I know! 😉 Weve spent all aftetnoon painting so i do have to earn my keep! 😜
Gawd - you're sooooo spoilt Jobes. Tell him to put a thin spread of brown fruity on mine please xx
How's Gem Jobey?? Am having fun and games with the cat tabs - if I'm to carry on sneaking it into her food, it's got to be of a type that's got a paste consistency otherwise she eats ROUND the tab, but so much easier than by mouth. Still struggling to tempt her - she's lost half her body weight.
Amanda - thinking of you. Hope you're doing okay. Speak to you soon x
Am just catching up with Corrie and then go and do some pot bashing or box emptying (perhaps). It might be a good idea for me to use Xmas as a deadline to get house straight and sorted, that's if I can keep up the happier momentum.
Fufs - That's brill info - Thanks very much for that and yes I was/am oestrogen receptive. Suppose I could try my own acupuncture (hee!), but my nerves aren't as steady as they use to be. I'd probably end up needing a blood transfusion !!
Hope all you chemokids and surgerysweeties are doing ok. Have a nice weekend all
Morning Delly, I'm good thanks and you? Looking forward to seeing your pic! X
Mornin Jobes - You ok lovey xx
Listen, i know you've all got much more important things to deal with but have any of you Delightful Divas had any experience/success with Red Clover, Black Cohosh or the likes of Menopace for help with HOT FLUSHES ?? Part of my probs are disturbed sleep due to. Or have any of you any other advice of anything else eg Acupuncture ?? Am 6 years post men (opausal!!) but they're not getting any less. Bad enough during the day but unbearable some nights - wet through. Keep it in mind when you're not too busy. I'll keep asking at other times.
Ps. I'll see if I can dig out my front page cover photo for Vogue last year to "reveal" or my Page 3 and a 1/2 one from The Sun x
Tina just upload another pic and add it, would be lovely to see you 😊 I'm hoping a few more ladies reveal themselves today!! 😉
Sissy, there you are - just a few hours after !! sorry you feel teary but it's all understandable and harmless, only good to let it all out. some of it's probably relief as well. How lovely to ask your drain bag to be passed on to Amanda. Not everyones cup o' tea present wise except to us on here. An immediate connection between you both for when she wakes up. Think we're all different when it comes to facing/confronting our changed body. Bit the bullet with my initial "unveiling" the day after in the ward bathroom, wasn't the happiest experience, ended up on the floor in floods - mourning. But was a good release of the pent up emotions. Also, it didn't look as bad as I'd expected somehow and I felt so much better from. But then, I didn't have as much to lose as some size wise. x
Madange - that's really tough for you - bummer. Hope you get back to your much required chemo soon. Because of clots, are you having to give yourself injections of Heparin or some other kind of anticoagulant ? Yeh - I've heard that extra vodka with choc covered sprouts helps counteract the flatulent effects as well as the obvious alcoholic numbing !!! x
Spongebob - how's it going with the recon? I've forgotten what type you had ? You've done well to get back to work so soon. You pleased with and enjoying your new brumbrum? x
Lorna - the voluntary services aren't just limited to chauffering - Anything. Plus, I do a mean beans or cheese on toast ! I agree with Sarah about your pic being very glam. I felt lucky not to have required chemo too - had a big party to celebrate not needing it or rads. Do you work in some form of therapy or alternative medicine ? it's just a feeling I get from your posts. Yeh know what you mean about Winter hibernation, used to be the same until menopausal hot flushes have sent me in the opposite way. Saves on heating bills tho'. Reminds me to ask for any recommendations - see later. x
JenJen - like the hair. Thanks for the restaurant update. I'm dreadfully out of touch with M/C but so glad to hear La Tasca's still going. I'm getting urges for a good paella as I speak (yummeee) - will have to find someone else to drag along along as they're for a minimum of two, or starve myself for a couple of days and wolf the lot myself ! Anyone else care to join me for a paella getogether ?? x
Sarah - you keep resting up. I don't have the excuse of chemo brain for my lack of function or doolallyness, think mine's too many late night/early morning forum sessions. x
Fuffs - Think I've been getting YOUR sore boob mixed up with Peggycat. Perhaps you could have a break from treatment for a couple of weeks - give you chance to completely rest and concentrate on rebuilding yourself up physically and mentally before returning to it ?? I don't know how detrimental that would be, if at all but no harm in asking your rads team. x
Boobyprize - that's such a brilliant and apt name !! Welcome to the UNexclusive but UNfortunate BC club. Really sorry you've had to join, but you're in a brilliant place for support, advice, or have a good sob or rant. We've all been through it in so many different ways, so there's usually someone here who's already been through anything you're struggling with to advise.
Personally, coming from having had to have a 2nd mast 9 months after the first and NO strong familial history as you have - I'd opt for bilateral and get it all over and done with in one go, rather than risking it appearing in the other at some later stage and having to go through a second life upsetting and emotional upheaval. Being single at the time and 46, I desperately wanted immediate recon because I knew how the loss of boobs would affect me mentally body image wise, confidence wise ref. partnerships and just personal image. Couldn't have it done so have been without 8 years which I've been very unhappy about. Has taken up to last year to be in a position life circs wise to embark on recon. Don't know your age, personal circumstances - it all comes into it decision wise. Sometimes if you know beforehand that you're going to require radio, delaying recon is advised because the skin can be affected. But that's not the case with you.
Ref delayed versus immediate recon, there's pros and cons. Delayed gives you extra time to consider what your best recon options are or you could decide not to bother. Some women prefer to get the "cancer" aspect out of the way first, recover from that and then have the luxury of time to look into and consider all the recon options. BUT, results with immediate recon methods are usually better than from a delayed flatness and minimal skin to work with. Plus delayed recon is a much lengthier process and commitment time wise. You need to spend as much time as possible looking into the different types of recon, looking at photos of results, whether you want self tissue resulting in extra scarring to the rest of your body but the warmth and naturalness of your tissue or the simpler process of silicon implants. Being put in touch with other women who've had the various procedures to be able to physically SEE the results would be the ideal to help you decide. Don't know if your breast care nurse could arrange that for you - there's nowt better than actually SEEing is there. All takes so much time and is incredibly difficult when you're in an already massively upset state from the diag. But I know if I were in your shoes, I'd opt for bilateral mast with immediate recon and get it all over and done with in one go. Would have a much less prolonged invasive effect on your life, physical and emotionally. Most importantly - you need to be happy and confident with your surgeon. If not, seek another. Ask as many people as poss for recommendations. Keep in touch with how you are and where you're up to Booby !! x
Filomenapappa - A warm welcome. Sorry for your diagnosis and treatment. There's a really good specific section for CHEMO-ers if you go to the "Going Through Treatment" section on the main page, then click on Chemotherapy. Loads of different threads to look into. Have a look and join in what I call the "Loose Women" chemo-coven for a cuppa or glassa. (I'm not a chemo-kid) Doesn't matter where on the forum. There's so many of us, you'll get support or advice wherever you go. x
Morning Amanda - Hope all went well yesterday. Am gonna leave you to rest but catch up with how you are when you've come round more. Hope you liked Sissys pressie for your drains - int that nice of her xx
Love to all
Dingerdelly xx (Gawd - I don't arf go on, dun I - sorry)
Francine really feel for you, you have been through so much, but like the others have said please try and keep going with the rads, you've come such a long way, the last part of any race/journey is the toughest, but we're all here willing you across the finish line my lovely
Well done Ange and Sissy sending you big hugs, glad the op's are over for you
Welcome to the new ladies, I was once in your position and posted on this thread and was made to feel so welcome and have had so much help and support from everyone and you will too
We'll get through it together Sissy! Such a relief you're home and drain free! Fab news! 😚
Oh and I decided to try and reveal myself!..... Flipping photo wasn't one I wanted and I don't know how to remove!!!!! 😂
How you doing Amanda? Claire...... Not heard from you hope you're ok? 😏👍🏼😚
Oh Francine I can only imagine how difficult the choice was to stop..... Hope you're getting the right supported and advice.
BoobyPrize, welcome to the club none of us chose to join...... There are fab 'long timers' on here full of great advice and support..... As well as newbies who need all the advice we can get! Everyone is so full of love and support for each other. I'm a newbie and worry I've not asked enough questions at appointments!?!
I'm struggling with all the abbrevisiations! And all I know of my diagnosis us that it's hormone receptive, grade 2 lobular cancer....... Told I'll have chemo in January. I don't even know how many lymph nodes or % found in biopsies!? I cried so much during results appointment and basically said just do what you have to...... I need to know more I think!? Xxx Tina
Hi BoobyPrize, we were all in the state you are now in the beginning so please don't think you are not brave as you will amaze yourself with what you can deal with, it's such a frightening time and until you have had your full results your head will be all over the place, I'm afraid I can't help regarding mastectomy as I had a lumpectomy But trust the team looking after you , there are a few ladies recently who had had a Mx and Im Sure they will be along soon with plenty of help and advice Xx Jo
Hello All, not sure if I'm allowed to join you as you all seem to know each other and support each other so wonderfully.
i have just been diagnosed last week and having single or double mastectomy on 23 November, I'm very frightened but I have no choice with one breast grade 2 invasive ductile breast cancer plus lots of DCIS. It's ER 8 and PR7 responsive
i have been asked to decide if I want bilateral mx as I have a very strong family history and also decide on immediate or delayed reconstruction. My head is cabbaged and I can't think straight. I dint know if I'll have chemo or rad until after the op.
Any help on on how to decide would be brilliant, although I know it's personal.
you all sound amazingly brave, I'm usually very brave but I feel totally shocked, pathetic and then sometimes in total disbelief.
Francine you are far from a wimp! Ok you may not have actually had chemo but to be honest the amount of time you have been in and out of hospital and being knocked back every step of the way you may as well have so don't give yourself a hard time, I would encourage you to see rads through then whatever happens you know you've done everything you could do, I totally understand how exhausted you must be feeling with it all but after It's just a few more days , you really can do this with oodles of support from us all 😘