thank you very much for your kind and comforting words and valuable advice. Had the biopsies on Wednesday and wait for the results to come back to establish if the right side is affected as well or if the cancer is only on the left side.
Fingers crossed it will be okay.
My additional bits of advice for where you are at now - is as well as reading the relevent BCC leaflets now, look at them again the day before your next appointment with a consultant - I found I missed some bits of information first time around - and during the consultations.
So next advice is, if possible take someone with you - I didn't believe it could possibly be cancer so told my OH to stay at home - big mistake!
Final advice - and I wish I had done this - if you have a BCN ask them a day or so before consultant appt if she thinks there will be anything you will be asked to make your mind up on at the appt - or new thing to be discussed. I tried not to look too far ahead as my case was complicated by two cancers, i.e. both breasts (is this what you think might happen?) but many times came a cropper because I was behind in my options research and could not take in what they were saying on the day. Another reason for taking a buddy. So I was often on the back foot discussing which op, which reconstruction etc
You are in good hands
Hello Alanna, Haven't got anything more useful to add but wanted to let you know that I know exactly how you feel. Felt as though I had been hit by a truck. There is so much support here though and it will help you through each stage of your treatment. I think you are taking the first step by coming onto this website. I couldn't face it at first as it made it all the more real for me. I'm so glad I did tho as it has helped me no end!
I just want to echo what Chocciemuffin has already said. This is the worrying time, and when you know what they`re going to do about it, you`ll feel more in control. My Indian lady GP, when I was scared in the early days, used to say sternly to me "Just have the treatment!". I hung on to that and now two years on, I`m glad I was looked after by people who knew a lot more about BC than I do.
I must say, though, I had a glass of wine each night in the early days to relax me and get a good night`s sleep.
Best wishes for the next few weeks, and keep on the forums,
just had another look at your comment and take great comfort from your words. I am having a core biopsy on Wednesday and feel rather apprehensive about it at the moment. I was told last week that I have cancer cells in my growth, which is about 2.5 cm. The waiting is just a horrid time and I believe that I have to wait for the final diagnosis another 2 to 3 weeks after the biopsy. My surgeon told me that he reckons an op to remove the lump would be the best going by the results so far.
thanks for your comforting words it makes such a difference not to feel so alone. It is a scarry time I have to admit - not exactly knowing what your care plan is going to be and what is in front of you. I am ever so glad I found this website and all you kind and lovely people.
I hope you are okay and I will keep you in my thoughts.
Alanaa, so sorry you didn't get good news. I think just about everyone on here knows just how you feel. For me, it was like an atom bomb had gone off in my life and I just couldn't get my head round it, it didn't feel real and didn't feel like it was happening to me. As many will say, once you know what you're facing, what the treatment plan is - and it will be personalised for you, so don't worry if it's not the same as anyone else you know - and you get some things organised, you WILL feel more in control. It's the not knowing quite what you're dealing with is so distressing.
Some tips for you:
Look at the Publications section, and read the leaflets that are relevant to where you are now.
Dip into the forums, post where you feel comfortable, you will be made welcome wherever you post.
Get a notebook and write down any questions you might think of at odd times of day, and bring your list of questions with you to appointments. Don't leave the appointment until you're happy your questions have been answered (if, indeed, they HAVE the answers yet).
None of us knew anything about it when we were at the same stage as you are at now. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A SILLY QUESTION, so ask anything you like.
Good luck. It's not fun, it's not pretty, but it's not lonely either when you have your forum friends to help you along.
thank you very much for you reply. I got the result from the hospital this morning and it is not good. Feeling kind of numb at present. Have to go for further tests to establish if it is only on the left side as there is a suspicious area on the right too. Your kind words did help me over the last few days and I just want to say thank you
Firstly, welcome to the discussion forums, I'm sure you will receive lots of support and information here.
Waiting for appointments is always a difficult time so if you feel it might help to talk to someone, do give the Helpline a call. They can offer support and information as well as a listening ear.
They're on 0808 800 6000 and open Monday to Friday 9-5 and Saturday 9-2. I do hope this helps.
alanaa so sorry you have this worry. I'm not sure what a coned mammogram is, I'm afraid that is not a term I've come across. It may just be that they want to double check something to be on the safe side. But if it is the worst case scenario we will be here for you. Good luck xx
Hello, just found your site and wonder if anybody can ease my mind. I had a mammogram on Wednesday last week at the hospital in Aberdeen and was told I would get a letter for the follow up appointment in about 10 to 12 days. Received a letter 2 days after the mammogram and was told to attend the clinic for a coned mammogram on Mondayt and got an app with one of the consultants on the same day. Should I worry as the time-line is very fast. I can't sleep or eat with worry at the present time. Any answer to this would be very much appreciated.