Hi Tracy and others…
Many thanks for your concerns, and yes it’s a little better today thanks.
I must say I’m finding this journey rather tough (and I know my wife is having its 100% worse). One thing that I think I’m struggling with is talking to people about this. I have digested lots of what many have said here, (some good and some bad) and to be honest I’m feeling better than I did about the inconsiderate responses. I understand that people bring their own pain to this and reacted to my post negatively without knowing me or what I was saying. They chose to ignore some of the things I said that were positive, asking for support and feeling very confused about everything and chose to focus on the negative things I said. But I suppose if they met me in person things would be different, I mean everybody is affected by this in different ways… if anybody is reading this that did get angry with me for what I said, just please think about how your words are affecting others before you decide to take it out on them. I was feeling VERY low, when I posted what I said and without knowing my situation kicking somebody when they are down and asking for support isn’t very constructive is it, even ganging up to strengthen your kicking does seem like school ground behaviour… Anyway, I don’t wish to focus on that and I will leave it there…
Anyway I’ve organised counselling and sorted out some support from somebody who has been through this, so I’m hoping to put things into perspective and deal with some of my issues.
Many many thanks for those that have taken the time to reply, it does mean a great deal to me. Warmest regards
I'm really sorry about your post disappearing. I'm afraid some posts on the forum do seem to be disappearing and we are not sure why. I actually lost one myself today so I can understand how frustrating this is.
Best wishes Sam, Facilitator
Please remember to follow the Breast Cancer Care community guide lines, specifically points 1 and 2 which are titled 'be kind to each other' and 'Celebrate difference and disagree respectfully'.
The guidlines can be found here: http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/community/forums/community-guidelines-please-read-0
As these guidlines state, the forums are not the place to make personal attacks on an individual so please take care when posting.
Regards Sam, BCC Facilitator
Welcome to the BCC forum where I am sure you will find support from other members. While you are waiting for some replies I thought our publication "In it together" might be helpful. I have attached a link:
You might also find it helps to talk things over with one of our helpliners. The opening times are 9-5 on weekdays and 10-2 on Saturdays. The number is 0808 800 6000
Very best wishes