Hi Barry, just noticed your posts and wanted to share how my husband dealt with my diagnosis. Of course we were both in shock as my breast cancer was found during a routine mammogram. I tried to stay strong and play it down for the sake of my family. It was frightening to see my family so (naturally) scared for me. It's a fine line between acknowledging my fear but remaining positive and hopeful.
My husband is diabetic and within days of my diagnosis his blood pressure shot up affecting the nerves around his eye resulting in a turn which prevented him from driving so I had to do all the running around preparing for hospital! On the morning of my operation, he was being treated in the eye clinic in the same hospital -- honestly, you couldn't write it! Thankfully, a prism sorted his sight so he could drive. My poor husband was and looked distraught, he couldn't think straight, I used to send him out to walk the dog to calm him down. I actually told him that I needed him to be strong for me and that seemed to pull him together. I hope I don't sound harsh but I was worried about his health and I couldn't have our 3 sons worried about us both, that wasn't fair on them.
As others have said, once you know what you are dealing with, you'll have a plan and get answers to all your questions (write them down so you don't forget). To be honest, I've lost loved ones to cancer (not breast) and think that if this is my turn, it's the most treatable one which has had so many advances in recent years and is constantly improving. It sounds as though your wife's cancer has been caught early so she is very likely to have a good recovery. I don't believe that being positive changes the outcome, that's the science / medical bit but I do believe that it's what gets us through this - and a sense of humour! You're both still in shock but that will change once you get results and treatment starts.
Sending you both my best wishes and positive vibes. Take care x
