thanks for the link blueash it was an interesting read
logically I know that these things can not be worthwhile or no one would have cancer today for any length of time, however I suppose its human nature to want to find some other weapon to fight it with and to feel worried that the treatment plan may not be right for you,,, putting your life in someone elses hands is scarey but they are the experts
Those well meaning people drive me mad!
I always go to this site:
There they can set you right if your friend tells you that eating dandylion leaves picked at a given stage of the moon ( or any such rubbish) are far better for you than all the scientists, doctors, surgeons and universities combined knowledge put together!
Such people can harm us by denigrating sound scientific treatments.
Thanks so much to you all for your support, I have found what you all said comforting and have decided to go with a kind of belt and braces path.
I will take the advice of the specialist consultants who are trained in breast care and will follow their advice as closely as Im able. I have to beleive that they are offering me my best chance of survival and as for people giving me this chemo kills stuff I will avoid them like the plague and if I feel strong enough at the time I will point out just how dreadful that kind of advice feels when you are facing the mountain lion in your fridge
Love that story it is so true I nodded all the way through reading it
I will also as far as possible continue to eat healthy avoiding sugar and processed foods - though to be fair I pretty much have been doing that for a number of years anyway
Thank goodness for this place and all of you X
Oh dear, these friends, are they medically or scientifically qualified? If not then I don't see how you can take any notice of what they say. I get so fed up with people telling cancer patients that if they only ate turmeric/apricot kernels/snake oil then they would get well without any conventional medicine. I have no problem with people taking supplements (as long as they don't interfere with the conventional drugs etc) - I take them myself as a safety net - but so much time, energy and money goes into scientific research that I have no sympathy with those who rubbish it. When I was diagnosed I googled a lot - I'm the sort of person who needs information - and I read a lot of the scientific research on the treatment regime I had. I saw the improvement in outcomes for patients as a result of that research, and I feel very grateful for it. If I had been diagnosed ten years earlier there's a good chance I wouldn't have survived five years. As it is I reach my ten year anniversary next year.
Poor you ...your head must be battered . The first piece of advice I was given was to steer away from negativity ... not so easy if its front of your nose . But I guess if its getting you down maybe as tough as it is to do you may have to thank people for their input but point out youre going through a difficult time and youve heard them but now youre ready to think and make your own decisions and hope they can respect your need to do this ... the actual advice I got was to say " if youve nothing positive to say then dont say anything" ha ha dont know about you Andrea but I couldnt see myself saying that as much as maybe Id like to .
Try and trust your gut instincts .. but I think youll have to try and close down to the outside influences first ...good luck ...down let them get you down youve got enough on your plate Big hugs xxxx
I love the mountain lion cancer analogy - read it here if you havent already:
Maybe show your well-meaning but unhelpful friends this too as it very accurately describes the terror and confusion we feel when faced with a cancer diagnosis.
Trust in the experts.
who understands the workings of some people's minds !
i was still in hospital after my mx and this woman who I worked with FOUR years previously burst in my room.' I wonder what you've done wrong for that punishment to be given to you' !!!!! And a few weeks later as I was wading through my chemo she also told me that I should switch to herbal therapies, so similar to your experience.
My mother in law keeps comparing my experience/treatment etc to her friend who is 35 years older than me!!
i think sometimes people just feel like they need to say something and some rubbish just comes out! The problem is that sometimes that rubbish affects us.
I echo the other posts, our journey is such an individual one, but all the research and evidence based practice has massively improved this journey.
I hope you are ok, stay clear of the negativity.
Hi Andrea, Oh no your are not alone in this I promise you! Please don't take any notice and don't let it scare you in to thinking that conventional treatment isn't the way to go, of course no one wants to go through Chemo or radiotheraphy but it's what gives us our best chance of beating this disease, tried and tested! Equally nothing you eat or don't eat will make a jot of difference in my opinion, my husband has a well meaning cousin who loves to tell me that the government have the cure for cancer but keep it hidden so the pharmaceutical companies can make money! I've given up even trying to explain , it's well meant but so ignorant, which is typical of many who have never faced what we have, trust your doctors is my advise they are the experts after all Xx Jo
I wasnt sure where to put this so if its wrong I apologise and please feel free to move it.
I was just wondering how others deal with all the well meaning but frightening advice. Hardly anyone knows about my cancer but my partner told a couple of friends online who happen to be very interested in health issues and nutrition.
Im glad he is getting support but they sent me a link to watch something about not having chemo as it was negative etc I wont go into it in detail because it distressed me and might others .. thing is I am also getting a lot of advice from them about budwig diet and taking turmeric and other things and I have started taking them just in case they help but Im starting to feel as though I am scared to eat anything or not eat something ?
Does this happen to other people or have I just been unlucky? Since these are the very first people we have told its a bit alarming and Im worried that I am going to be scared out of my wits with these dire stories about chemo etc
As far as I know chemo and radium does save lives?
help please Im getting more scared by the minute