Hello Melli. I've just seen your message and very sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I was diagnosed 5 years ago and have had surgery, chemotherapy, radiotherapy, herceptin and aromasin and I'm still here !
It must have been dreadful for you to have lost your husband to cancer. I must tell you, however, that I've done this entirely alone - I live alone - but have very good friends and neighbours who helped enormously when I was having treatment. - it can be done.
I know that once you have a treatment plan you will feel a lot better as you will know that you are doing something about the cancer. In the meantime, please take care and be sure to write to tell us what is happening.
Very best wishes