Let the tears fall, this time of sadness and disbelief will pass, I couldn't even get out of bed I was so stricken by fear but it was a place I didn't need to be as things were nothing like I'd imagined.
The word Cancer just fills us with horror but you will learn a lot along the way and that's what gives you strength, its the reason I and many others here still stay on the forum years after our diagnosis so we can hopefully help ladies like you coming through by sharing our experiences and showing you we are still around and living life long after the event! Xx Jo
I'm sorry you have had to join us, this is the worst part of a diagnosis when you are waiting for the full picture so you can get on with treatment. HER 2 results do tend to take longer but they need to know as there are targeted treatments if you are positive.
The way I coped and I know many other ladies here do is to take things one step at a time, your brain can only deal with so much and endless going over the what it's will drive you mad!
A lot of ladies have chemo first and it's a great indicator of how well you are responding by how your tumour shrinks, some disappear altogether.
It's natural to Think that it has spread every where we all do at this stage but in reality only a small percentage are diagnosed with secondary cancer from the off.
I understand this is a huge shock and so much to take in especially after a clear mammogram a few months before but you were on it the minute you had concerns and that is all we can do!
Things will become calmer once you have all results and a treatment plan and you will surprise yourself by how well you will cope Xx Jo