Hi allā¦
The problems described by so many here are quite familiar to me, too. Thankfully I have a pretty clever BCN and am due an appointment with an oncologist tomorrow, who specialises in the effects of hormone withdrawal on women and our sex lives.
Unless we have had a hormone negative cancer any creams, lubricants, etc, which contain estrogen or other hormones seem to be completely off the agenda for us.
So I started to explore the basics and the reason behind it all and now have a relatively good understanding of it.
Yes, we might have a choice of whether we continue taking our hormone depleting/destroying tablets or whether we risk our cancer returning in another part of our body. If it should - things will not be as āeasyā as they were the first time round. And I know which choice Iād rather make.
Unfortunately the challenge Ā of difficult sex will not easily go away, but I shall be happy to share, should my oncologist come up with something new.
There are some basic things we can do. Only ever use warm water to clean your ābitsā Try and stay away from soap or evenĀ products, such as Femfresh and alike. These can irritate the very delicate skin, made more delicate because of estrogen withdrawal. Moisturise āoutsideā only with plain Vaseline. ThisĀ is likely to help with cracking, soreness and bleeding on the outside.
The inner wallsĀ are likely to shrink and thin - making penetrative sex painful and difficult. And this can also lead to more frequent urinary tract infections, too.
So a moisturizer applied regularlyĀ āinsideā over a period of time, may help this to a degree. This kind of moisturizing should become part of our sexual hygiene routine - just as we moisturize our faces.
Products such as HyalofemmeĀ can be prescribed by your GP, and if you are still on prescription exemption, as I am - there is no cost involved.
If you have not been sexually active for a while, it may be an idea to start ātrainingā and finding out by yourself, what is possible and what not. Should you have a sympathetic partner - it might also be a great and fun way to get back into the swing of things.
There are a number ofĀ dildo dilators, which can be purchased on line. Using these in conjunction with an oil based, rather than a waterbased, lubricant may help you to see. what āsheā is capable of - and perhaps ātrainā her to be more accommodating.
Lubricants should not contain any perfumes or āpleasure enhancingā additives, as this may irritate your delicate bits too much. An oil basedĀ lubricant will be longer lasting and more comfortable than a water based one.
Unfortunately, here in the UK, there are very few, if any specialists in the area of dealing with this subject for women, who have sexual difficulties, because they cannot use hormone based products.
Hoping that these tips may be of help.
Sue x
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