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Thanks appletree that is very helpful. I am a week on from when I posted this and I think you are right that acceptance is key. I am working on that xx
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Dear Michelle21

 

The best thing at the moment is not to think too hard about what might or might not happen, but to accept that there will be difficulties ahead. Identify the friends who really care about you and who will support you along the way, whatever that brings, and talk to them. Be pleasantly firm with any who say the wrong things and be frank about your own needs; your emotions come first. 

 

I don't know whether this is any help, but I was diagnosed three weeks ago with a 23mm grade 3 invasive ductal cancer with benign lymph node core biopsy.

 

Surgery is on 24 April. The surgeon, whom I saw this Thur 12 May, is performing a lumpectomy: a simple wide local excision. Before surgery, I am receiving an isotope injection and, whilst anaesthetised, will be injected with blue dye. This is to show up whether and which lymph nodes have been affected by the cancer. The lymph node assessment will be carried out whilst I am under anaesthetic. They will take out the sentinel node and any others affected, which could mean some or all of the nodes, but this will be done in the one operation. 

 

The surgeon said that whether or not I will require chemo would depend on whether lymph nodes have been affected. If all are clear, I should not require chemo; just radiotherapy, and also hormone therapy as the tumour is strongly oestrogen positive, 8/8. (The surgeon did say this is common.)

 

Before any treaments are given, there will be a four week wait after surgery to allow recovery.

There is a risk that if a clear margin has not been removed along with the tumour, I will need further surgery and that would be a mastectomy, but this in only a small risk.

 

Everyone is different. The best thing is to talk through your own case with your surgeon and ask him/her what they recommend. Accepting what we cannot change is perhaps part way to dealing with what will change us.

 

Bery best wishes

 

 

 

 

 

 

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It sure is an emotional rollercoaster - make sure you take advantage your breast care nurse, they are there to support you and are fantastic at it as they are so specialist xx

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Thanks for taking the time to reply to me Shocked. This really is an emotional rollercoaster. X
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Hi Michelle,

I know you've posted on the January thread but just thought I reply as my tumor was also grade 3.

My tumor was grade 3 as well I've had and mx which removed my cancer and all the scans following surgery show no cancer but my team are throwing everything at it to avoid a recurrence so I'm on my 4th cycle of chemo with radiotherapy to follow. Its a bumpy ride but we'll get there 🙂



The diagnosis is life changing at at times all consuming but its important to treat yourself as well, it changes your outlook on life massively. Every time you switch the tv on there is a cancer advert or programme which whilst wonderful that its raising awareness is a constant reminder to those of us going through this.

Also do not confuse the grade of the cancer with the stage. I had a grade 3 tumor but would be classed stage 2b cancer - you've probably not done this but I got this completely confused at the start.

Take time to digest what the docs say, and try to avoid googling every last detail try and stick to sites like this and Macmillan, being anxious is completely normal especially whilst you wait for your plan, then you know what you are taking on and will go to battle.

Take care
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Yes, there are some sad stories, but also there are a lot of positive stories but you might not always here about those xx
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Thank you Sue, I don’t know anyone who has had breast cancer, family or friends. The only ones I have heard of are those in the media which often have a sad end. I guess I want what everyone wants and that’s to be told it’s all going to be ok. Thank you for telling me your story xx
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Hi Michelle

I just wanted to share my story...

I was diagnosed in May '16, with grade 3, lobular bc. Now , nearly 2 years on, I'm still here! Thankfully I caught it early, so no lymph node involvment. So treatment was lumpectomy, chemo and rads. A family member had the same bc as me, and she is well and fit, 7 years on from treatment.

You will probably be offered chemo, so you are welcome to join our chemo thread which  the time comes.

This forum is a great place to share, pick up tips and generally have a natter.

Hugs

Sue xx

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Thanks typicalme, good to hear all is going well with you. I am very early in this journey and already it has been an emoitional rollercoaster. I am fearing now that it has spread throughout my body so I can imagine that reoccurance will always be a fear. I said to my husband today that this has changed me already, I will never be the same person again. It’s a strange feeling. Thank you for telling me your experience it’s good to hear there are others like me who have come out the other side x
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Hi I was grade 3 36 mm lump in 2 nodes Diagnosed November 2016 and so far so good. Not been easy emotionally and recurrence is a fear I'm dealing with but getting there. Message me if I can ever help x
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Thank you Northerngal. I must sound so needy, we all need reassurance I know. I hate that feeling of the fear taking over, it’s so overwhelming. I really appreciated you taking the time to tell me about your friend. Xx
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Hi Michelle21

After reading your post I wanted to reassure you there is light at the end of the tunnel. I was diagnosed at stage 2 but a work colleague was diagnosed with stage 4 six years ago. She had surgery, chemo, rads and is now fit and healthy enjoying life in another part of the world!  She kept me sane with my own diagnosis, reassuring me when I was at my lowest.

 

You will get through this.

Big hugs xxx

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Thank you so much Emmalou. I really needed to hear something like that so appreciate you taking the effort to tell me. Each piece of news I’m given seems to be bad! Having said that I have had some news today which is apparently good so maybe things are on the up! I hope all goes well for you. Thanks again. X
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Hi Michelle.

i haven’t got grade 3 mine up until now is grade 1 so early days, I’m waiting for 5he results of the lumpectomy. But just wanted to share one of my friends stories. She was diagnosed 9 years ago with grade 3 it had spread to her lymph nodes and basically was not in a good place. She went through chemo ( embracing her bald head), rads and I’m not sure which medication she was taking . However she is clear of cancer and loving life. So there is light at the end of the tunnel. I’m on a Facebook group and there are other ladies on there who have been through it and come out smiling. Never give up!  Xxxx

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I was wondering if there are any members on the site who were diagnosed with grade 3 and have come out the other side. I only found out mine is grade 3 today over the phone and to me this sounds bad. I have read the info on the site about grade 3 but would really appreciate a positive tale or two. That anxiety just sneaks up from nowhere and really takes hold. X