you, as the London sky is right now. Waiting to pack for Mustique, I am off for some shopping -- speak laterz x

 

Re: Surgery & living alone

Haha yeah, that might smooth things out!
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Maybe we could get boob Botox Sheena??

Re: Surgery & living alone

Makes me think of amanda holden, every time I see her on telly I say out loud "what's she done to her face?"

Re: Surgery & living alone

Lol!! Xxz
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Had a face lift!

Re: Surgery & living alone

My right boob is looking at the left ans saying
What have you done!!! xx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Well when we get on our holls we can all go topless
And be bloody proud!!
That means I can save money by only buying bottoms in the sale xxx
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Right boob will be looking at left and saying "wow you've let yourself go "!!!
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

Yes ,something to look forward Sheena,wizened misshapen boob.

Re: Surgery & living alone

Jill, mine is not looking respectable at all, no idea how it is going to be affected by rads, shrinking and shriveled I suppose x
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Surgery & living alone

This is a roller coaster Dawn, emotional highs and lows all the way.My boob is looking more misshapen by the day but at least I haven't had to face what you have.Welcome Cashie,sorry you didn't get the results you were hoping for and have to face further surgery,we have room for you on the plane to Mustique.....

Re: Surgery & living alone

Good job he did! I've got a mental picture of you face down on the sofa lol x

Re: Surgery & living alone

Hi Sheena Yes date did text me back!!
Said it was early days and what other procedures do I have to have..
I had passed out by then !!! Xxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Cashie aka Cath...Welcome in board, These fine ladies have got a PHD in tits and all things to do with bands singing and generally anything else....
How are you xxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Hi dawn
fantastic news, no further treatment is just the best news. I know that you are not home and dry jus yet and you will need time to adjust to blooby.
did potential date text back? If he's a Billy you're better off without the hassle x
hopefully you're heads not too sore this morning
sheena x

Re: Surgery & living alone

Good morning cashie x
You're very welcome here and we will all try to support you virtually
what dreadful news, it's not what you were expecting at all
have you had discussions with surgeon around his/her expectations of clearing a safe margin as opposed to mastectomy?
Twin boys must be such a handful, have you got support from family, or their dad?
Sorry for all the questions, just really worried for you x

Re: Surgery & living alone

Wow Mustique, I am packing, don't forget me!!!
I met surgeon yesterday, I am a very Lucky Lady i had 180mm in my breast it was not invasive and not in lymph nodes...No further treatment...
They took the bandages off my bloob, that is exactly what it is a bloob, I am not loving it!!!
I know ii is still early days, last night I consumed a large amount of vino and cryed!! I know I am a baby!!
I morned the loss of my old boob,
Then I texted my only chance of a date and told him my bloob is not so great and I was having a cry!!
Needless to say I feel Stupid this morning, and I am having a little laugh about it xxxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

P.S I deffiantely agree with calling acqward men Billy!! ☺☺☺

Re: Surgery & living alone

Jill prehaps it should be your mission if you choose to accept it and have enough energy...
Brighten up the miserably breast care unit...
Dee polo match lucky you, I have always wanted to go especially at windsor my Great Great Grandfather lived there he was head coach man to the queen..
Oopps Morning ladies xxx

Re: Surgery & living alone

Dawn 1 ....... I've eventually plucked up the courage & joined this forum.    

 

Hi guys, I'm new to this site, Dawn 1 & I were on the same ward ............ a real character I have to say! 🙂 

 

I'm a single parent with 11 yr twins and had a lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy on the 6th July (lump was a predicated grade 2).  Results came back on Tuesday, grade 3 (aggressive).  Unfortunately, I didn't have the 2mm clear margins and one of my lumph nodes is cancerous so back in on Wednesday for shaving and axillary clearance.  

Re: Surgery & living alone

Mael you heard anything about the marsden yet? X

Re: Surgery & living alone

Love the idea of calling any moody or awkward men Billy from now on. Dawn i'm sure you'll approve x

Re: Surgery & living alone

Jill, you describe the sensaton so well: it's exactly how I feel, every appointment rubs the C thing in my face, and my heart sinks. I am glad nonetheless that the goat was well behaved to you, despite the indecent exposure of your clinical data. Nothing to be ashamed of anyway, I think -- for fear of the people talking, I basically shouted my diagnosis through a tannoy myself. Being basically a gay man in a female body, therefore straight, I haven't got, nor will ever have, a "coming out" experience, but I've had my BC outing fairly publicly and early in the process... 

 

Ladies, I stay away for one day and I discover we are going to Mustique? Wikipedia here I come, I vaguely suspect it's somewhere exotic... on second thought, I don't care where it is or what it is; when do we leave? 🙂

 

You ladies can have my champers tho, and I'll have your caviar (and oysters! Where are the oysters?) x