thank you for your reply its very kind of you and means so much to me it is a great help on here as you all know what its like xxx i might just take you up on the offer of a private message a little further down the line xx barbara
thank you sometimes its just helps writing down how you feel, im not happy but i have to try and be up in front of my family because i dont want to worry them ,crazy isnt it,my daughters have just had daughters so i dont want to spoil their special memories by moaning to them so just ignore my moaning xxxit helps to share
I am a control freak. I raised 3 sons, one in a wheelchair. I found the lack of control of what was happening to me, very difficult. I still do. In fact it got me to feel like I was imploding. And not to mention the anger. I saw a counsellor in the end and just by listening to me vent, she helped me sort out my head. She also gave me a breathing excercises to do,which help no end.
I am still having an anxious time waiting for more results. They are now unsure which typed of cancer one of mine was - I have two types - and am awaiting results. I was operated on March 26th.
I would suggest checking your local area. Mine has a cancer charity centre which is where I received the counselling. They also offer living with lymphodeoma classes and tai chi. Group sessions, drop in mornings, all sorts. Perhaps there is something similar in your area. They are useful.
Thank you your replying has really helped me
this is brutal and I have decided to try to take one day at a time and realise I have to step back now and allow family and friends to help me.it's very hard not to be in control of what happens to you
I'm sorry to read you're having such a tough time. Whilst you are waiting for the other users to reply with their experiences do talk things through with a memeber of staff on the BCC helpline. Here you can share your thoughts and concerns with someone who will offer you a listening ear as well as emotional support and practical information. The number to call is 0808 800 6000 and lines are open weekdays 9 to 5pm and Saturday 10 to 2pm.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator
adrenaline surges i think does anyone have this going on ,i seem to go from really calm to very anxious in a matter of moments,sometimes its like im looking through a window at someboy elses life,one moment i cant sleep the next im falling asleep in the chair,please tell me it gets easier, any tips on coping
might be better tomorrow when i find out my treatment plan, i hope so my heads all over the place,and im the strong one in the family who copes with everything,