Thanks Shi. Yes you're right, I am still me, and that's what I keep trying to think. I will get there!
Thanks for pointing me in the right direction 💕
That’s it Chardonnay ❤️ You are still you 👍 think you ring the number on the top and ask for the someone like me or you can google breast cancer now someone like me and it should tell you. Think strawberry blondes mountain lion is in hope and inspiration bit on here ❤️ 💕💕✨✨Shi xx
Thank you both so much for your replies. I am so lucky to have a wonderful family and friends and they are all being massively supportive but it’s so good to be able to talk to people who know exactly what I’m going through. 😘
I will check out your blog Mai and also Strawberry Blonde’s. I had my MRI scan appointment come through today for a week on Monday. I also had a copy of the letter to the GP which shook me a bit, seeing it in black and white. It said grade 2 ductal and the biopsy was a 5 - malignant but not really anything I didn’t know although I guess they won’t know the full result until they take it out. I’ve also told everyone I want to tell today and that’s been difficult.
But on the plus side I have been out for a run, a long walk, coffee and cake and shopping and spent time with my 4 year old grandson. I’m now sitting in the garden with a G&T (not too many today!) I have definitely felt better today but obviously still obsessing. I’ve booked a couple of days away at the seaside at the end of next week as I feel a change of scenery will do us all good (hubby and daughter as well).
Please could you tell me where I find the “someone like me” feature?
Thanks so much to you both again for your warm kind messages and hope you’re both doing ok 😘
Mai7 does a great blog, life after Lola ❤️ Mai7 took me under her wing and got me through and her and so many other beautiful kind people on here 👭💃🏻💃🏻🕺🕺will help you 😁through ❤️ Strawberry blonde did mountain lion story which was inspirational for lots of us 😘 might be worth a look, everyone is here for you ❤️ You’ll never be alone if you need breast cancer now, reach out like you have and everyone is here ❤️💕💕✨✨Shi xx
Hi Chardonnay, welcome to the forum but sorry you find yourself here. Step one is getting the support you need so well done for coming here. It’s a very stressful time in the beginning as we are very shocked and disturbed that it happened to us, especially when we have no family history. Like you I had a history of fibroadenomas with my first lump appearing at puberty. As a result I felt complacent with the presence of breast lumps as my normal, having had them checked out several times as harmless. I had chemo, surgery and radiotherapy in 2017 after stage 3 locally advanced hormone+ diagnosis and I’m still here and doing well. Like Shi said, we all find different ways to suit us so reach out to the services available and find what works for you personally. Let us know how you’re getting on. Sometimes it’s just nice to offload away from your loved ones. Best wishes. X
Hi Shi, thank you so much for your lovely reply. I guess I am still just in shock at the moment as it was so unexpected. I did actually sleep well, which is good (no drinking yesterday!) but it’s that horrible realisation when I wake up that hits me like a train. I guess it is something I will get used to. I also know that this is the worst time at the moment with all the waiting.
I will definitely look at the “someone like me” option as that looks really good and I will make myself stay off Google! I did ring my designated nurse yesterday and she was lovely so that helped.
Thanks again! 💕
❤️Sorry you find yourself on here, it does feel like You’ve been chucks out of a plane with no parachute when you get told, just take it a step at a time, it’s so much to process and so many 🤯🤯🤯go through your mind. Please keep off dr google, that will just send you into orbit a bit more. Please use the ask the nurse facility on here and the someone like me option too, when you know more you can join the threads that will bring you together with others on the same journey ❤️👭❤️ everyone is different and everyone does it their own way 💪💪❤️there are no right or wrongs, you do it your way ❤️ there will be others pop on to offer tips and guidance too ❤️ the good thing is you found it and did get it checked and they are going to take care of you. Your team have seen it all before and know what to do, you talk to them and ask questions if you want, not everyone wants to know much info, but a notebook with you will help, so you can write questions down and their answers if that’s what will work for you. ❤️ be kind to yourself, it’s time to put you first for a bit now ❤️💕💕✨✨Shi xx
Hello, I apologise for the length of this post in advance, I just really feel I need to get some things off my chest to people who understand! I’m 50 years old and In 2011 was diagnosed with a fibroadenoma, following a core biopsy. They didn’t remove it and over the years I’ve got used to it being there and at one point could barely feel it. I suffer from health anxiety so I’ve tried to stop checking my breasts so much as it stresses me out a lot and I keep asking my hubby for reassurance I checked them at the beginning of December and all was ok I then checked again at the beginning of March and the Fibroadenoma had grown. Since then It seemed to grow more and my hubby felt it and was quite alarmed by how it had grown so i had a phone appointment with the GP who referred me to the breast clinic but wasn’t concerned.
I was examined at the clinic and the consultant said it was really moveable and would be tricky to biopsy I had a mammogram and US and both showed it was still a fibroadenoma. She did a core biopsy just to make sure and took 3 samples I went to get my results yesterday on my own as thought they would be ok. The consultant’s words will haunt me forever when he said he had bad news and to bring my husband in. Basically all 3 samples show IDC grade 2 (although he said we can’t be sure the whole lump is that grade until they take it out), ER+ and PR+ and HR-. He said it is about an inch big so I guess 2.5cn, although it feels bigger than that to me! He seemed quite puzzled as he said there was no sign of it being a fibroadenoma (I don’t think they had my records to compare as they were at a different hospital/health authority).
He examined me and seemed really surprised by how movable the lump was (it was a different consultant to the first one). He felt my lymph nodes and did a US scan under my arms and said they felt and looked fine.
So I will now be having an MRI breast scan to check if it’s anywhere else if not I will be having a lumpectomy on 10th September and lymph node biopsy, radiotherapy and Tamoxifen for 5 years. The nurse said that they would be unlikely to do chemo but they may consider it as I’m still quite young (nice being called young at 50!) if they find anything on the MRI I may have to have a mastectomy.
I was so shocked as nothing indicated it would be that and I’m just so confused that the fibroadenoma appears to have turned cancerous The consultant said 1 in 1,000 can do that so just very unlucky I guess! I stupidly went to the pub last night, drank loads of wine and can’t remember going to bed I woke up at 4am with all my make up on, a massive hangover and the horrible realisation that this is real and actually did happen I just feel so scared they are going to find something else/it’s spread I am an absolute mess today and just do not know what to do with myself . I know the hangover isn’t helping so really hope I feel a little better tomorrow. I’ve hardly eaten either which is so unlike me. Telling everyone was horrible as well, especially my 24 year old daughter who has Aspergers I’m her world and her worst fear has always been something happening to me
Thanks for letting me vent I feel better just for doing that! I just don’t know how I’m going to get through this right now but I guess I will have to find a way!