Hi Scooter, thinking of you today and hope everything goes well.
Glad you had a lovely day with your daughter yesterday and that she's had good exam results
Sending a hug xx
Hi scooter, I had found a lump and went for mammogram, ultrasound and biopsy. The bcn initally wasn't too concerned, so I wasn't worried having the tests, until the consultant who did the ultrasound made it clear that he wasn't happy with what he was seeing, and that there was a definite area of concern. He took 4 biopsies including one of a raised lymph node. When I went back into see the bcn after, she was visibibly shocked, and it was her reaction to what the consultant had told her, that made me realise there would be no doubt in diagnosis. To be honest, it made the appointment the following week, for the biopsy results, easier as I knew what was going to be said, and was able to prepare myself for what might come next. Definitely better for me than being unprepared. What I wasn't expecting at that appointment was to be told I needed chemo first!
I too told my family after the biopsies, which allowed them to process the information ready to offer the support I needed to go forward. I hope that will be the same for you. The timing is never going to be right, so sorry you are having to go on your daughter's birthday. My daughter is 21 tomorrow and we had it all booked to be in New York..now going for Afternoon Tea, not a birthday year either of us will forget, but for very different reasons than planned. Xx
I was also told at initial appointment, I told my children who are all adults, my parents and my closest colleague at work because we cover for each other and she was talking about booking a holiday so I thought that it was only fair to let her know that I might be away at a few points. I have now told most people that we know.
It all goes so fast. Not as quickly as you want it to, when the cancer is still there, but no time to say goodbye to a breast you've had most of your life, if that's what's necessary! I'm also waiting for onco results. Appt set for the 7th Sept, exactly 2 months after I went to my GP complaining about a lump.
(Sorry about the edits - my keyboard probably needs new batteries.)
That is really good to hear and we will be with you all the way never fear
By the way is your user name an indication that you drive a scooter?
I was told when I had my biopsy, but only told my family that I had been for tests and would know more later. I thought it would be more gentle. However, whenever I did bring up the subject my mother would very airily say "Oh it's just a test" or "of course you don't have anything..." until I finally had to be quite blunt. It was upsetting me, not her.
So sorry you have to be here and going through this.
I didn't find a lump (although the Dr could feel one). My breast cancer was found on a routine mammogram and I was recalled to have it redone. When they redid it they also did the biopsy and an ultrasound and like you I was told straight away that it was cancer before I got the biopsy results. I asked if there was any doubt because they hadn't had results but the doctor was quite clear, almost blunt about it and I think that is because they knew I was stunned and she wanted me to take it on board.
When I did get the results of the biopsy the following week I met the surgeon and was told the type, size and grade etc. and a treatment plan indicated. Make sure you take someone with you as it is difficult to take it all on board in the eary days. I took a digital voice recorder with me (they didn't mind) and I am glad I did because I played it back and heard things that went straight over my head at the time. It is a bit like being on a rollercoaster. Things start to happen quite quickly.
I also told my family before getting the biopsy results because I needed to talk about it and we all needed time to try and come to terms with it. We all react in different ways though and there is no right or wrong - what works for you is best.
Mammograms and ultrasounds are very accurate these days, so be guided by what the consultant is telling you. The biopsy will give detailed information on the type of BC and will tell them what treatment you will need.
It is a huge shock when you get the results and it feels like its happening to someone else.
Once you get the results and consequently the treatment plan, you will start to feel abit better.
I, too, was told on my daughter's 16th birthday. This was in the summer of last year. But now, this year, I was able to celebrate her 17th, cancer free.
Hello and welcome to the forum.
This is an anxious time when waiting for your results, I would put out of your mind about whether you should have told your family or not, you cant change that so dont beat yourself up about it xxx
I know when I had my recall I had a biopsy and it came back inconclusive, my consultant asked that I have another different type of biopsy because she did not want to send me away for another 3 years without being absolutely sure that it was not cancer and the results did not give her the ability to do that. I was so glad that she did ask because the other biopsy picked up the cancer, it was very small, slow growing and early grade. So in telling you that if it does come back clear and them wanting to do another one, they are being totally proactive in making sure whether it is or is not cancer.
Come on here whenever you need to there will always be the wonderful ladies on this forum who will be able to help and support you.
Sending you a hug