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missred1954
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hi Lizziebeth,
I had a masectomy 20 months ago and have gone from a foam to a silicon pothesis and have decided i prefer not to wear any of these.I had so much trouble adjusting the false bits that in the end i decided not to bother.I am large breasted which is harder to conceal lol.I have been on holiday to Malta and Florida and taken my silicon boob with me in case i thought i might need it but i didn't .It's other people's problem if they don't like the way you look i have got over that and enjoy the freedom.The only thing i miss is wearing a necklace lol looks a bit odd .

Jefner
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

It's been great to read this debate as I am about to go in for a mx and feel a lot of people are putting me under pressure to have immediate reconstruction. They seem more bothered about that than the fact that I'm having surgery to get rid of cancer!

I don't want to conform just to make other people feel comfortable, but neither do i want to turn down recon as a political statement! If I have no recon I have wondered about not wearing a prosthesis - guess I won't know if I can do that until I try. I do like symmetry but don't want to create false symmetry.

lizziebeth
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hello Everyone

Many thanks for all your comments - I put the post up, waited ages for an email telling me my registration had been approived then lost the links to the site - just re-found it now. It was great to read all your suggestions. I am still looking for a good solution for me. THe scar causes a problem if I wear a bra strap on that side so I have at present resorted to removing the left strap and stitching the cup flat on that side (well almost flat as I still have some lumpy tissue left there) but still feel there must be a more elegant solution.I am very happy not wearing a prosthesis as that way I feel I have got my life back as it was before and I do not have to pretend to be someone I am not just wish I could sort the bra out - do not think I will be spending £300 though but thank you any way for the suggestion!

GrannyScouse
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Thanks, ladies, for this thread, which is something I've been considering for quite a long time now.

Firstly, Whiffy, I'm sure I remember being advised not to wear wired bras post mx. I haven't, although I always wore wired bras before mx.

Secondly, you've convinced me that going prosthesisless(??) is the way forward for me. Increasingly it's become uncomfortable for me, so why should I feel I have to wear a tight bra and heavy boob when I don't want to. Everyone knows I only have one so why should I pretend otherwise? So today is the beginning of the rest of my life - without a left boob!

Good luck to us all.

xx

whiffy
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

thanks for all the comments and suggestions ladies :0)

i have been wondering what to do with all the bras i've already got {i've had a bit of an obsession collecting nice bras...so maybe its odd that i'm no longer fussed about them..?} i was thinking about taking the wires out and seeing how that went...i'll try it!

i'm also wondering if we should be wearing wired bras at all...i only have once and coming home from the mastectomy and it caused by scar to bleed all over the softie...so i haven't tried it again. any thoughts?

terry84
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hi,

Not sure if this is too late to be helpful to you... I also had a single sided mastectomy, haven't had reconstruction and don't wear a prosthesis.

I buy the same bras that I wore before, take the underwire out of the side on which I don't have a breast, then I sew that side flat on the sewing machine. The more I've done, the better I've got at it. It's a bit fiddly to unpick the stitching before resewing it flat, but my sewing pretty basic and I can manage it.

The other, very expensive, option I took was to go to Rigby and Peller and have a bra custom made for me with one side flat. It cost about £300. You get to chose all the fabric and the style.

And, sometimes I just wear my post surgery bra. The part when the prosthesis should go is a tiny bit saggy, but not noticeable at all once I'm dressed.

I hope this helps. It's really nice to hear of someone else who is content with one breast and no prosthesis.

Best,

T

hattiecat
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

This is my first post ladies so I hope it works!Had my mastectomy 14 September. Have small breasts and do not plan reconstruction. Quite happy as I am. Have never had a cleavage or worn low cut tops so nobody can tell the difference! Usually wear a normal camisole but M&S do a nice one in white with a pocket and they don't charge delivery or VAT on post surgery lingerie.

Claire2010
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

I had bilateral immediate implant recon last year but a recurrence this year for which the safest course of action was to remove the implant and as much skin as possible. So I have one implant on one side and nothing on the other - not what anyone had predicted...

Most of the time I don't wear a prosthesis, even out and about. I haven't even got the silicone prosthesis yet, I just wear the comfie if I want shape on both sides. One reason for this is that I am just coming to the end of rads so I don't want to irritate the flat side, but I was doing this too even before rads started.

I go running without a prosthesis.

It helps that it is winter so I wear scarves and jackets, I don't really think anyone notices. I have stuck to the very soft stretchy post surgery bra which gives enough support for the implant side but doesn't pucker too much on the flat side.

The big question for me is whether, at a later date, I undergo a recon to balance me out, or whether I just have the implant removed and go flat both sides. I was keen to do the second option at my last surgery, but the surgeon encouraged me to give it more time.

littlemrs
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So pleased to read this thread and find it mirrors my own feelings. I've grown increasingly resentful about wearing a prothesis so now don't apart from at work. It feels liberating and I've never had any comments or stares. I don't like having to pretend I look like something I don't (2 breasted). A sports bra feels comfortable.

Lost_4_Words
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hi Lizziebeth

I don't wear my softie at home but find myself running to find it the moment anyone arrives or if I go out shopping. I haven't told many people about my BC so don't feel comfortable (yet) without it in public. Having it in just saves awkward questions from people who have no right to know.

I've had breast problems for 25 yrs so haven't worn a conventional bra for years and always preferred crop tops. They are ideal with or without my softie because they are stretchy you don't get the floppy bit of fabric. Don't know if you've seen the Genie Bra or Ahh Bra on tv but they are similar (only cheaper) I usually get them from Matalan. The only problem I had initially was getting it on cos they go over the head and arm movement was a little difficult but I soon found a way 🙂

Best wishes
L4W

whiffy
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

hi,

i'm another one that doesn't want to wear a falsie...i'm not huge on the other side {c/d cup} so i just wear a soft sports bra...rather like a crop top for teenagers and go lopsided.
i find it doesn't bother me when i'm wearing shirts/t~shirts/jumpers etc but if i want to wear a fitted top or dress...i'm still working out what to do with the floppy bit of fabric!!

i've been wondering if you could get one sided bras...does anyone know of anywhere that makes them?

Welsh_girl
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Ceci, what a fabulous site!
I'm determined to find out more about their sales overseas.
Quite revolutionary to see such wonderful designs for us!!!
We deserve UK designers to 'up' their game!

Thanks again!
Really excited to view more.....

bluepearl
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

I put a couple of very fuzzy footies in mine....I can't stand too much pressure in this area.

applestreet
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hi

just to say thanks shelley61 for the comment of one life etc... I am having a mastectomy on 13th Oct and was only diagnosed a month ago, this is the first time I have been able to laugh at my situation, what a fantastic outlook to have, I am going to try to look at it like this from now on. Thanks again.M

Ceci
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

This is a US company, and I don't know their shipping policy overseas. However, I emailed the company about a question and got a very nice, rapid response from the owner, so its worth asking! They make special clothing, lingerie and bath suits for single (right or left) and bilateral mastectomy:

http://www.chikaradesign.com/flash.html#/collection/lingerie/1

In addition to a single mastectomy bra with flat/prothesis option, the make a nice little "flat" lacy bra which I bought to help things along post-surgery. My surgery is Monday, but I got the "bra" already for the psychological value. I'm opting for no reconstruction (I don't know about it England, but in the US you get looks like you just sprouted a second head if you have health insurance and don't want "new breasts with a free tummy tuck." Ugh. No thanks.

Shelley61
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hello,

Not been on here for a few days, but had saved this discussion - just seen your post janexjaney "One life, one tit, live it" - think this needs to be my mantra, rather than body issues I've had previously!! Thanks ever so!

Luv, Shelley xxxxx

janexjaney
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

I have been very happily one breasted now for almost 4 years, not really got involved much with all the support and forums etc as fortunatly for me I haven't felt the need. I had only been with my partner for 3 months when diagnosed with breast cancer but he has been so wonderful, he has always made me feel just as sexy and attractive as ever even with one breast. I am so glad I didn't go down the road of reconstructive surgery with all it's inherent risk. Very few people ever notice (even though I am often in front of an audiance singing) I tend to wear loose ish clothing but I don't go to any special effort. Vest's with an ubuttoned blouse over are good and as for the bra... sports bra's do it for me, very comfy. I know I am lucky that it doesn't bother me, not as some people insist terribly brave - I really just don't mind. But I would love somehow to help anyone who is afraid of being one breasted to overcome their insecurities, but most of all wouldn't it be lovely if it were completely acceptable, why should we hide it?...it's part of my journey, and I for one am glad I found it when i did. i think if anyone does notice it is a reminder for eveyone to just keep checking, and a reminder of that feeling we get of life's priorities when something like this does happen. I have a little saying: "One life, one tit, live it"! Courage and confidence to be yourself to everyone. xx

maude
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Yes, Wizz, I noticed that too. I was watching with my OH and waiting for him to comment but he didn't so I don't think he noticed - maybe it is just me who looks at women's chests! 🙂

Lizziebeth, I can understand you not wanting to wear a breast form to conform. Something occurred to me and I am not sure if I am correct in saying that it is a matter of "balance" and by not wearing one (especially if you are large breasted like me) you could cause problems later with your neck and back. Your posture could be bad too. Just a thought. Someone else might be able to give us some more information.

Love
Maude xx

Wizzbaby
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Did anyone see Country File yesterday evening? Adam was interviewing a lady farmer who bred an unusual type of cow (sorry didn't catch her name). It was obvious after the first few shots that she was one-breasted, the camera person clearly didn't stop filming. That's only the second time I've ever seen that, since my mx in 2008. Anyway I think she was wearing a bra.

with love Wizz

enaid46
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

hi
I had my mx 29th march [not counting ..really] and I chose not to wear the comfie as had a seroma and felt sore. I now have my prosthesis and it feels better than the comfie so I wear it when I have to .
yesterday I went out shopping with my two teenage daughters when I realsied after an hour that I had my sports bra on and nothing in.
My girls werent bothered at all [and I am quite well endowed]
I think it is for other people as i would be happy with nothing but not brave enough
I am going into hosp 20th august for breast reduction to be followed by diepp in nov
I really cant wait as I hate all the faff around it.....good luck to you in searching for the perfect bra-have you thought of taking a bra you like to appliance office and asking them to customise it for you ?????

gypsylady
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hi Lizziebeth

I may not be well-endowed (36D) so maybe it's a bit different for me but I had my mx in May and came home with a softy, have had swelling and cellulitis so no measurement for a 'proper falsey' yet. I am finding that the softy just isnt right.

It isn't heavy enough to hang right, with the swelling I havent been able to agree with it about how much stuffing it wants, I was quite sore from the cellulitis so the softy felt like it was rubbing.

I just go 'au naturelle' - 'this is me! and it you don't like it, tough!'

I found some nice sports bras and just leave the flat side empty, havent sewn up and excess as I might want to were something later.

I find the empty side shows a little around low necklines, since the regular boob pulls the bra over but thats a small price to pay for being comfortable.

Good Luck with whatever you choose.

Like our bald heads, this is just another Badge of Merit. Wear it with pride as we soldier-on in our fight against the rebel cells.

Love
June

norberte_1
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jano
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Re: wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hi,
Bumping.
Your choice is that, no one should make you feel bad about it. I decided to have tissue expander and a breast reduction in order to look relativly balenced, but that was what I wanted.
Have you contacted a specialist like women zone in warrington to see if they can help you.
Jane x

lizziebeth
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wearing bra for remaining breast but no prosthesis

Hi I wondered if there is anyone else who prefers not to wear a prosthesis and if so how they cope with wearing a bra for the remaining breast. I am happy to be one-sided - don't really see why I should spend the rest of my life pretending to have two breasts just to conform to the norm. But not sure how to cope with the bra issue. I was/am fairly large breasted so need a good bra but don't know what to do with the empty side. It looks much better quite flat so at the moment I'm just pinning the bra flat with safety pins - anyone discovered a better way?? There seems to be very little or no support for anyone chosing not to wear a prosthesis - the doctor I saw the other day greeted me with "Why are you not wearing a prosthesis?"