You will be fine I promise. Nobody was more scared than me but once you say to yourself "this is it and I can't change it" you just find the strength to face it. You have to because nobody is going to let you change it for say a broken leg or anything else.
The thing that freaked me out was not the chemo or the surgery (and the rads were easy compared to chemo) no what had me saying I can't do it was the needles to the belly!! The nurses said they show kids of 8 how to do it and in the end it was easy. They don't hurt at all because the needle is really fine - it was that I am no good with anything medical and you could never pay me enough to be a nurse. All I say is thank goodness some people like helping others.
Come on here a lot and we will help you through it all and join your monthly chemo thread for moral support. Now chin up and let's get on with it xxx
Is HER2 bad? It used to be before Herceptin - now it is no worse than "ordinary" breast cancer. It is just a protein that tells the cancer to grow really fast and Herceptin kills off that protein.
Is any of it good? I don't know if HER2 is bad, I do understand it means it makes it a bit more aggressive. Which is probably why they want you to have the chemo first, which stops the abnormal cells from multiplying so fast.
I am HER2 negative, so I haven't investigated it that much. I just wanted you to know you'd been heard. It really is worrying waiting. Mine is the "common" type - I told the surgeon "I don't do common", but he just ignored me.
Yes I used the cold cap and kept loads of hair. Just take a couple of pain killers 30 mins before because it can be a bit spiteful but worth it.
Also ask them to give you a PICC line - so worth it xxx
Hi fairy , it is so very unfair that you are having to deal with this at your age and with a young family but you will find a way to cope and the more information you get about exactly what's going to happen with help you so much I promise! The minute we get a cancer diagnosis we think it's game over but it really isn't like that with breast cancer, it is such a treatable disease.
You are going through all the normal emotions right now, fear and disbelief cos this happens to other people not you! But you will gain a strength you didn't know you had and you just cope because what is the choice otherwise.
They do get you on the treatment train quickly so dont be panicked by this it's totally normal, I had my op within 2 weeks of diagnosis, all of us here know just how your feeling right now and the over whelming anxiety your going through, I felt my life just stopped on that day of diagnosis and everything just seemed pointless but over two years on I've seen my son marry and am about to be a Nanna and life couldn't be better!
I was 46 and felt far too young so I can just imagine how you feel but we've had younger ladies and even pregnant ladies here, it is quite unbelievable!
Keep talking to us love always someone around to listen Xx Jo
Hi fairy, sorry to hear of your diagnosis and glad you have found our wonderful forum where you will get all the support you need. Firstly, don't confuse the grading with the staging. "Grade" 3 refers to the tumour complexity and density whist "Stage" refers to the tumour progression. From what you describe, you sound stage 1 which is early stages so you have excellent statistics moving forward from this. It's hard to accept the diagnosis at first and it's all very scary with all of these new words which which you sudden day have to concern yourself with but it does get easier once your treatment plan kicks in. I'm 48 and was diagnosed at the end of March with Stage 2 locally advanced invasive BC ER+/PR+/HER2- including local lymph nodes. I'm on my 5th of 8 chemos of FEC/T, then I'll have surgery and rads and probably a hormone inhibitor. The chemo is going well and reducing the tumour ready for surgery.
Once your treatment plan is confirmed join the monthly treatment thread on this forum to network with others going through the same at the same time. You can do this, just stay focussed and healthy. Hugs and best wishes to you as you start you journey. Xxx
I need chemo first, 8 cycles, and then surgery and radiotherapy. The doctor hopes it means less radical surgery in the end. Not what I'd imagined, so it threw me too. Still trying to get my head round it, but got so many appointments in the diary leading up to the first one maybe I won't have too much time to dwell on it. I agree that the treatments seem to be so individual, which must be a good thing?
So sorry that you find yourself here. There will be lots of ladies on here that will give you support and advice.
Do you have an appointment to see the consultant soon to advise you on your treatment plan? I remember feeling very confused myself , but then went on the recommendation of the consultant.
Sending a hug x
I've been thinking about you all morning. Sorry I can't be of any help; no knowledge of all this but I'd like to give you a big hug and assure you that there is light at the end of the tunnel
love and hugs xxxx