I’m not sure if it’s just me but I’ve only told an extremely small number of people that I was diagnosed with BC. My diagnosis was back in December.
Husband, son, three very close friends and my boss at work - husband’s boss knows too. I don’t have brothers/sisters or parents.
All our family, there are a lot of them, are all on my husband’s side - we are close to a few but they all live in different parts of the country. Apart from a few get-togethers each year, we communicate mostly by phone. None of them know - when we talk, I say, I’m fine … that old description, that nearly always means the complete opposite.
I don’t want to tell anyone, unless they need to know but I don’t really know what I’m afraid of exactly - maybe that they will treat me differently (they would, of course). That they won’t understand (they wouldn’t). I also hate talking about it, to the people I have told.
I STILL feel in many ways that none of this is real - actually happening to me. Bizarre, I know. Probably, because I’ve only (ONLY!) had an MX, no reconstruction and am taking some hormone therapy. Currently in a 5 week limbo land waiting on results of Oncotype-DX test to see if I would benefit from Chemo or not.
I’m sure Chemo would make it totally real and I’m terrified of Chemo.
My husband thinks I’m dealing with all this very well (the early days were awful but I kept it to myself). I’m not dealing with it though, I mostly block it out - as if it’s not happening. Weirdly being quite successful at that, for now.
Interested to know what others have done re telling people. We are due to meet some family in a few weeks (before my test results) - part of me thinks I won’t go but I’m a pretty good actress so I could get through it I’m sure.
I’d love to know what others have done. :)
Seren xx