Dear budster I'm so sorry to hear your news. I'm a mum too and my greatest wish is that my daughter, unlike me, will never develop breast cancer. I'm posting to tell you I was diagnosed with breast cancer when my hip fractured ten years ago. I've had good responses to treatments and my breast cancer has been very treatable despite my being stage 4 from the very beginning. Do keep in touch, my thoughts, my good wishes to both of you..x
I'm sorry to read of your daughters diagnosis. As swanie mentioned in her post do give the BCC helpline a call on 0808 800 6000. Here you can share your concerns with a member of staff who will offer you a listening ear as well as emotional support and practical information. Lines are open Monday to friday 9 to 5pm and Saturday 10 to 2pm.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator
Hello Budster, I do feel for you as I have daughters with children so understand your fear - no matter how old they are they are still your baby.
I have bone mets and was diagnosed with stage 4 about 15months ago and there are others who have had them for over 10years and continue to have full lives. There are many treatments available and they get better all the time. I suspect that your daughters doctors will not be able to give an accurate prognosis of how quickly things will progress it is early days - they will try a course of treatment, if it does not hold the disease there are always other things to move on to.
Do try phoning the helpline, there are specialised nurses who can help you by talking things through and helping you understand what is going on. There is also an area on the forum for family and friends etc where you may get additional support. Your daughter is lucky having a mum to stand by her.
take care of yourself as well
My Daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer in Feb. 2012, she had a mastectomy then had chemo and radiotherapy, she finished her treatment in oct 2012, and in Feb. 2013 found out she was pregnant, she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in sept, and a couple of week later went to her gp because she was getting pain in her shoulder, the same side of her mastectomy, but was told it was were she was lifting the babies car seat in and out of the car, after 7 weeks they finally sent her for a bone scan and on the 2nd Jan she was diagnosed with bone cancer, I am at a loss what to do, because it has come back so quick is this more aggressive??, there are so many questions I want to ask but do not want to upset my daughter, she is so brave and she is just 30 years old and has 3 young children, where can I get the answers I so desperately need.