Update got my new times which they had refused to tell me saying hadnt got time, they are afternoons, i told them not afternoons as i sit my friends dog and cant she hasnt got anyone else to do it shes on courses at work and cant take time off, I was told initially i could choose times and discuss them, seems like it, The early onesi couldnt do as using public transport that time in morning would be impossible , and in Norfolk seems hospital transport is for infirm only, im far too fit to use it and also you cant use it one way and get bus back. Be gratefful ladies you dont live in Norfolk, june
Thank you all, i rang yestedsy re chan ging appoitnments, they were not over helpful but did agree, Asked about transport and said id only need it one way anyway, they said not possible you have to use it there and back !! and nornally its only people who are infirm and not very sprightly and who find using public transpor difficult, who they consider eligble As i am a pretty nippy 67 year old, i obviously wouldnt qualify, and i ive no desire to sit around waiting for transport when i could be outside the hospital and back home or round my friends sitting the dog in half an hour, Does any other part of the Uk have these same silly arrangments or is it jiust Norfolk, Probably is, no other city builds a hospital way out on outskirts,city hospitals in city centres, like ours used to be, Now luxury flats people cant afford to live in. june
ank Nenya, but i dont think there is anything like that here; They mentioned hospital transport but sort of more or less said bus would be better, as people who use it are often infirm and take ages getting in and out, whereas im able bodied and nimble and would have to travel around the city to pick people up. Help with costs isnt available to me i,e reimbursement of bus fares as pensioners passses dont start till 9 30 here and as im not on pension credit because i receive a small company pension as well as state i couldnt get it. I will ring monday and see what can be done.
As for the friends, i have had people with me on every appointment, this particular friend has been one and was very sympathetic , but since she discovered no chemo, and i seem well she seems to think im perfectly ok in every way. If i say im lonely and hate being alone, i get told not to keep ,moaning and to join things and do voluntary work or if i want a paid job which i do, be prepared to do anything, When i was having op and waiting for news she was all over me, Sometimes i think was it cause i care for her dog when shes at work and she was worried more about that, i dont know. Havent discussed with other friends yet may get a more sympathetic ear. Cancer is an even harder journey on your own without a family or partner believe me.june
Ive just received my appointments for rads and they seem a mismash of times, some quite early awkward as i use public transport and althugh i live in a city many will coniside with rush hour and hospital is on the city outskirts. One friend i rang was most unsympathetic, told me im lucky not to have chemo, well i know that, it seems to me that since people have discovered i dont have to have that, and i seem to be well, they seem to have little sympathy left. I dont have any family, no kids or partner. Sometimes i think should i bother to have it at all, its 3 months since my lumpdectomy, im on tamoxifen. Is it worth it, my life isnt the greatest,when i was first diagnosed people rallied around now, im just told to get on with it. I sometimes feel do i really care if it comes back, im, lonely most my friends in couples and single ones do have families., im rerired wnich i hate, didnt want to be, my comapany didnt want the older ones so told to do voluntary work, jojn things, but im not a joiner, and going to groups alone is hard, ive tried them but never had much success. Dare i refuse rads, as said do i c are, 20 more years of my life like this, can i face it,