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Tandy 4
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😂😂😂 Delly, you do cheer me up!!! Op date next Thursday 12th!!! 😧

Tandy 4
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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Well done spongebob!!!! Great to hear, keeps us all positive thank you xxx Tina

Tandy 4
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Hi Sissy! Well done you! You deserve whatever you fancy Hun! Walked to theatre!? 😧 God my knees were literally knocking when I went down no way could I walk!? Dreading going through it all again next week...... But have no choice! Xxx rest well Sissy and keep us updated xxxx hugs xx Tina

Jill1998
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It's "Christine speak ",think I am just about able to understand it now!!Claire is back at work but struggling a bit with it ,she has Onc appointment today.
tweeks123
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Laughing here reading back in in the dark should have put the lamp on ha !
You will get used to my gobbledegook. .x
Jobey68
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Just about made sense of that Christine lol 😉

tweeks123
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Morning Ladies
where us Claire who came to our meet up dobt thibj she cimes on here wonder hiw sge us diing? Jill maybe yiu know how she is..im always on the October chat never think of coming on here hiw is everyone I have trouble rememberung who's had what etc..anyway good luck to everyone starting treatment take care x
Christine
Cs66
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Good luck Amanda. Xxxxxxxxxx 

Jobey68
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Morning Sissy, isnt technology great! Keeping in touch from hospital would have been unheard of a few years ago, you were not even allowed to have phones switched on! Lovely to hear from you and know you are doing ok Xx jo 

Jobey68
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Sending you lots of love and a big hug Amanda, will soon be over! xx 

A.Faed
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Thanks for that Sissy, I'm on way down now. Finger's crossed for the gynea ward. Speak to you later everyone. Amanda xxx

delly
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Phew, thank goodness it's the night shift and you're all now tucked up in bed and I can do some serious catching up now the frantic morning and evening postings on here have quietened down. But not for much longer cos I'm knacked - which doesn't mean I'm doing a short post which, as you've all come to realise, is plainly impossible for me to do.

So "HI" to everybody again.

 

Lorna - Aren't you lovely. I've followed you on other threads. Hey, not that the rest of you aren't - I'm gradually working my way round with the compliments so don't get all indignant and jealous !!    I'm not totally happy with the name "Delly's Buddy Services" so it may change - will give it some thought cos I'm quite good at coming up with names. Came up with "Shampooch" for a friends dog grooming biz and "Mind Power" for anothers hypnotherapy practice. I should be taking royalties really don't you think. Yes thank you - feeling not too bad as yet. If I can keep it up I'll become even more annoying so be warned. You may all regret giving me such wonderful support. 

 

JenJen - am here and understood. Wow, you HAVE been busy and well organised and I'm so glad everyone's coming up trumps for support. You'll have to let me know where you went for your mezze's - love Mediterranean food. Is  the Spanish place "La Tasca" still open on Deansgate ?? I used to love their Tapas and paellas, to share with someone spesh, partner/friend. Haven't been into M/C centre for quite some time now, bit further out in the stix here, but it has other advantages. Will Monday be your 1st chemo sesh ?Remind me, is it going to be chemo with you first, review, then surgery? Sorry, can't rememb everybody's - there's so bleepin many of us it's frightening.  Need an income sweetie so need to make that priority over voluntary work tho' have always had it in mind. 

 

I need to set myself up as a "healer" to rid the world of this bleepin disease, but a genuine one ( that is I either cure you or drive you mad so you end up not caring. Hee!). Should keep me busy on top of "Buddy" sevices. That's me saw- id    ( that's "sorted" said with an Essex accent).

 

Me thinks TandyTina's gone into overdrive - My drains were in max 3 days for each one. Regards to keeping your pants on - ask the nurse before you go in. Personally, I like to go commando !!  For flips sake, you're gonna be out to the world in a completely unaware state of  the most beautiful anaesthetic euphoria and wont be giving a toss who sees your fanny or boobs - they've seen plenty. Yours may be something unusual tho' and I'm told they sometimes take photo's of any that are unusual . . . . . I'm JOKING  darlin! So your still waiting on a surgery date. I loved hearing you talk about you and your hubby soulmate - 31 years and still in love, absobloominlutely brill.  Mind you, it may be a different story when he retires and is under your feet all day every day- lol  hee.   

 

Sissy, no, high street don't cater for big bosomed ladies who've had Mastectomies. That nitty gritty stuff'll be sorted after a week or so and you'll feel a million dollars when you've been properly fitted with bra and prostheses -well  I did. Went to a specialist shop to get fitted and spent a fortune on some reeeally nice mast bras and matching briefs and thongs. Walked out minus £200 ! but . . . . it was worth every penny. So warn your hubby and/or your bank manager ! In the words of the L'Oreal ad - "You're worth it". Soo glad you're surprised how well you're feeling - we did try to tell you, but back in the same position, I'm not sure I'd have believed it either. Bet that was the BEST cheese sarnie, cup o' tea and McDonalds you've ever tasted. It's these opiates - wonderful stuff and give you the munchies as well as being starved for 1/2 a day.  Have a good rest and lots of nice treats.

 

Fuffs - hope you're recovering, stablising and getting back onto the not so nice chemo track.

Claire - you're doing really well. Good luck from me too for Mondays result day.

Nikki- 1st chemo today I think.  From checking into Peggycats chemo thread sessions (yeh. . . .  see, I spy on you all) - it's all an excuse really to sit around all day, drinking cups of whatever and talking in the  "Loose Women" fashion, so no sympathy from me. x   Get that BazzinBazza running around after you - make him work !

Peggycat - Thanks sweetie ref puddycat Chloe, I'd already pre-empted your suggestion tonight and slyly put the tab in a clump of her fave food of the moment and shhhh - she fell for it. Too traumatic for the BOTH of us me trying to gently open her jaws and put tab into her mouth. I woke up with a jolt this morning thinking the worst, as she hadn't eaten anything I'd put down last night and left before going to bed, but I needn't have worried - she'd wolfed the lot in a midnight feast session!  She's already looking better thank goodness. So I'll keep persisting with the "sly" approach. Where do these human and animal pharmacy co's get their prices from?? - £30 per month possibly for the rest of her very precious to me life - I'd begrudge having to pay that for mySELF.  Absolute rip -off. Wish I'd gone into pharmacy development and production !!  But I adore her and she's a L'Oreal cat so "worth it".  Keep eating the cake Ruth (and mixing up the potions in the chemo coven) Sounds a hard tough slog - sending a hug.

 

Speaking of "HUGS" - I was most envious of all your talk of good hugs when catching up on posts yesterday. Couldn't rememb when I last had one. Bumped into a lady today who lives on my road who I've talked to and with several times since I moved here 2 yrs ago - Sheila and hub Ed. Hadn't seen her for ages and had wondered how she was as last time I'd seen her she'd had health probs. She'd also been wondering about me and thought perhaps I was ill ?   "Nothing that a brain transplant wouldn't cure" say I quite cheerfully. We stood chatting for about 20 mins about all sorts. She hadn't known any of my boob history or bereavements etc.so was pretty shocked to hear what had gone on with me in the last 10 yrs. I don't know this lady very well at all but she looked at me and just said  "I think you need a hug"  and we both stood on the pavement - arms wrapped round each other in a lovely long warm hug. Told her aftrewards that I'd only been reading hug posts on here yesterday and missing some human contact. Couldn't believe it - blew my socks off,   how weirdly insightful.  Think it's my Mum sending messages again (as in recent butterflies).    She wants me to go round for an afternoon tea !! Awwwww.  

I've been getting on with stuff this week hence my absence, car sorted and back on the road after me not driving for 15 mnths, cat sorted, front door cleaned, few loads of washing, been keeping myself clean and teeth brushed, done some job searching and applied for one, researched into types of therapy and availability in this area thanks to a link sent by Naz on another thread.  Hope I can keep it up, ask me tomorrow ??  

You lot on here and other threads are responsible for much of it - THANKS buddies and you all thank Sheila for the hug.

Dellywelly xxxxxxxx

 

 

 

Sissylw1980
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Amanda, no wifi, and there are no TVs above the bed in the ward I'm on. Luckily I'd downloaded a film onto the iPad. I'm on the orthopaedic ward, which is a bit rubbish really as all the ladies here have have knee and hip ops, if im honest I feel quite out of place, but at least I have a bed! I think maybe a gynae ward may have been better though I guess you have to go where there's space.

I'm getting used to my drains, though they are a nuisance as I've been up and down to the toilet all night as I've drunk a lot of fluids and they also put a drip in during the op.

I'll change my pic tomorrow when I'm back home. Thank you all for your reassurance and encouragement throughout xx
shazza45
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Well done Sissy, I'm glad that's over for you. Time to rest now!! Good luck for tomorrow Amanda!
Take care lovely ladies xxx
Jobey68
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Lovely to see Oscar, just love cats, we have 3 ! Would be great to see you too 😊😊

spongebob52
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This, is Oscar the best cat in the world will try again,

familytree
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Nice to see everyone.. thought you were robots! 🙂 x
Jobey68
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I'm trying to encourage everyone here to post their pictures so we can put faces to names 😊

spongebob52
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You've changed your picture , going to try mine.!
Jobey68
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Amanda so lovely to put a face to a name 😊😊

A.Faed
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Hi Ladies and Barry, have been FaceTiming with my two eldest daughters so haven't quite read all the posts, but thanks for all the best wishes!

Sissy, you're doing amazingly, well done! Do they have wifi or are you on your phones data?

Going to attemp to change my photo now!

Amanda x

familytree
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Way to go spongebob! well done x

spongebob52
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Hi All brief update 13 weeks post mastectomy and reconstructive surgery, first full day back at work, community neonatal nurse,.celebrated by buying lovely new fiat 500.Decided to live the life and forget the rubbish!
Tomorrow? Spongebob
Jobey68
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You can change your pic from a paint brush to you Laura! 😊

familytree
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Can we post pictures? Didn't realise x
familytree
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Great to hear that sissy! Made up it went well for you. Have to say the anaesthetic was the best sleep I had had in weeks! Loved it 😉 x yes I want to know how we reveal ourselves? So to speak! Lorna x
JenJen
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Glad you are up and about sissy xx love and hugs x
Jobey68
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Pictures ladies! I want pictures 😜

Jobey68
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Hi Sissy! Lovely to hear from you so soon 😊See told you it was a piece of cake lol!  It's amazing how good you feel though isn't it, nothing quite like you have been imagining I'm sure, you eat what ever you fancy lovely, you deserve it!! Xxx 

Cs66
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Really pleased you are ok Sissy. I was surprised I had to walk to the theatre too! I felt fine afterwards and still do. I hope you continue to do well. I just felt relieved afterwards as the build up to the op was so difficult. Well done for getting through today. Claire xxxxx
Jill1998
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Well done Sissy, glad you are ok.I was surprised I had to walk to theatre too !!I talked absolute b******s to the anaesthetist as I was so terrified !!!You deserve a McDonalds!!
Sissylw1980
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Amanda, good luck for tomorrow! I mentioned to Mr C that I've been chatting with other ladies under his care and he seemed quite pleased xx
Sissylw1980
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Hello all.......well, I'm feeling very surprised by it all at the moment. Had a melt down at home late last night and said I wasn't going toga be the op, anyway got up this morning and managed to make it to the hospital. Was doing okay until the lovely lady anaesthetist spoke with me, then I went to pieces, don't think she wanted me going back into the pre-op lounge and upsetting everyone else waiting, so she said that they my get me done and dusted first. Got ready for op, was still very tearful as couldn't seem to stop crying! Saw Mr C and registar who did their usual things. Then walked to operating theatre waiting room as op was taking place in the day hospital wing. Waited there for a few minutes (had about three wee's as was worried about wetting myself on operation table. Then got taken away by nurse, who was amazing. She stopped and told me her story how she'd had breast cancer at young age like me, and how she was still here now. This made me so happy as was nice to talk to someone face to face.

So, the next bit really surprised me.......I was surprised that I had to walk into the theatre itself and get up on the trolley, I think I imagined I'd get wheeled in from outside?! Anyway, i made some comment about holby city, but I had three ladies in there with me putting me under and they were fantastic, I didn't even realise they were doing it, I was talking to them about wine and Dubai and the next thing i know I was being brought round! Then 10 mins later I was eating a cheese sandwich and cup of tea!

At the moment I'm feeling uncomfortable, but I've managed to get up and about a bit and put my pjs on, sent the OH out to get me a McDonalds for my dinner, naughty but I figured I deserved one. I'm very very surprised by how well I feel at the moment. Sissy xx
Tandy 4
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So funny......😂 Ok, so, how or what do we do to 'reveal' ourselves!?!....... Omg I nearly wrote relieve!!!! 😜

Jill1998
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Looking good Tina!!!
Tandy 4
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😂🤓😂👍🏼 

Jobey68
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Ladies I've been thinking.... It's about time you all revealed yourselves! And I don't mean flashing your boobs 😂😂

Jill1998
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Found recipe for sprout curry ,not sure .....
PeggyCat
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Thanks Jen.

 

Chomps sprout.

 

x

JenJen
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Sending you a hug and an M&S chocolate sprout peggycat x
PeggyCat
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Thanks Jill. I can't complain. I've got off lightly with the SEs so far. I'm just a bit grumpy when I'm tired. Hope all is well with you. x

Jill1998
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Keep going Peggy ,it's a long slog but you will get there eventually,light at the end of the tunnel soon hopefully .
Jill1998
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Good luck tomorrow Amanda, hopefully this time you will get rid of the bugger for sure.
PeggyCat
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Nice to see you back Delly. Hope your little cat is okay. The thyroid thing is very common with them. Is there any food she will wolf down that you can hide the pills in? I'm pretty bad at forcing them down their throats too so I feel your pain.

 

Tandy, I honestly wouldn't stress too much about the drains. I had two when I came out of hospital after my MX and they were in for a week. Put them in a little bag that you can drape over your shoulder and you'll be fine. You soon get used to taking them everywhere with you. I had no issues when they were removed. A couple of pain killers an hour before seems okay and the BC nurses are experts at removing them.

 

Hope everyone who is having treatment today and the next few days is doing okay. I'm on a chemo tired spot at the moment but had a lovely day after a friend visited and brought me some home made cake.

 

xx

JenJen
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Hello All

I haven't been around much as I have had 3 appointments in 3 days, I decided I was going to use my last few days of "freedom" and having control of what I did when including being able to go where I wanted under my own steam without anything to stop me like side effects or nadir days . So after every appointment I have gone and got myself a nice meal and a potter round town. Enjoyed some mezze , nutella milkshakes and few good coffees and generally felt like me again for a few days. The appointments all ran late and I've met a bunch of lovely people at them who are all at various stages in treatment and like you lovely ladies have all inspired and helped me in some way. I already have 2 buddies for Monday Chemo to hold my hand they are a few months in and were all booked at the same time they have adopted the newbie 🙂

Told the extended family and friends this week so drivers and lifts to appointments galore offered which has been great I have a regular bloods driver now who will take me on the Friday and 3 cousins covering dropping off and picking up on chemo days:).and was reminded my best friend from uni days has alopecia always has and I forgot because her wigs are so good I just never notice! Have wig appointment tomorrow and my friend from work is coming along to help me pick we are then going out for some food and a couple of mockitos (or maybe real ones depending on the time)

Delly 🙂 its lovely of you to offer and I will consider it honestly xx hope the kitty is feeling better and realises you are just trying to help soon. You could look into volunteer driving I know the WRVS do it and I think the rotary club do too 🙂 A lady was there today who had been brought by a volunteer driver she couldnt praise him enough.

Love to Amanda & Sissy for surgery, love to anyone having treatment this week x

Gearing up for Monday!

Love to all
Jen
familytree
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Hope your cat gets well soon Delly. Glad you're feeling a bit brighter ( you are aren't you?! ) it sounds like you are. I can't keep up with who's having what when! But thinking of you all and here if you need to chat x like the Delly Delivery Services! Lovely of you to offer x
Tandy 4
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Hi Amanda, so sorry took me ages to get back to you! Out all day. They're called 'SALIVIX' - Salivary Stimulant (😂) Dry mouth relief sugar free  pastilles, by Galen. I found them very good as there were only so many boiled sweets I could take!! All the best for tomorrow! Big hugs xxx Tina 

delly
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Hello lovely Peeps

Cor lummie, I've got 8 pages of your posts to catch up on - you don't arf talk a lot !! I'm teasing of course.

So I'm not catching up with it all right now, but will do when I've nothing else better to do or I'm bored (I'm teasing again !!) and am keeping this message general until I catch up on all your specifics and gossip.

 

First and most importantly, I wanted to thank you for all your kind words following my down in the dumps post last week and was feeling, to use JenJens word "cack". You make me laugh with some of the words you come out with and I MUST look into that link  you were all going on about - something to do with someone claiming to be able to cure cancer, was that the general gist ?  What's with the sprouts thing ?? 

 

Peggycat - my apols with my ref sore boob, I must have mixed my boobs up !! Hope you're doing ok darlin with your chemo bashing. x

Amanda - think you said your op Friday - Tomorrow in fact ! - I'll be in your pocket to tease and annoy you but keep you safe also. x

Sissy - op yesterday. Hug and a wave, hope all went well, that you're not feeling too sore and are being well looked after. x

 

Bilge - Haha, a warm "Hi" from me. And Yes, please do explain the reason behind the name - I'm intrigued because I haven't noticed you smelling at all, you look pretty clean to me and in fact too attractive for such a name. Naomi is like the opposite extreme, pretty, sophisticated sounding. Still at least you didn't call yourself "Sewage" !!  Yeh, tiredness, I realised in retrospect after diagnosis that I'd been  more tired too. x  

 

JenJen - remind me when you start your chemo and will that be at Christies ?? How will you get to appointments - will transport be arranged ??  I can offer any help being in the sameish area (Maccs not too far) and with not working at the mo' I have more free time than probably most of your friends who may all be working. I'm being totally genuine and serious here, I'd be happy to lovey. You can PM me if you like, let me know what area of M/C you live and when you start.  So I'm offering - have a think on.x

 

Perhaps I could make it a vocation, hire out my services to anyone else here, "Dellys Buddy Services"  just throw me a fish or the odd glass of red in payment !! 

 

I'm gonna post this now, 'cos despite saying I wouldn't catch up now, I have been doing and I need to sort a couple of things so I'll come back later.  Also, took my cat to the vet yesterday and she's very ill at the mo' so I've got to stock up on tasty foods as she's on an "anything to tempt her" diet. Got to get some wieght back on her. Blood tests for Thyroxine were actually off the scale. I'm prepared to go to any lengths and cost but not to the caviar -  that's stretching it a bit. Daily tabs, which I haven't got the right nack of giving yet but am gonna get lots of practice cos they may be for the rest of her life. Managed last night without causing her too much stress or loss of my own blood or fingers, but she was well peed off with me afterwards, sulked for 1/2 an hour.

Love to you all for now

Dellypoos xxx 

Jill1998
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It shows you are able to think about other things which is good Barry. Hopefully the PIC line won't bother Nikki too much .
bazza7676
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Waiting as Nikki has her picc line fitted. Hate seeing her getting upset 😞

How is everyone? I've tried not to be so obsessed with the forum recently lol