Hi la-la, you have some crackers there. I especially like the 'how long' comment.. someone seems to be stuck in the 70's!
And an apology... I should Flippin well hope so. I was dumb struck to read that.
I've a new comment though not quite true to the subject title.
Sat outside radiotherapy where things were running late. A daughter was sat with her mother, mother waiting for treatment.
After a while of tutting and moaning the daughter says "I'm losing the will"
I so wanted to ask her, losing the will for what? Cause we are all sat here fighting to live.
(And I would rather they resolved any issue with the equipment than give me the wrong dose... and I have a joint family property in Gambia and the thought of what situation I would be in if I lived in sub Sahara Africa, or 100s of other places in the world doesn't bear thinking about)
I love this thread too.
My sister in law (who works in the NHS) while I was telling her about my forthcoming Mx: Have you thought about having the other one chopped off too?
OK, the phrase she actually used was "Prophylactic Mastectomy on the other one" but that's how it felt to me!
I am newly diagnosed (haven't even seen the surgeon yet), and on my way back from receiving my results I met a close friend and her husband. First she said to me "You look terrible! Is something wrong?", and when I told her she followed that by "How long have you got?"! Even her husband's chin hit the floor.
This isn't a 'What not so say' it's a made me feel good one. Went out for a walk with OH and a younger neighbour (male) (everyone seems to be younger than me!!
Said : Oh B....It's so good to see you out and about again
I liked that no how are you, looking well etc
Along the same theme : "But you look so well!" I've heard that soooo many times, always said with that "encouraging smile", in a sickly tone. I really don't know what I'm expected to look like!
Ohh Fuffs,,,, loved your special request from the deli counter !
Must admit i am joiking about my symmetrisation surgery on April 1st & hoping he doesnt go for the Jordan option, secretly bricking & welcoming the surgery as will be good to be ion a bra that fits again... Then hopefully just onwards & upwards!
In all the years we've been married my OH never gave me flowers.
I have decided I will know when he thinks I am well again as at the moment I'm having a bunch a week. Doesn't say much though except 'We must be positive about this'
I did tell one person just after I was diagnosed as I thought she would be supportive - was diagnosed in December, she finally spoke to me again on Sunday - you just never can tell!!
Seabreeze - I wouldn't feel sorry for his ex. She is his EX and it sounds like she is well shot of him.
And I'm getting to the stage where I think (hope) my head is more with it now and I realise that how you give the news needs some pre thought. Who knows what history others have and how our news might affect them. So I'm becoming more selective in who I tell.
I'm going into the office this week (I work from home most of the time) and there is a guy works near by who had a brain tumour 10+ years ago.. if he says hi, how are you, do I tell him? He will know it's my second time around. I don't think he needs the possible worry my news could cause.
And I've remembered a quote from OH.
Well, it can't get any worse..... (meaning recovery from surgery will be fine but even then 🙂 )
Ha.. just found the second email from male friend. Copy pasted below as reading it a week later I still reeled...
Good to hear you survived treatment, no small feat with something like cancer treatment. Now on to the last bits, the bits not to be
underestimated, I guess. Hope it all goes well, and that your blood
tests (that's what they'll now analyse for antibodies, isn't it?) will
improve as showing no antibodies (value of less than 7?) rapidly. It
is pretty amazing stuff what they can do with radiotherapy these days,
3D scans of the affected areas and then direct the beam pretty
accurately without doing too much damage to surrounding tissue,
certainly a huge improvement compared to that old dreaded chemo.
There are no words... though I did send a more cutting reply.
Just seen this thread as it was added as a link elsewhere.
My 2 favourites are:
Spoken to me while patting my hand,
'What is important is that you get better'.... no **bleep** Sherlock!!!
And email from a male friend who had heard from a joint female friend (though in his defence I don't know what detail he was given) only a few weeks post surgery but before onc appointment
'Is treatment working?'... I replied I am still here so I guess it must be, though 1 month after diagnosis is maybe too soon to tell.
And yes, I believe both were said with good intentions. Sigh
Laughing now ladies, course I'll nip round to do your windows! Does your kitchen floor need scrubbing too? *dons MollyMaid outfit* In return I'll need a vat of coffee & lots of homemade cake though
Never mind the exercises, I was expecting her to be round at mine cleaning the windows, inside and out!
Just got a text message from my cousin asking me when I thought I'd be back to my normal activities. Only had my surgery yesterday afternoon and got home this morning, seems I'm slacking already! 😞
Only just seen this thread - have skim read and I think if we did a top 10, most of us would see our un-'favourites' - for me
'How are you FEELING?' - said with doe-eyed look and head slightly tilted to one side...
'You're so brave' - NO, I didn't have a choice!!
'My sister/ friend/ dental receptionist etc HAD THE SAME THING' - No - you haven't a clue what my actual diagnosis/ prognosis is
'You're the last person I expected to get cancer' - I'm so glad I've relieved you of that stereotypical view
'You'll be fine - you're such a healthy person' - No comment...
& don't get me started on my (now ex) oncologist at our pre-chemo meeting
'You will lose your hair' - 'I've had my long hair cut short to ease the process and make it less obvious to start with' - 'I don't know why you bothered, you might as well have had it all shaved off'
'Wearing dark nail varnish may help reduce nail problems - not fancy nails though' - 'I never usually wear nail varnish as I'm a massage therapist' - 'well you won't be doing that while you're having chemo' (proved him wrong!!!)
My lumpectomy included removal of nipple & surrounding tissue - on seeing my scar 'Are you going to bother with any reconstruction - it's only cosmetic' - Shall I remove the end of your **bleep** and wonder if you want it replacing??????
Anyway - I'm sure I'll remember/ hear more - but LOVE THE THREAD 🙂