I had a scan at a hospital about a hour and half drive away because my PS trusted the way the scan was read at this particular NHS hospital. The scarn was done a week before my DIEP surgery (13/06/12). I found out it is a larger - more involved op than I had understood. I had quite a bit of pain and on the pump in hospital more than those posting here. I walked hunched over for nearly three weeks due to heavy tightness and that is something that is not discussed much. It was only at week four that life started to get slightly back to before. My husband wanted to take a business trip during the thrid week afterwards and it was my calling breast cancer care help line and him talking to them, that he realized he could not go. Each week after the op builds and the first four weeks are the most crucial.
I wore seam-free high waisted control briefs for 6 weeks afterwards and no one told me about those and I bought them online at Matalan, while in hospital, in two sizes up from my actual size at first (because of swelling), as it was too painful to squeeze into my normal size - that was trial and error - no one explained that either. I thought I had it all figured out, read all I could online, etc.. asked tons of questions and I was not prepared for what I actually needed to have or has true understanding the extent of it all. Looked agast afterwards at my over-sized, bulky, cobbled left breast and 20 inch - senstive flap hip-to-hip incision. I would not have opted for anything else and I never had any infection, drains out in three days and no necrosis. Phase II in mid-January (there is a smaller, out patient surgery six months down the line for tweak and tune) and then I'll finally have or at least closer, to what I want as a good result. I trust my PS.
One more thing, I bought soft pull-on jersey trousers on sale at Lands End UK (and front buttoning shirts) and wore those for almost three months afterwards because of the pain from fabric pressure across my incision area and wearning jeans were the worst. I had to work up over time, to wearing my jeans again.
You can do this and you will see how your experience differs and at times, the same. It's ok either way. I've learned there is no one set way of recovering from DIEP. I did go back to the gym when I was told I could and pilates and body balance has really made a difference in softening my scar tissue (as does my massaging it with Bio Oil) and helping me to get flexibility and mobility of my left arm back on par.
All the best to you Nottsgal!
LB, x