I don't know where they are going to take flaps from as yet - my surgeon said we would discuss it next year. I'm not having silicon though.
My tummy was the first area he mentioned, but he said only if I hadn't had any other abdominal operations - well, I've had 2 caesarians and been sterilised, so that's three ops all in through the same scar. I don't think he'll do it there.
However, there is obviously more than enough of me to take it from elsewhere. I feel very upset to find out through the internet that I've got to lose so much weight. He obviously knew I was obese when he discussed it with me after the mastectomy, so why didn't he advise me to lose weight now, rather than saving that piece of information until next year?
I'm only starting radiotherapy next week, so I know I have a full year to do this in, but still it has really upset me. I have never been able to lose much weight, and dieting always sends me into depression. Obviously I'm struggling to put on a brave face as it is with all this crap going on, so having that added to it, hasn't helped. I am feeling really down.
I cannot face the thought of failing with this. The thought of going through life with one breast horrifies me. Either I will succeed in getting my weight down to the required BMI or I will just have the other breast removed and go through life flat chested.
When did life become a war, in which we face one battle after another? All I want is peace.
Is it true that your BMI needs to be below 30 before they will proceed with your request for reconstruction?
I just had a single mastectomy last month. My surgeon agreed to proceed with removal of the healthy breast and reconstruction of both next year, but I won't be seeing him again until after Christmas to discuss it further.
I have been told by other ladies who have gone through this before that your BMI must be below 30 (not obese) before they will consider doing it. That would mean I'd have to lose at least two and a half stone, which is a mammoth amount. I have never been that light since I had my children (now aged 17 and 15).
If there are any exceptions to this rule, or if you know you were over that and still had it done, please let me know. I feel thoroughly depressed right now.