Can i just say my first node was suspicious so they took them all, same time as lumpdectomy and i thought yes take them,nowhere for the cancer to lurk. The surgeon mentioned chemo to me But thankfully my others were all clear but didnt bother me they had gone, i just wanted any possibility of it lurking anywhere away. . I was then borderline chemo, but as my margains were clear also, the oncologist said no chemo necessary, just rads and Tamoxifen, Finished the rads in June and been on tamoxifen for over 5 months, and feel fine. Hope your wife is same. June
She will be fine, get the buggers out if its on the move then it can't do any more damage! I would have had everything chopped off if it meant being free of it, after the initial shock wore off I got angry and wanted to take it head on, nothing was going to stop me enjoying a long and happy life!
That's a positive Barry, I'm on Tamoxifen and it's good to know I can take something long term to help prevent reacurrance, Your wife's remaining nodes may be clear then Chemo might be questionable, I know plenty of women on here who have declined it as it would only add a few % extra protection and they felt it wasn't worth it , but if she needs it then it will do its job, it's no walk in the park but doable, I've not had it but have friends who have and they got through it, things get less scary the more knowledge you gain and you will find a way to come to terms with it, 6 months ago I was convinced I Was going to die and now I feel like I will live for ever!! 😊
I had two weeks off after my surgery which included just 2 sentinel nodes being removed so a month sounds about right with a full removal but just play it by ear as everyone recovers at a different rate, did they give you any other results like ER status or HER2 ?
Barry I'm so sorry your wife has been officially diagnosed but now you know what you are dealing with, everything now is a step closer to this being over with, invasive ductal is the general name for cancer that has escaped from the duct and is what I had, did they tell you any more about grade or stage? Lumpectomy surgery is fine honestly, it's a day case and I walked out 2 hours after coming round, please try and dry your tears and reassure your wife that she will get through this and life will be good again because it will 😊
Barry in all honesty nothing is worse than the waiting for news, we all pray your wife gets the all clear of course but if not as Jill says she will need you more than ever to help her take it all in, my husband asked all the questions and wouldn't let me panic , although he was devastated that this was happening his attitude was right what happens now? Let's just get this thing dealt with, It really helped me no end as he was strong and positive and said whatever it takes we will do this,he was on such a high the day of my op as he knew it would be gone from my body and It rubbed off on me as I was on cloud 9 afterwards, I'm telling you this because in my experience I needed him to be strong and positive,if I saw him panicking it would have made me worse, I trust him with my life and when he said we will sort this I believed him, it's what I needed to hear! 😊
I know it is a horrible shock because I too was told I had cancer on the day of my biopsy. I felt dizzy and thought I was going to faint for a minute. I was alone because my husband was in bed with flu. Your wife is lucky to have you at her side. Radiologist told me she could tell by the appearance on the scans that it was almost certainly cancer, and the biopsy would just be confirmation. She asked me if I wanted to know rather than wait so I said yes because I couldn't stand the thought of waiting. Please don't google because there is a lot of misinformation out there with so called experts. The waiting is awful but it is only a few days now. Better to stick to looking at info on this site. MacMillan is good too for information. Good luck with results and treatment.
Hi Barry, just noticed your posts and wanted to share how my husband dealt with my diagnosis. Of course we were both in shock as my breast cancer was found during a routine mammogram. I tried to stay strong and play it down for the sake of my family. It was frightening to see my family so (naturally) scared for me. It's a fine line between acknowledging my fear but remaining positive and hopeful.
My husband is diabetic and within days of my diagnosis his blood pressure shot up affecting the nerves around his eye resulting in a turn which prevented him from driving so I had to do all the running around preparing for hospital! On the morning of my operation, he was being treated in the eye clinic in the same hospital -- honestly, you couldn't write it! Thankfully, a prism sorted his sight so he could drive. My poor husband was and looked distraught, he couldn't think straight, I used to send him out to walk the dog to calm him down. I actually told him that I needed him to be strong for me and that seemed to pull him together. I hope I don't sound harsh but I was worried about his health and I couldn't have our 3 sons worried about us both, that wasn't fair on them.
As others have said, once you know what you are dealing with, you'll have a plan and get answers to all your questions (write them down so you don't forget). To be honest, I've lost loved ones to cancer (not breast) and think that if this is my turn, it's the most treatable one which has had so many advances in recent years and is constantly improving. It sounds as though your wife's cancer has been caught early so she is very likely to have a good recovery. I don't believe that being positive changes the outcome, that's the science / medical bit but I do believe that it's what gets us through this - and a sense of humour! You're both still in shock but that will change once you get results and treatment starts.
Sending you both my best wishes and positive vibes. Take care x