But that's the thing Delly, she wouldn't have told me. I don't know her that well, and I don't know her family. She just told me, out of the blue, purely because I've had BC. I didn't respond to the message, just couldn't believe it.
I had a message from an ex work mate, who i haven't seen for a few years, but does know that I had BC. She told me that her cousin (who I know nothing about and have never met) has cancer and only has a little while to live. Now......why do I need to know that? Why is it that if someone knows someone who has cancer, they feel that they need to tell me??
Aarrrhhh.....give me strength!!!!
Dellywelly.....haven’t spoken to that woman for more than 10years......most probably, won’t speak again for another 10!! Have a lovely Friday. Hugs, Belle xxx
So pleased to hear that you are feeling fine after your surgery!! Awesome that you have had a good sleep with only one painkiller!!
Hehehe.....it’s the time that we should be waited on....great to be taken care of!
Wishing you well and take good care.
Hiya CK.....am happy to hear that everything is working out great!! 💐❤️
Wishing you well always.
Dellywelly......she absolutely was NOT joking....she waited for my answer and I said entertaining my husband is the least of my worries!!! And she said OHHH......with the next question., almost whispering......are you bald down there too!? 🤪
Yes, It always best to check on any concern, even how small.
The waiting part is the hardest...
When is your ultrasound?
Hope that All will be fine.
Take good care, Belle xxx
Belle - was she JOKING??
Andi - Taaa for the Kylie gold hotpants lucky giggle. Great. I'd just like a backside like hers!!! But C is a major weird thing, so try and learn to appreciate the sympathetics! because they genuinely care. If you read further back into this thread, there are those who amazingly have a b s o l u t e l y no bloody idea - the complete opposite!
Yet, at the same time, I have a 80 odd yr old uncle, who so tragically had to have his whole leg amputated 2 Xmases ago. Made me think Jeez, I'm lucky with 2 masts, I can still walk around etc. I often say "Keep kicking"!! when I end the phone conver, as some loving encouragement, which most would think totally inappropriate, I know. But he "knows" me and my humour so well, he knows that I'm being lovingly teasingly encouraging, making light of, and he giggles at it because it IS so "lovingly" said and meant. At the same time, he knows how it tears my heart apart at what he had to have done, is going through, and at such an age, because I sobbingly told him immediately after. Bless your cotton "sock" as oppo "socks" is another thing I say to him!! So he just laughs at my japery. Bless his cotton sock!! I do love him to bits and back to a whole again.
S'all very weird really, isn't it. Afraid BC made me question my own mortality, gave me a different attitude to certain things. Other closely following immed. family deaths just compounded that even more so.
Krysbe - I'm gunning for good results for you, girl.
Pass the flippin port CK and add a few extra glasses for these other lasses xxxxxxxxxx Hic!
Thank you for asking Belle. I had a mx in November last year but a few weeks ago found a lump just below my collar bone so thought it best to get it checked out. Consultant thought it was nothing to worry about but has made me another appointment for an ultrasound so it’s wait and see time again.
OHHH gosh, Krysbe.....made me laugh....comparing to the Vet’s bill!!
Pretty insensitive, I must say 😜
How did your appointment go?
Yeah.....people are priceless!! A lot of times, people don’t realise what they are saying or how they are saying it and what kind of impact it has on us!
Guess when the C word is heard, the general reaction is usually of doom and gloom!!!
Had someone who said to me .....Ohhhh, Having bc is pretty common nowadays....like catching a cold!!!
Wishing you well, Andi
Had an appointment at the hospital today. My neighbour came round and asked how I got on before saying more to the point how’s the dog she costs more. I had to laugh as she has cost us nearly £3,000 over the last year in vets bills.
Hello Lovely Ladies,
Just wanted to share something that happened to me yesterday....
A ex work associate whom I haven’t met or spoken to for more than 10years suddenly contacted me via messenger! Was quite exciting to catch up after all these years.
After exchanging pleasantries, the subject went to my bc......She directly asked me if I removed my breast? and I answered Yes......
Next, her reaction and question is absolutely priceless......She asked.....How are you going to entertain your husband with no Breast!!!
Never ever I was asked in that way......had a good laugh!!! Now I gotta figure that out....LOL
CK - CORR WHAT!!!!! Lets fill up the swimming pool with port - lets swim in it CK! Oh, hang on a minute, don't know anyone with a swimming pool - oh all right, the bath then?!! Dip your glasses in girls - I did clean it first.
Thats abso-bloomin-lute-ly Fab-U-louuus. Lots more Cheshire cat grins from us on here. Yaahoooo.
(what d'ya mean too many hearts - I don't care, I like red! It's happy, It's "fiery") xxxxxx
Getting there slowly. Struggling at the moment with the emotional and psychological effects of a cancer diagnosis, so am about to start some counselling to see me through.
So glad you can have a port again! Little things etc. .....
Haven't been on this thread for yonks.
But CK - I've just been having a giggle at your post where the guy said "I thought you'd put on weight". If you were bunged up with your cold, wondered if your saying "and a cough and a cold" came out sounding like "and put on a stone", if he was a bit deaf as well !!
Yeh, you can't beat talking to others who've had. Hence the beauty of this here Forum, hey. An absolute godsend. Who ever thought of it and set it up, ought to be awarded with an official medal M.B.E or O.B.E. Don't you think girls ??
Keep gritting your teeth, biting your tongue, or letting rip and putting 'em straight.
Lotsa love, Dellypoos xxxxxxx
Ignored it - not easy, but I am learning that some people just don’t get it. But on a positive note, I had a coffee today with a lady who had breast cancer 8 years ago and she totally understood everything I am currently thinking / feeling / fearing. Reassured me that all my reactions are completely normal. Phew.
rosietd to right she wouldnt of said that if she had it! i think she would have found herself crying lots and lots if she had it ,what a silly thing to say ,how did ya deal with that one did you choose to ignore it or said something back xxxx little fairy
hi ck i have only just read your reply ,no its not porgie for georgie porgie good one though ,it does really knock your confidence i agree strongly on that,i used to avoid people sometimes because i didnt want to be asked how i was or even mention the word going shopping for me was hard incase i ran into someone i knew and them say silly things ,i wanted to be on my own alot cos i didnt want people to see me upset ,but it does get better and im gaining confidence ,if you feel like haveing time on your own thats o.k and i hope your confidence grows too! in your own time! i think you might even surprise yourself how strong you end up ,you will find a inner strength,and the tears will get less and less xxxx big hug for you ck from little fairy
I should have read this thread before posting. It shows me I’m not alone in finding other people’s reactions difficult to take.
...& heart attacks, strokes & dementia are common, so that’s alright then 🙄
Sometimes it’s almost too much energy even to respond to prat remarks like that 🤨🙄
Someone told me last week that breast cancer is very common and therefore not a big deal. Bet she wouldn’t say that if she had it!