The best thing at the moment is not to think too hard about what might or might not happen, but to accept that there will be difficulties ahead. Identify the friends who really care about you and who will support you along the way, whatever that brings, and talk to them. Be pleasantly firm with any who say the wrong things and be frank about your own needs; your emotions come first.
I don't know whether this is any help, but I was diagnosed three weeks ago with a 23mm grade 3 invasive ductal cancer with benign lymph node core biopsy.
Surgery is on 24 April. The surgeon, whom I saw this Thur 12 May, is performing a lumpectomy: a simple wide local excision. Before surgery, I am receiving an isotope injection and, whilst anaesthetised, will be injected with blue dye. This is to show up whether and which lymph nodes have been affected by the cancer. The lymph node assessment will be carried out whilst I am under anaesthetic. They will take out the sentinel node and any others affected, which could mean some or all of the nodes, but this will be done in the one operation.
The surgeon said that whether or not I will require chemo would depend on whether lymph nodes have been affected. If all are clear, I should not require chemo; just radiotherapy, and also hormone therapy as the tumour is strongly oestrogen positive, 8/8. (The surgeon did say this is common.)
Before any treaments are given, there will be a four week wait after surgery to allow recovery.
There is a risk that if a clear margin has not been removed along with the tumour, I will need further surgery and that would be a mastectomy, but this in only a small risk.
Everyone is different. The best thing is to talk through your own case with your surgeon and ask him/her what they recommend. Accepting what we cannot change is perhaps part way to dealing with what will change us.
Bery best wishes
It sure is an emotional rollercoaster - make sure you take advantage your breast care nurse, they are there to support you and are fantastic at it as they are so specialist xx
I just wanted to share my story...
I was diagnosed in May '16, with grade 3, lobular bc. Now , nearly 2 years on, I'm still here! Thankfully I caught it early, so no lymph node involvment. So treatment was lumpectomy, chemo and rads. A family member had the same bc as me, and she is well and fit, 7 years on from treatment.
You will probably be offered chemo, so you are welcome to join our chemo thread which the time comes.
This forum is a great place to share, pick up tips and generally have a natter.
After reading your post I wanted to reassure you there is light at the end of the tunnel. I was diagnosed at stage 2 but a work colleague was diagnosed with stage 4 six years ago. She had surgery, chemo, rads and is now fit and healthy enjoying life in another part of the world! She kept me sane with my own diagnosis, reassuring me when I was at my lowest.
You will get through this.
Big hugs xxx
i haven’t got grade 3 mine up until now is grade 1 so early days, I’m waiting for 5he results of the lumpectomy. But just wanted to share one of my friends stories. She was diagnosed 9 years ago with grade 3 it had spread to her lymph nodes and basically was not in a good place. She went through chemo ( embracing her bald head), rads and I’m not sure which medication she was taking . However she is clear of cancer and loving life. So there is light at the end of the tunnel. I’m on a Facebook group and there are other ladies on there who have been through it and come out smiling. Never give up! Xxxx