Jill, I remember well how you are feeling just now. You want action and speedy action too. It will work out in the end. Once you get grading type etc and the treatment plan you will start to settle and simply get on with it. There are good treatments available so keep positive. Dont read too much on the internet only recent information and wait until you know what you are dealing with. Good luck and take care.
Big breath time right? xxx you will get a lot of support on here - Ive just logged on the first time in many months..was diagnosed in November last year ...bit of a long story but bilateral mx in Jan and just had my fourth chemo (two left). The waiting for a clear treatment plan is very hard and trying to protect others is difficult too. Ditto children doing GCSEs, son in first year at uni and elderly parents who I had to tell over the phone in the end. I remember logging onto this site in a state of blind panic but have met such lovely amazing friends through it and you will too xxx You, your husband, your family will all learn that this is going to be OK xxxxx just wanted to send some hugs as you have just posted and it can feel a very lonely place in those early days. Everyone here definitely understands and there is always someone here who can answer random questions even in the middle of the night, also provide much needed smiles when you feel low. Take it a day at time for now - it does get better x lots love xxxx