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poemsgalore
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Re: pretty nervous and very anxious

Lady Julie,
Good luck for your lumpectomy on Thursday, hoping for a good outcome for you. Sorry if what has been said about mastectomies scared you, but some of us DO need to have one. So glad you don't.

Big Hugs
Poemsgalore. xx
LadyJulie
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Phew Gordok, thanks for your post. I am due to have a lumpectomy and SNB on Thursday (28/2) and am putting my trust in my Consultant that it is the right treatment for my type of cancer, stage 1 IDC, ER+
I personally was dreading being told I needed a mastectomy at my diagnosis appointment this week, so for now am just about able to cope with the thought of my impending WLE surgery. Radiotherapy is to follow and possibly Tamoxifen.
Paula, best wishes to you - the waiting and unknown is the worst part.
Julie
poemsgalore
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Jen, I've just had a good luck at the 'surgery' threads, and the 'mastectomies - living breast free' threads, went back a fair bit, but couldn't find one one whether to have mx or not. So could be a good one to start. So think I'll have a go at starting one.
Kath
jenanne
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Paulabe71 - I really hope you managed to mention your breast lump and had a good discussion with your GP. Good luck and all the best .
Oome and poemsgalore(Kath) I am glad this question of m/x or not, and when, has been brought up because I haven't discussed this issue on the forums and it is one of my biggest thoughts re. BC - due to my own BC route. Would perhaps be good to have a thread on it?
Or p'raps there is already a good thread?
poemsgalore
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Gordo

I'm sorry if you think we are being insensitive, but there are loads of postings on here from ladies whose ops weren't as successful as they had hoped. I think we all have to be aware of the facts so we can make an informed descision on our treatment. I agree, that if a lumpectomy goes well, then with rads, it can be as successful as a mastectomy and I'm glad that yours went well.
gordok1
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Ladies,

I had a lumpectomy!! With radiation, which they say is just as effective as a mastectomy. I have to be honest that I find comments like these very insensitive especially to all those ladies out there who had a lumpectomy or who are waiting on test results. Just sometimes we need to keep our personal feeling to ourself, so we don't upset or confuse anyone, sometimes I do question whether I should have went for mastectomy but I put my trust in the drs, there is no guarantees with bc regardless which you choose.
Paula, hope your bearing up ok, the beginning is always the hardest part.

xx

poemsgalore
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Hi Oome, I totally agree with you about mastectomy. When I was dx with ductal invasive BC I didn't hesitate to ask for Mx instead of WLE. Had mx and snb 12.12.12 and up to now I've never regretted it. Especially as cancer cells were found in one of the 3 lymph nodes I had removed. I dread to think what would have happened if I'd had a lumpectomy, as tumour was 3cm and grade 3. I'm having chemo now, followed by rads and Anastrazole for five years. If I ever got a lump in other breast (Heaven forbid) I would do the same again on the other side.
Poemsgalore xx
oome
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take the best they can offer & get rid of all of it...i opted for a lumpectomy which resulted in taking more tissue on another op, which lead to fluid build up the same day hence the 3rd op, then when i thought things were going ok i found another lump an inch away from where the 1st one was which had been missed on the initial diagnoses. this meant a mastectomy was needed but the surgeon tried to save as much of my original skin on the right breast, which i ended up with a 3rd tumour in the skin(12/7/10 mastectomy...6/12/10 another lumpectomy) whatever the situation the doctors & tests cannot see the cancer cells at a cellular level while they save many lives...one of which i hope is yours...they cannot ever say 100% that it will not reaccur. i'm sorry if this frightens you but you or anyone reading this needs to know, you have to be strong, vigilant & question everything...listen to your own body too & dont dismiss even the tiniest twinge always ask to be checked!!x

oome
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having been told i now have secondary breast cancer i would advise anyone starting the BC journey to have a mastectomy..we can live without our breasts it does not make us any less women!!! it may not have changed my outcome but who knows..having had 5 operations between 2/2/10-6/12/10 i could have saved myself (poss) 4 operations by having a mastectomy initially. good luck with your results i hope they are nothing to worry about xx

carrie35
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Please please mention the lump, don't feel you are being an inconvenience to the medics and don't ignore it no matter how scary it is the truth you can deal with the unknown you can't! X

Paulabe71
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Hi,
I have made a drs apt for 4 today. Pretty nervous tbh and have kept myself busy bt doing cupboards out lol.
Victoria let me know how you get on ass have been thinking about you today xx
Paulabe71
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Hi VIctoria,
i am so sad to read your story, this must be so hard for you! Do you get any support from family and friends,
i am yet to tell my gp about the lump in my breast, silly i know!
i get my blood and chest xray results tomorrow afternoon and i will tell her then, but so scared.You see my gran had a double masectomy in her 20's so i think thats what makes me more scared if you know what i mean.
I will be thinking about you too flower
thank you
Paula xx
meemoo
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Hi Paulabe,

I understand just how desperate and anxious you are feeling right now. I am sorry that I can't offer advice on your condition but I can say I understand your emotions.

I am a newly single mother of two small children and have recently been diagnosed with BC - tomorrow I will get my full set of results - so I am sharing the same feelings with you. All I can say is - at least we have found these lumps and can have them dealt with by the best that medicine can offer - and better the devil we know.

I am sure that after tonight is over with and we get our results we can move forward.

I will be thinking of you in the morning.

Victoria x
Paulabe71
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Thank you ladies so much for your words!
i have had a good look around on here, and what an amazing supportive group of ladies you all are!
I wondered if anyone on here had had the clavical lymp node come up before diagnosed!
Thank you so much xx
babychops1982
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Hi Paula,

Sorry I cant help more but wanted to say all the best to you and good luck with your results tomorrow.
Its hard having this worry hanging over you, I have been there too.

Best Wishes.

Mungos_mum
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Hi Paula,

I am sorry that you have this hanging over you, but at least you will get some information tomorrow. I can't comment on your symptoms, not being in the medical profession, but you have found the right place for support and advice until you know what is happening. Please don't use google to try to find out some information, there is a lot of information on the web which is out of date of incorrect, it will scare the pants off you. This site and Macmillan are updated regularly and should be able to answer general questions you have, and the helpline nurses on this site may be able to help too (I have not had cause to call them myself).

Keep happy thoughts and whatever the outcome, have confidence that you have started on the road to recovery by seeking help. The waiting is excrutiating, but everyone on the site can offer help, advice and support. We've all been there.

You may feel to be in a dark place now, but keep strong, and there will be lights guiding you down the road.

Best wishes,

MM
Paulabe71
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pretty nervous and very anxious

Hi ladies and thanks for reading.
im a 41year old mum of 4! Well i have been unwell for about 3 weeks with an awful cough and about a week ago i noticed that i have a very large gland up on my clavical and back of my.neck! i saw my gp who was shocked at the size of the large gland and refered me for a chest xray and blood tests which i had yesterday! now last night whilst washing i noticed a lump in my left breast, i am now besides myself with worry!
Any thoughts??
Have to call for results tomorrow!
many thanks
Paula xx